Thread: Would you tell on this jerk?

Gotta go with buttrfli here... BTDT.. and besides the betrayal .. one of the things that hurt the most was being made a fool of. I would tell. Anonymous, or face to face.. doesn't matter.. but it needs to be done. Since you don't really know these people anonymous would probably be better... hubby could be a vindictive type.. better to keep your family safe.

If it were a friend I would but other than that I wouldnt.........you know a lot of times it is the messenger that takes the fall out been there done that and I just pretty much stay out of ppl's lives now

I hate knowing about situations like this. I really haven't decided what I'm going to do. I know for certain if she were a close friend of mine that I would 100% let her know. I went to school with both of them and of course have no clue what their like behind closed doors. I was at my sis's workplace earlier and of course he was there and as I said before, they are not discreet in the least bit, hugging, kissing in front of anyone. I do know one person that knows the wife really well and she knows about this affair also because she works right next door (strip mall) but she has said there is no way she is going to hurt the wife by telling her.

I just wanted to point out by a earlier post that this isn't "gossip". I've seen them suck face and grab butt with my own two eyes LOL

I would tell!
The entire time my husband was married to his ex he had a feeling
something was going on but she would never come clean and nobody
ever said anything to him. After the divorce was final everyone that
knew of the affairs that biotch had came out of the wood work telling
him all this crap of how they knew and they were so sorry that he
had to go through that. He told all those SOB's that what good
does it do me now? You should have told me back when...ya know.
So yes, I would tell in a heart beat, it doesnt just affect the husband it
affects the entire family when the whore is getting away with crap
like that and plus, she/he could pass STD's to her husband. Its not
right plain and simple. Cheating is cheating and the spouse should know!!!

Originally Posted by Kyla Kym

If your friends with them, they will both end up hating you if you tell. Especially if they don't break up. Also if your friend finds out you knew all alone, she will still hate you for not telling her. So best thing is to keep out of it. And not gossip about it so no one has to know that you already knew about it to start with.

And if I didn't really know the people, I dang sure would stay out of it. You go telling on someone like that, you are causing a family with children a whole world of pain by letting the cat out of the bag. And someone just might want to take revenge out on you for it.

If it's really bothering you that badly, I would make sure I was around the next time they showed up kissing all over each other and walk up to him and say something like "Well hi there Teddy! I haven't seen you in a while, how's your wife and kids doing?" Tell your wife to give me a call would you, I've been wanting to talk to her about something?"

You so hit the nail on the head. That's what I would say, stay out of it. You're damned if you tell, you're damned if you don't tell. Stay out of it and let the chips fall where they may. She may already know or at least suspect. She would feel more bad if others knew what was going on.

Gosh I should have read ALL the responses first...............

I'm sorry... but as a person that was cheated on.. and made a fool of.. I have to disagree... and she is not causing the family with children pain.. he is for cheating... and how much pain will there be for them if their mother gets HIV because daddy can't keep it in his pants? Every wife has the right to know.. what they do then.. is on them.. but they should have all the facts.