Thread: who have you lost?

Originally Posted by lisarae

Well, On Friday evening I lost my Pappaw. I spent the whole day at the nursing home with him and my family. This morning was his funeral. Its so hard. It wasnt unexpected, but that really doesn't make it much easier.

When I was pregnant with my son, I lost my other Pappaw. It will be 8 years this November.

Sorry to hear of your loss.

I lost a daughter who was stillborn a son who passed of heart problems my grandfather my BIL to cancer at 40 my FIL a close friend who was in the next room over from the BIL same funeral home who was shot and killed for his car. So many others we had 12 funerals in 1997 to go to all friends of relitives that was a hard year.

I have lost far too many in the past 11 years alone... all the grandparents were already gone by then... but then it started hitting closer to home...

1996 My Dad... he was my hero, I was a total daddysgirl - we played in scrabble tournaments together, he cooked all the time, anything to bring all the family together at the house, he did it. He was famous for his southern fried boneless, skinless chicken breasts. It almost killed me losing him. He died from a mitral valve break... pretty suddenly, he was a head crane operator at Union Carbide metals for 35 years and never missed a days work.

1996 One of my best friends in a house fire. He was awesome... I miss him.

1996 A good friend in a car wreck.

1997 My Dads brother, my uncle (Parkinson's), hubsters Grandpa - poor circulation

1998 My 47 year old BIL, he was at the drag races and died of a heart attack

1999 My Dads oldest sister - basically old age and diabetes

2000 Hubsters cousin, sudden heart attack, hubsters aunt, sudden heart attack

2001 A lady I had known my whole life, and her son... I was best friends with her daughter - she had a heart attack one evening, and, her son was working about 30 miles away, they called him, and he rushed to get to teh hospital, he was killed in a car wreck on the way... she died at almost the same time as him... it was a double funeral, it was unreal.

2002 My godmother, two of our dogs... one 16 and one 12.

2003 My very best friend in my life, she and I were 'blood sisters', we were going to live together when we got older and lost our hubsters... she died of alcoholism.

2004 Hubsters Grandma (old age and diabetes) and another of his aunts - heart attack.

2006 Hubsters other Grandma (old age - kidney failure), another of my dads sisters (colon cancer).


It's only going to continue now.. I have two aunts left, two uncles (all Dads side), four aunts and four uncles on my Moms side... and my Mom, who is in bad shape as well.

Hubster has a LOT of heart attacks in his family history, and that worries me, most all are sudden death. Both his parents are still living, but, in bad shape.


Ya know what I have figured out... you are never 'really' grown up until you lose your parents, because in the back of your mind, you always know they are 'there', like a safety net... and when they're gone... it's all you.
Losing really makes you mature... 15 years ago, all was well ! We were cocky, assuming, even mouthy, 'cause you forget that it all goes away in time.

A very BIGBIG "Deepest Sympathy" to those that have lost loved ones.