UPDATE to my dh leaving

**firechick** · 04-15-2005, 11:33 AM

Well, dh decided that right now we should seperate. I have the kids and he is paying support for us. I have no clue where he is satying but he is still working as we have gone there to see him. He is seeing the counselor and getting helped. He said he doesn't know what he wants anymore. He is very distant and cold to us. I am okay with this but wish that he wouldn't have lied to me. I have help and were making it but I just hate hanging on for dear life trying to not fall off the train so to speak. I did tell him I wanted an answer by a certain timeframe as we should not let things drag on unless he thinks there is a chance he will come home and make things right. Well, thats all I guess just wanted to update ya'll. Thanks for all your well wishes, hugs and prayers they are truly a blessing.
Thanks!
Kelly

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**shellysms** · 04-15-2005, 11:40 AM

((((KELLY))))) I'm truly sorry!!! Wish we were closer!! We'd have a "girl" get together!! thinking of you and your kids!!

**june72** · 04-15-2005, 11:46 AM

hang in there girl-----hold onto God he will get you thru.

**Angel Lips** · 04-15-2005, 12:08 PM

Im truely sorry you have to go through this, hope he makes up his mind soon and will know what he wants. I can only imagine how tough this is on you and the children. My thoughts and prayers are with you. ((((hugs))))

**janelle** · 04-15-2005, 01:37 PM

Is the counselor trying to include you in the process? Any marriage counseling in the future for both of you? Huggs and hope all works out ok for you and the kids.

**roseanntx** · 04-15-2005, 01:51 PM

(((HUGS)))

I loved your answer in 1 of the swap threads the other day.You said something about not letting ANYONE keep you from doing things you enjoy & living life (or something to that effect)!

Also... I loved the line..."I am woman-hear me roar"!!!

YEAH!!!! You go girl!

I know this has got to be rough, but I'm hoping everything turns out OK. Hope you're Ok too!

PS Sometimes when husbands finally decide "what they want", it's no longer available!

**Freebeemom** · 04-15-2005, 05:06 PM

Originally Posted by roseanntx

(((HUGS)))

I loved your answer in 1 of the swap threads the other day.You said something about not letting ANYONE keep you from doing things you enjoy & living life (or something to that effect)!

Also... I loved the line..."I am woman-hear me roar"!!!

YEAH!!!! You go girl!

I know this has got to be rough, but I'm hoping everything turns out OK. Hope you're Ok too!

PS Sometimes when husbands finally decide "what they want", it's no longer available!

Ugh....I am so sorry for you. I hope you are doing well and keeping busy or even getting help for yourself. You should, however, let him take some of the responsibility of taking the kids for a few days.

JMO

**purplerose23** · 04-15-2005, 05:31 PM

Hang on, Kelly....you can do it, we women are built STRONG!!! If you need me, pm or email me anytime!

**schsa** · 04-16-2005, 02:29 PM

Be sure that you are part of the counselling process at some point. Your future is part of this and you need to know what the heck si going on in his head. Counselling for you would help as well. He can't assume that he can walk in and out of your life and that of your children. They are as affected by this as you are.

**Blondiex46** · 04-17-2005, 08:02 AM

I also would be involved in the counseling. I would ask him for the name of the counselor telling him that you would like to see him also. I feel bad for you and am trying not to be cynical, but I would do some checking things out. Good luck

**firechick** · 04-17-2005, 11:03 AM

Ok today I got good news. Dh called at 6am...UGH but I was glad in a way! I have not stopped crying but I am happy! He wanted to take the kids & I to breakfast and he asked if just the two of us could have some time. He made arrangments with his mom to watch the kids. We went down to a park and sat and talked for 3 hours. He said he was soory and that he really does love me. He swears he has never slep with anyone else and that he doesn't have feelings for anyone else. He also said that he wanted to be a family and make this marrige work. He said he wanted to only come home if I wanted him to but that the counselor suggests that he stay somewhere else and we do a "redating" type of thing. So I said I would like that actually and to "start over" with the whole dating process and he said ok. So we talked about what his feeling were and why he felt the way he did and a ton of other stuff. He is not "living" with us. We are going to be starting marriage counseling in the morning with our Pastor. He was crying before we were through talking and said he was sorry to have added more stres to my life and he knew my body did not need thjat. He also said that he was going to take the kids on Tuesday and Wednesday so I could have ME time and he said he was going to send me to a spa. So I am going to get spoiled and feel like a million buck this week and I have my dh back. Girls keep the prayers coming as they are defiantley felt and answered. May each of you know how much you mean to me. I am blessed to "know" you all. I have been feeling icky lately because of my kids sharing thier bug with me (rotovirus)
Kelly

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