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    A snooty millionaire took some of his upper class friends yachting. They passed a deserted island where a man with a long beard and tattered clothes stood, waving his arms and screaming in their direction. "Who is that?" asked the friend.

    "I don't know," said the millionaire, "but every time we sail by he goes crazy."





    Thank goodness most people are more helpful than that! In fact, help is one of the easiest things to get from people -- but for some, one of the hardest to ask for. Are you able to ask for the help you need?

    Cynthia Kersey, in her book UNSTOPPABLE (Sourcebooks, Inc., 1998) tells of one man who asked for help from an unlikely source, and got it! Pole vaulter and two-time Olympic gold medalist, Bob Richards was working to break the pole vaulting record held by Dutch Warmerdam. No matter how he tried, he was still a foot below his goal. Finally, in a bold move, he picked up the phone and called Dutch himself and asked for help. Dutch invited him for a visit, promising to help if he could. And he did. He spent three days coaching Bob and correcting his mistakes. As a result, Bob's performance went up by eight inches.


    Most people will readily help. But they must be asked.

    Entrepreneur Brian Tracy instructs, "Ask for what you want. Ask for help, ask for input, ask for advice and ideas -- but never be afraid to ask." Or like one man is fond of saying, "You don't always get what you ask for, but you never get what you don't ask for (unless it's contagious!)."

    Do you need help? It may be easier to get than you think. Just ask for it!




    © 2001 Steve Goodier
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    FIND AN EXCUSE TO LOVE

    "Some children just need more love."


    I don't know how many times I heard Mrs. Tucker say that.

    Mrs. Tucker was a 73-year-old woman who worked with me in an after-school daycare program that paid me a much-needed stipend while in graduate school. She rarely missed an opportunity to show warmth and affection to a child.

    That part time job was undoubtedly the most difficult position of my life! I felt completely unprepared for the work; I had no training and my temperament was such that it seemed all I could do to simply not to "lose it" with the kids. Exacerbating the problem was the fact that this after school program was operated by a church board that believed that NO CHILD should be turned away. I applauded the sentiment, but soon discovered that children who HAD been turned away by other facilities in the city, primarily because of serious behavioral problems, found their way to us.

    I reminded myself that I was hired to watch the children, play with them and lead arts and crafts -- not to fix them. And my only help was Mrs. Tucker, a 73-year-old retired social worker who ran the operation. All that stood between the kids and disaster was me and a 73-year-old woman! And I wasn't a sturdy defense! But Mrs. Tucker was. "Some children just need more love," she would always say. A case in point was Timmy. This young boy received special help at school for emotional problems. He was developmentally delayed, medicated enough to be able to "hold it together" most of the time, and came to us with a self esteem "lower than a snake's belly" (to borrow a southern American expression from the hills near Timmy's home). He often fought with the other children and was a compulsive hair-puller.

    I couldn't get close to Timmy -- he did not trust anyone. Anyone, that is, except Mrs. Tucker. He genuinely loved her and she loved him. One day Timmy was screaming and fighting with one of the kids. He had the boy on the ground and was pulling his hair with both fists. I separated them and Mrs. Tucker directed Timmy to sit down in a chair. He thought it was unfair that he, and not the other child, should be punished for fighting. He screamed, "I HATE YOU, Mrs. Tucker! You're a mean, old lady! I hate you!"

    "I know you hate me right now, Timmy," she said firmly, "but I'm sure not going to let you pull the other children's hair."

    After a while, Timmy calmed down and Mrs. Tucker called him over. His cheeks were still dirty and tear-streaked. I could not hear their conversation, but I saw Timmy put his arms around her neck. When I walked by I heard him say softly, "I'm sorry I called you a mean old lady, Mrs. Tucker." I knew he meant it.

    A little later Mrs. Tucker said to me, "Timmy just needs more love than the other children." And she was right.




    The Bible says, "There is a time to love and a time to hate." I've learned that our world will readily give us an excuse to hate. We will always have a good reason to dislike that difficult person, that political party, that religious group…. But will you find an excuse to love? It changes the world.


    Most any excuse will do.





    @ Steve Goodier
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    Are you ever disturbed by memories? Wouldn't it be nice to simply click the delete key and erase the pain while leaving only happy recol_lections?


    Ilike the story of the minister who passed along to a beginning pastor a trick he used when he noticed the congregation nodding off.


    "I suddenly say to them, 'Last night I held another man's wife in my arms.' And, when eve_ry___one sits up shocked, I continue, 'It was my own dear mother.'"


    The young preacher liked it and was ready the following Sunday when most of his congrega_tion was drowsing. He said in a loud voice, "You know, last night I held another man's wife in my arms."

    Stunned, the congregation sat bolt upright and stared.

    Unnerved, the young preacher stam_mered, "Oh dear -- I've forgotten who she was."




    ave you ever wanted to take back an em_barrassing moment, a hasty decision, or a word spoken in the heat of anger? The problem is, some things can't be taken back! Some hurts cannot be undone. And unfortunately, no delete key can correct the past so that memories no longer hurt, frighten or humiliate.


    The past is what it is -- past.

    And that, too, is good to remember. It is past. Over. Finished. There is no taking it back, yet no purpose is served in re-living and rehashing old memories. It is gone. Let it be a teacher. Let us learn from its harsh les_sons as well as its joys. Then let us leave it where it be_longs -- in the past.



    Today...can you put the past in the past?


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    This reading is found in Steve Goodier's popular book ONE MINUTE CAN CHANGE A LIFE : 60-second readings of hope and encouragement.
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    There are two kinds of people: those who say to God, "Thy Will be done," and those to who God says, "All right, then, have it your way!"

    - C.S. Lewis
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    NO MORE PROBLEM

    One man exclaimed to his friend, "I just had another fight with my wife!"

    "Oh, yeah?" the friend said. "And how did this one end?"

    "When it was over," he replied, "she came to me on her hands and knees."

    His friend looked puzzled. "Really? Now that's a switch! What did she say?"

    "I think she said something like, 'Come out from under that bed, you gutless weasel.'"




    Before your conflict escalates to that point, consider trying to solve your problem creatively. The novel, and sometimes humorous, approach is often the most effective!

    A few years ago, I caught a story on the radio about a Baptist church that had a problem. It was with the Methodists down the street. Some Baptists were unable to find a space in their own parking lot because members of the nearby Methodist church, which met earlier than the Baptists, got there first. So the Baptist church had a problem.

    Now, they could have towed the Methodists' cars away. Or they could have patrolled their lot Sunday mornings. Or they could have written a letter to the offending church members imploring them to park elsewhere.

    But they didn't.

    Instead, they did something else.

    One Sunday morning they stuck a bumper sticker to every car in the lot -- Baptist and Methodist alike.

    They all got one.

    The sticker read: "I'm Proud To Be A Baptist!"



    No more problem.



    Maybe that problem you are confronting will be solved more quickly and more effectively if you consider a more creative and humorous approach. What have you got to lose...except your ulcer?

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    This reading is found in Steve Goodier's popular book : "A LIFE THAT MAKES A DIFFERENCE : 60-second readings that truly matter"
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    Thanks Jolie, all those are good.

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    ONE LIGHT

    Imagine an artist painting a winter scene. She depicts a white, frozen ground and evergreens draped in snow. Her hand brings the day to a close as she paints night falling on the canvas. In the deep shadows of dusk, she has painted a grim, log cabin, barely visible to the casual observer.

    Then she dips her brush in yellow paint and, with a few quick strokes, places a brightly burning lamp in one of the cabin's windows. Warm rays dance on white snow, now made brighter by the light. The lonely lamp wholly changes the tone of the picture, replacing feelings of dark and gloom with warmth and security.

    Edith Wharton has said that there are two ways of spreading the light: to be the candle or the mirror that reflects it. Sometimes we are candles. We shed light of love and hope. We shine encour_agement into dark souls. Or we illuminate with in_sight.

    But sometimes we reflect the light. We are mirrors to enable others to see the light of their own goodness and beauty. And when we have no other light of our own, we are mirrors which re_flect a greater Light.

    For some, the world can be bleak and cold. They feel frightened, lonely and even hopeless. But it's true that no amount of darkness can extin_guish the light of one, small candle. You?



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    This reading can be found in Steve Goodier's book:: RICHES OF THE HEART : Sixty-Second Readings that Make a Difference
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    > Who's your daddy?

    A seminary professor was vacationing with his wife in Gatlinburg, TN. One morning, they were eating breakfast at little restaurant, hoping to enjoy a quiet, family meal. While they were waiting for their food, they noticed a distinguished looking, white-haired man moving from table to table, visiting with the guests.

    The professor leaned over and whispered to his wife, "I hope he doesn't come over here." But sure enough, the man did come over to their table.

    "Where are you folks from?" he asked in a friendly voice.

    "Oklahoma," they answered.

    "Great to have you here in Tennessee," the stranger said. "What do you do for a living?"

    "I teach at a seminary," he replied.

    "Oh, so you teach preachers how to preach, do you? Well, I've got a really great story for you." And with that, the gentleman pulled up a chair and sat down at the table with the couple.

    The professor groaned and thought to himself,"Great... Just what I need... another preacher story!"

    The man started, "See that mountain over there? (pointing out the restaurant window). Not far from the base of that mountain, there was a boy born to an unwed mother. He had a hard time growing up, because every place he went, he was always asked the same question, 'Hey boy, Who's your daddy?' Whether he was at school, in the grocery store or drug store, people would ask the same question, 'Who's your daddy?' He would hide at recess and lunchtime from other students. He would avoid going in to stores because that question hurt him so bad. When he was about 12 years old, a new preacher came to his church. He would always go in late and slip out early to avoid hearing the question, 'Who's your daddy?'

    But one day, the new preacher said the benediction so fast he got caught and had to walk out with the crowd. Just about the time he got to the back door, the new preacher, not knowing anything about him, put his hand on his shoulder and asked him, Son, who's your daddy? The whole church got deathly quiet. He could feel every eye in the church looking at him. Now everyone would finally know the answer to the question, 'Who's your daddy?'.

    This new preacher, though, sensed the situation around him & using discernment that only the Holy Spirit could give, said the following to that scared little boy..." Wait a minute!' he said. ''I know who you are. I see the family resemblance now. You are a child of God.'' With that he patted the boy on his shoulder and said, Boy, you've got a great inheritance. Go and claim it. "

    With that, the boy smiled for the first time in a long time and walked out the door a changed person. He was never the same again. Whenever anybody asked him, 'Who's your Daddy?' he'd just tell them, 'I'm a Child of God'."

    The distinguished gentleman got up from the table and said, "Isn't that a great story?" The professor responded that it really was a great story!

    As the man turned to leave, he said, "You know, if that new preacher hadn't told me that I was one of God's children, I probably never would have amounted to anything!" And he walked away.

    The seminary professor and his wife were stunned. He called the waitress over &asked her, "Do you know who that man was who just left that was sitting at our table?"

    The waitress grinned and said, "Of course. Everybody here knows him. That's Ben Hooper. He's the former governor of Tennessee!"



    Someone in your life today needs a reminder that they're one of God's children!

    "The grass withers and the flowers fall, but the word of God stands forever." ~~Isaiah
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    Thumbs up LIVING WITH ROMANCE

    One woman tells this story about her parents. She says that they had
    not been out together in quite some time. One Saturday, as her mother
    was finishing the dinner dishes, her father stepped up behind her.

    "Would you like to go out, girl?" he asked.

    Not even turning around, her mother quickly replied, "Oh, yes, I'd
    love to!"

    They had a wonderful evening, and it wasn't until the end of it that
    her dad confessed. His question had actually been directed to the
    family dog, lying near her mom's feet on the kitchen floor.

    When should romance flicker and die from a caring relationship? When a
    couple decides to marry? Or after children are born? Or during the
    mature years?

    I love the attitude of one woman who believed her life should never be
    without romance. She found herself seated at a banquet next to a
    gentleman in his eighties -- about her age. She stared at him until
    she had his attention.

    Finally, she said, "Please forgive me for staring at you like this,
    but I can't help it. You see, you look exactly like my third husband!"

    "Oh," he responded. "How many times have you been married?"

    With a warm smile and a twinkle in her eye, she patted his hand and
    answered, "Twice!"

    Many find love, but some will also find romance -- and keep it.
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    This reading is found in Steve Goodier's popular book : TOUCHING MOMENTS : 60-second readings that touch the mind and heart.
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    Speaking of romance, Rita Rudner says, "When I meet a man I ask
    myself, 'Is this the man I want my children to spend their weekends
    with?'"
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    WHEN LOVE IS FOR REAL

    Two lovers were talking and she said to him, "I don't have a lot of money. I don't have a brand new sports car and a yacht like Lisa Turner, but I love you with all my heart."

    He said to her, "I love you, too. But tell me more about Lisa Turner."

    Tennessee Williams might have said that he had "all the sincerity of a bird-hunter's whis_tle."


    If love is anything, I believe it must be genuine. It must be sincere. That word "sincere" has some interesting roots. I'm told it comes from the ancient marble quarries of Rome. Apparently, unscrupulous stone dealers covered the marble's imperfections with wax. The practice eventually became illegal, as the Roman Empire certified that all marble must be "sine cera" or "sincerus," meaning without wax -- genuine. So, to be sincere is to be genuine. And love, at its best, is likewise "free of deceit," or genuine.

    Genuine love is for real. And it's the stuff whole and happy lives are built on.


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    This reading is found in Steve Goodier's popular book : JOY ALONG THE WAY : 60-second readings that make the trip worthwhile
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