hblueeyes
09-13-2009, 10:39 AM
To get people to just leave me alone.
My brother got married last sunday. I did not go, partly because I am not a fan of my bro and my sis was gonna be there. For over 15 years, I ran errands for her, walked her stupid dogs, sometimes for 2 weeks while she was away. I took out her garbage, a must with every visit, used my van instead of her paying delivery charges on stuff and never got a nickle in gas. She is a hard person to get along with but she is 9 years older than me, extremely obese, and alone. She has had my boys wash her condo windows, she paid $5, and would have me put air in her tires because she could not. I had keys to her place and had to run to blow out candles, turn off the oven, let the maintainance man in etc. Never got nothing but I also never asked. Well, we had a falling out, (found in another post of mine on this board) and I told her. I was done with her.
It turns out at the wedding all she could do was talk about me and my family. I do not know what was said but it must have been pretty bad because my mons oldest sister tried calling her and we were not here. My Aunt then called my sis and my sis came to my house and was being ignorant, indignant and rude to hubby about where her mother was. It turns out, I pulled in the driveway while she was doing this. She made it seem as if we are abusing her and keeping her from people. WTH. I have asked my brother to take her for a weekend every couple of months. Has he? NO. Has my sis? NO. She needs other contact besides us. She needs a break from us and us from her. It would help her mentaly. The last time my sis called my mom besides after my aunt called her was in march or april. My bro calls only when he wants something. My aunt has called my mom 1 time in 31/2 years. Moms other sis and her talk a couple times a week.
The thing is, they all saw her 5 days earlier at the wedding. She looked like a million bucks and she got many compliments on how good and young she looks but mostly about her hair. My hubby did it. Hubby thinks I am making much ado about nothing but I say, multiply her attitude times 100 then by 3 (for the other siblings) and that is what we will have to deal with when something happens to her or its her time to meet her maker. I am concerned because what if she slips and falls? They will be accusing us of chit and if not me or hubby maybe one of my kids will get accused.
I told her that if she does not do something then we will have to leave. I do not need this added stress.
Plus my sis talks about everybody. I feel like calling the family and passing along all the crap she has said about them over the years. (They have no clue because they think she is wonderful and perfect.) The only way I could know is because of her since I do not go to family functions often unless it is a death or wedding. But I am usually not invited but I now know why.
Should I stoop to her level? I want to on the one hand but do not want to hurt peoples feelings on the other. I know from what she has said that repeating them would be very hurtful to them.
TIA
Me
My brother got married last sunday. I did not go, partly because I am not a fan of my bro and my sis was gonna be there. For over 15 years, I ran errands for her, walked her stupid dogs, sometimes for 2 weeks while she was away. I took out her garbage, a must with every visit, used my van instead of her paying delivery charges on stuff and never got a nickle in gas. She is a hard person to get along with but she is 9 years older than me, extremely obese, and alone. She has had my boys wash her condo windows, she paid $5, and would have me put air in her tires because she could not. I had keys to her place and had to run to blow out candles, turn off the oven, let the maintainance man in etc. Never got nothing but I also never asked. Well, we had a falling out, (found in another post of mine on this board) and I told her. I was done with her.
It turns out at the wedding all she could do was talk about me and my family. I do not know what was said but it must have been pretty bad because my mons oldest sister tried calling her and we were not here. My Aunt then called my sis and my sis came to my house and was being ignorant, indignant and rude to hubby about where her mother was. It turns out, I pulled in the driveway while she was doing this. She made it seem as if we are abusing her and keeping her from people. WTH. I have asked my brother to take her for a weekend every couple of months. Has he? NO. Has my sis? NO. She needs other contact besides us. She needs a break from us and us from her. It would help her mentaly. The last time my sis called my mom besides after my aunt called her was in march or april. My bro calls only when he wants something. My aunt has called my mom 1 time in 31/2 years. Moms other sis and her talk a couple times a week.
The thing is, they all saw her 5 days earlier at the wedding. She looked like a million bucks and she got many compliments on how good and young she looks but mostly about her hair. My hubby did it. Hubby thinks I am making much ado about nothing but I say, multiply her attitude times 100 then by 3 (for the other siblings) and that is what we will have to deal with when something happens to her or its her time to meet her maker. I am concerned because what if she slips and falls? They will be accusing us of chit and if not me or hubby maybe one of my kids will get accused.
I told her that if she does not do something then we will have to leave. I do not need this added stress.
Plus my sis talks about everybody. I feel like calling the family and passing along all the crap she has said about them over the years. (They have no clue because they think she is wonderful and perfect.) The only way I could know is because of her since I do not go to family functions often unless it is a death or wedding. But I am usually not invited but I now know why.
Should I stoop to her level? I want to on the one hand but do not want to hurt peoples feelings on the other. I know from what she has said that repeating them would be very hurtful to them.
TIA
Me