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Jolie Rouge
02-10-2011, 03:21 PM
by Reader's Digest Magazine, on Wed Feb 2, 2011 9:32am PST1293

What would two dozen servers from across the country tell you if they could get away with it? Well, for starters, when to go out, what not to order, what really happens behind the kitchen’s swinging doors, and what they think of you and your tips. Here, from a group that clears a median $8.01 an hour in wages and tips, a few revelations that aren’t on any menu.

What you should know on Valentine's Day

1. Make reservations early. Restaurants usually don't have an abundance of tables for two. We need to time to plan where to put everyone. You'll get a better table and we'll be prepared.

2. Don't propose. It's so cliché. But if you do, warn us first. We'll put you in the corner. Nothing's worse than a crying woman in the center of the restaurant. Trust me.

3. Since Valentine's Day is on a Monday this year, go out on Friday or Saturday. Most restaurants will also serve their special Valentine's Day menu on those days. Or go out for brunch! Then you can sleep the rest of the day.
—Waiters at Bernard's in Ridgefield, CT

What we lie about

4. We’re not allowed to tell our customers we don’t like a dish. So if you ask your server how something is and she says, “It’s one of our most popular dishes,” chances are she doesn’t like it.
—Waitress at a well-known pizza chain

5. If someone orders a frozen drink that’s annoying to make, I’ll say, “Oh, we’re out. Sorry!” when really I just don’t want to make it. But if you order water instead of another drink, suddenly we do have what you originally wanted because I don’t want to lose your drink on the bill.
—Waitress at a casual Mexican restaurant in Manhattan

What you don’t want to know
6. When I was at one bakery restaurant, they used to make this really yummy peach cobbler in a big tray. A lot of times, servers don’t have time to eat. So we all kept a fork in our aprons, and as we cruised through the kitchen, we’d stick our fork in the cobbler and take a bite. We’d use the same fork each time.
—Kathy Kniss

7. If you make a big fuss about sending your soup back because it’s not hot enough, we like to take your spoon and run it under really hot water, so when you put the hot spoon in your mouth, you’re going to get the impression — often the very painful impression — that your soup is indeed hot.
—Chris

8. We put sugar in our kids' meals so kids will like them more. Seriously. We even put extra sugar in the dough for the kids' pizzas.
-Waitress at a well-known pizza chain

What drives us crazy

9. Oh, you needed more water so badly, you had to snap or tap or whistle? I’ll be right back … in ten minutes.
—Charity Ohlund

10. The single greatest way to get your waiter to hate you? Ask for hot tea. For some reason, an industry that’s managed to streamline everything else hasn’t been able to streamline that. You've got to get a pot, boil the water, get the lemons, get the honey, bring a cup and spoon. It’s a lot of work for little reward.
-Christopher Fehlinger, maître d’ at a popular New York City restaurant


What we want you to know

11. Sometimes, if you’ve been especially nice to me, I’ll tell the bartender, “Give me a frozen margarita, and don’t put it in.” That totally gyps the company, but it helps me because you’ll give it back to me in tips, and the management won’t know the difference.
—Waitress at a casual Mexican restaurant in Manhattan

12. If you’re having a disagreement over dinner and all of a sudden other servers come by to refill your water or clear your plates, or you notice a server slowly refilling the salt and pepper shakers at the table next to yours, assume that we’re listening.


How to be a good customer

13. Use your waiter’s name. When I say, “Hi, my name is JR, and I’ll be taking care of you,” it’s great when you say, “Hi, JR. How are you doing tonight?” Then, the next time you go in, ask for that waiter. He may not remember you, but if you requested him, he’s going to give you really special service.

14. Trust your waitress. Say something like “Hey, it’s our first time in. We want you to create an experience for us. Here’s our budget.” Your server will go crazy for you.
— Charity Ohlund

What you need to know about tipping

15. If you walk out with the slip you wrote the tip on and leave behind the blank one, the server gets nothing. It happens all the time, especially with people who’ve had a few bottles of wine.

http://shine.yahoo.com/channel/life/15-secrets-your-waiter-will-never-tell-you-2447556/


See also : http://www.rd.com/slideshows/7-secrets-waiters-wont-tell-you-when-dining-out-on-valentines-day/

Jolie Rouge
02-10-2011, 03:36 PM
10 Foods Not to Order on a Valentine’s Day Date
By Liz Kennedy

Heading out to a romantic Valentine’s Day dinner? Whether it’s your first date or you’ve been married for 20 years, do yourself and your date a favor and don’t order any of these mood-killer meals:

Beans: The more you eat them the more you… enough said.

Whole lobster/crab: This one is from personal experience. It’s hard to look at someone romantically while they are ripping apart a creature from the bottom of the sea with their bare hands.

Spinach: It will end up stuck in your teeth.

Garlic bread: Unless, of course, your date is eating it as well.

Wings and ribs: Any menu item that comes with a Wet Nap should be avoided at all costs.

Spaghetti and meatballs: Let’s be honest, the date is not going to turn out like Lady and the Tramp. Instead, it’s more likely to end up like Lady and the Spaghetti Sauce in Her Lap.

Hamburgers bigger than your mouth: It won’t be pretty to watch.

Spicy foods: If you need to use your napkin as a sweat rag, the meal is too spicy for a Valentine’s dinner date.

Soup: Slurping sounds are not romantic.

Dollar menu: If you’re going to take your date to a fast-food joint for Valentine’s Day, at least make it romantic and super-size it.

http://www.rd.com/food/10-foods-not-to-order-on-a-valentines-day-date/

Jolie Rouge
02-10-2011, 03:36 PM
Valentine's Day scams: Of Cupid and cons
Donna Porter – Wed Feb 9, 8:44 pm ET

Valentine's Day aficionados as well as the romantically challenged may be targets of either Cupid or a con. In the latter case, Valentine's Day scams centering around Feb. 14 are common. Though online fraud predates Facebook by more than a decade, social media networks offer a creative platform to dupe both the desperate and distracted alike.

Holiday centric e-mail scams remain effective as usual, reports the Better Business Bureau, as are those involving online dating sites.

The most common schemes include fake e-cards and bogus advertisements promoting holiday appropriate gifts such as florists and chocolatiers. Hasty shoppers may be less cautious than usual and miss the flags that indicate a commercial website is not what it appears.

Other scams are a bit more involved.

Consider for instance a Horrey, England, woman who learned just how much love scams hurt and cost -- £150,000 in her case, reports the BBC, not counting the emotional investment.

The unidentified victim was duped by a man posing as a U.S. solider, an imposter she met online. After developing a long-distance relationship with him, the woman fell victim to his claim that he needed funds to buy his way out of the U.S. Army in Afghanistan, to relocate to the U.K.

Multiple crimes of this nature have been reported in the area by Surrey Police and at least one case involved a woman who received what was described as "official (looking) U.S. Army paperwork."

While we might fancy ourselves intelligent or disinterested in online dating, these core tactics -- involving fake identities, have proven successful for years, be it on Facebook, Craigslist or OKCupid.

The aforementioned criminals were skilled in "building relationships" and "preyed on often vulnerable victims." They spent weeks "grooming" themselves in an effort to convince their target they were interested in "genuine romance," according to Detective Inspector Richard Hamlin of Surrey Police's Economic Crime Unit.

How scam artists pull it off

Online directories like Spokeo make finding out people's likes and dislikes and their personal information easier, gathering data from multiple sites and making it publicly available. One doesn't have to explicitly write about the partner of their dreams for a fraudster to take advantage of this.

A clever con will piece together seemingly unrelated information, from hobbies to blog comments, to fill in the blanks.

How to minimize your risk

These tips, inspired in part by the BBB, can help minimize your risk:

* Instead of clicking on a link, look up the name of the alleged sender or business; type in the web address when commerce is involved: when ordering flowers, for example.

* Keep virus software updated.

* Avoid e-cards from unknown sources and those that require a download or "update" to view.

* Verify and adjust your privacy settings on social media sites like Facebook.

Otherwise, consumers and lovers both can enjoy the holiday of love, shop or even 'date' online without much fear in most cases. Besides a few precautions, just think twice about keeping your wallet close to your heart.

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