Thread: What did you get for Christmas?

Originally Posted by hotwheelstx

I didn't get anything. Aggie received 2-dvd's he's been wanting, a new coffee pot, socks, 5 new shirts, 4 $50.00 gc to Border's, his favorite candies, Aggie flag to hang in his den.

Not to mention our wedding anniversary was on the 15th. Didn't get anything for that either. Aggie received a new keychain, gc to Best Buy for $50.00, new jeans.

His birthday is this month too.....he received his traditional birthday cake (yes, I made it), new mouse for computer, a photo album of the years we've been married, carton of cigarettes, a bottle of rum for his eggnog, delivery from Omaha Steaks (he loves their food).

Yes, I'm upset. I went to a lot of trouble to get everything he wanted for all the celebrations. Brother didn't come over. They spent Christmas w/dw's family.

Aunt is in Thailand visiting her son. I paid my aunt's way to Thailand as one of her gifts. She really wanted to see him. Hopefully she's having a wonderful time.

Just like last year he sees no reason for me to be upset. He says he married me and that's enough. I have jewelery and don't need anymore, Closet full of clothes.

I kept reminding him 2 weeks before Christmas it wasn't the "gift" that counted it was the thought. Guess I'm not worthy of being thought about.


I'm hoping it won't be another viasco like last year when Aggie made an attempt after Christmas to buy me something.....they were all appliances that I didn't want, wouldn't use. I made him take them all back. When he wouldn't or refused I took them back.

He also doesn't feel guilty one bit. If we'd agreed not to buy each other gifts that would of been fine but we didn't.

Still have presents under the tree for nieces and nephews who are coming on Monday. So it will be another Christmas gathering for us.

Happy New Year everybody.

I would sit him down and flat out ask him if he loves me. What kind of man or person can sit there and open the gifts you got him knowing you don't have any. My husband has COPD and can't walk very far but he still got out and went shopping for me. I told him not too but he was like no way are you not going to have presents. Some he bought on the computer others he used the cart you ride to shop. You need to really tell him this is the last year you're going to accept him not buying for you. If it happens again then you'll know he doesn't care anything about you. There wouldn't be a third time after that. I'd just tell him we wont do Christmas. We'll go to other peoples house and visit with family and friends but we wouldn't have one at our house anymore. Its not even about the gifts its about respect and love. You deserve to recognized for all the things you do every day for him. You deserve better than this. If ya'll are having money problems then I can understand not buying but if its just laziness or being a jerk thats something else. I'm not trying to talk about your husband but he needs a major wake up call. What would he do if something happened to you. He's taking you for granted and being really insensitive. As you can tell stuff like this really ticks me off. You're not being selfish for wanting to receive gifts for Christmas and don't let him try to make you feel bad if you say something.

Originally Posted by gmyers

I would sit him down and flat out ask him if he loves me. What kind of man or person can sit there and open the gifts you got him knowing you don't have any. My husband has COPD and can't walk very far but he still got out and went shopping for me. I told him not too but he was like no way are you not going to have presents. Some he bought on the computer others he used the cart you ride to shop. You need to really tell him this is the last year you're going to accept him not buying for you. If it happens again then you'll know he doesn't care anything about you. There wouldn't be a third time after that. I'd just tell him we wont do Christmas. We'll go to other peoples house and visit with family and friends but we wouldn't have one at our house anymore. Its not even about the gifts its about respect and love. You deserve to recognized for all the things you do every day for him. You deserve better than this. If ya'll are having money problems then I can understand not buying but if its just laziness or being a jerk thats something else. I'm not trying to talk about your husband but he needs a major wake up call. What would he do if something happened to you. He's taking you for granted and being really insensitive. As you can tell stuff like this really ticks me off. You're not being selfish for wanting to receive gifts for Christmas and don't let him try to make you feel bad if you say something.

Good post.

@ HotwheelsTx: The next time there was an occasion for gift buying/giving, I would go on a major shopping spree- for myself. Wrap everything up and let him open it all--then I'd gather it all up and go put it up, leaving him without a thing.

my husband (when we were still together...) was the same way, he thought that christmas, birthdays etc... was just another day, he didn't give anything, and he didn't expect anything. I had always bought him things for christmas, and one year I didn't get him one single thing, and low and behold that year he went out and bought several things, that I really did want LOL, and I didn't get him a thing that year LOL.
He was like, really?~ you didn't get me anything? I said yep, you never got me anything every year and I got sick of it so this year I didn't get you anything. Oh well.....

I would stop buying him things, especially nice stuff, it only sets you up to get your feelings hurt worse.