Would you have called the police?

**belleofpa** · 03-22-2007, 12:21 PM

My son (age 26) called me a while ago, walking down to the highway (which is 3 miles from his house) with no coat on and in the pouring rain.
His girlfriend (age 25) went off on him yet again. From what he told me, she was swinging a big belt buckle attatched to the belt at him, hit him in the back several times with it. She busted the phone, punched him in the face, threw furniture all over, busted his dresser all up..the list goes on and on.
The whole time, my little 3 yr. old grandaughter is there seeing the whole thing!!!
He said she was all pissed because the baby was getting on her nerves and she just had carpal tunnel surgery yesterday.
He told me she threatened to turn on the gas and kill herself, which by the way isnt the first time she has threatened suicide.
I've been telling him for months that she needs psychological help. He agrees with me but just doesnt know what to do.
Anyhow, he says after he is finally able to get away from her...out the back door because she is blocking the front door... she gets in her car with the baby and follows him up the road. She tells him to "take your f*cking kid so I can go kill myself" He tried to get the baby out of the car and she speeds off doing 100 miles an hour.

I'm 20 miles away and didnt know what to do so I called the State Police and asked them to go check out his house. I gave them his cell # and address.
I guess the police called him and asked him what was going on.
He called me back all p*ssed off because I called the police!! What was I supposed to do? I know he can handle himself but, I was thinking of my grandaughter.

He just called me back as I was writing this and told me the baby is now at her other grandmothers house. He doesnt know if the police went to the house or not as he hasnt gone back there.
I told him I hoped they had gone and that they put the girlfriend in a mental ward.
This crap has been going on for months..the girl needs help. I cant stand the site of her because of the hell she has put my son thru.

So, back to my question.. would you have called the police?

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***buttrfli*** · 03-22-2007, 12:28 PM

um yea.

she has no business being with that baby alone.

**Heidi** · 03-22-2007, 12:43 PM

My goodness! I definately would have called the police and I'm surprised your son didn't call himself. If she is as violent as you are saying she is, he should be getting a restraining order against her for himself and the baby until she gets some help. Sounds as if she might be bi-polar. My Ex-SIL was diagnosed with Bi-polar after my brother and her seperated and he took the kids. He needs to be thinking about his little girl right now and it sounds like her mommy is not the best place for her to be, especially if she's suicidal. What if she really does do it and the baby is there?

**Shann** · 03-22-2007, 12:45 PM

I would have. He can be pissed at you all he wants, someone needs to protect that child and the mother doesn't seem to be the likely candidate. He needs to get his child and leave that girl until she gets help and is mentally capable of dealing w/ the stress around her.

**belleofpa** · 03-22-2007, 12:57 PM

Well, he just called again and asked me to listen to the Police Scanner. Apparently, she called and reported his car as being stolen. He didnt have it when this all took place, her brother borrowed it this afternoon. Thats one of the reasons he was walking in the rain.
I know my little grandaughter shouldnt be with her and I've told him several times to just take her and leave. I tell him to come here and stay, his sister has offered to let him and the baby come to NC to stay with her...I honestly don't understand why he wont just do it.
My nerves are about shot today!!!
Anyone have a valium to spare?

Oh, BTW..he's not pissed at me anymore.

As for being Bi-Polar..She does seem to act like she is having severe manic swings.
I just want to sit here and cry for my son though. He is such a nice kid and would do anything for anybody. He works everyday and provides very well for his little girl.

He's supposed to find out where psycho is and call me back again.

**tljohn123** · 03-22-2007, 01:11 PM

I don't think he should have been mad at you in the first place. You are looking out for his best interest and the baby's best interest. That woman had no business being with that child in the state of mind she was in! I hope the baby is safe and your son is ok and that he get some kind of counseling. I think he needs it. Being in an abusive/controlling relationship is no fun. Good luck and hugs....

**kyswpgrl** · 03-22-2007, 01:17 PM

I'm glad he's not pissed anymore because you definitely did the right thing. That girl has no business being around her child if she's acting like that. I am surprised he left the house without the baby! I certainly wouldn't have!

**belleofpa** · 03-22-2007, 01:31 PM

Originally Posted by kyswpgrl

I'm glad he's not pissed anymore because you definitely did the right thing. That girl has no business being around her child if she's acting like that. I am surprised he left the house without the baby! I certainly wouldn't have!

I dont think it was for lack of trying.

***buttrfli*** · 03-22-2007, 01:54 PM

well someone needs to take that baby out of the house if thats whats going on there. If your son won't do it, then someone else needs to get involved for the sake of that child.

Tell him flat out... get out with the baby or else. He might be pissed, but as long as the baby is safe, who cares?

**nanajoanie** · 03-22-2007, 02:31 PM

My first thought is he was upset with your for reporting that a woman was beating him up, a man. It's embarrassing for a man to admit. Shouldn't be but that's the way it is. And tell your son, get that baby out of harms' way or you will and then do it if needed be. Someone has to watch out for that innocent little girl. If the woman really wants to commit suicide nothing or no one will stop her. Often it's a ploy to get her own way or attention. Still needs to be taken seriously tho.

Sorry you and your son and grankidlette are going thru this S***..............

**belleofpa** · 03-22-2007, 03:14 PM

Well, I'm on the "hate" list again. He called screaming at me about calling the police. Seems now he isnt allowed back into his house to get anything without a police offecer. I guess the GF is at her mothers and she isnt allowed back in either. He's all worried that he is going to get arrested because all the police know is her side of the story. I told him he has to tell them what happened to begin with.
So again, I'm the bad guy. I've been sitting here crying for 2 hours now. If he didnt want me involved then he never should have called to to begin with.

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