I feel so sad!

[dinosmom]

My ex and his fiance's baby died over the weekend. She was 8 months pregnant and the pregnancy had been considered hi risk from the start. Over the weekend she stopped feeling the baby move. Ultrasound confirmed their little girl had died. My heart is just breaking for them.

Anyone know what I can do for them? I feel like I need to DO something.

[Anniston]

So sorry to hear that. I don't know what their needs would be, but I am sure that a nice card, with maybe a hot meal sent over would be nice. Again, sorry to hear about this. Getting to 8 months is so far along, I am sure that they had the highest of hopes for the pregnancy to end well, despite the risk.

[BeanieLuvR]

That is so sad. :( I prayed for them. I think letting them know how sorry you are and taking some food would be nice.

[fleabones3]

Oh that is horrible. Maybe a card and a nice plant

[mosdata1]

A card is good, and if you can make a meal, or 2 so she doesn't have to cook when she gets home.

[evrita]

Be there for support let them know you will be there if she needs to talk. Dont say I know how you feel unless you have been there yourself. Dont look at her like you puity her she all ready feel like somehow this was her fault to begin with even though it wasnt.

Maybe make a donation in her childs memory then give her the card of where you made it to.

Another thing is this book way back when helped me a lot It is called When Hello means Goodbye http://www.amazon.com/gp/customer-media/product-gallery/0961519703/ref=cm_ciu_pdp_images_all

[hotdoglove]

That is sad. I agree with making them meals for a day or two.

[diana_circe]

My hubby's friend and his wife just had this happen a few weeks back. Its really difficult, but maybe just expressing your sympathy would be appropriate. Unless you are close to her, or both of them.

[Mini]

I think it depends on what your relationship is like with them. If you're close or talk alot then Id go with the meals and card thing if you werent close then maybe like diana said just let them know your sympathys and that youll be there if they need you(if youre willing to do that of course)

[hotwheelstx]

I would make a donation in the child's name. This is so sad. I will keep them in my thoughts.

I also would set up a website about the woman's pregnancy, show ultrasound photo's, photo's of her pregnant and so on. Might help work thru the grief.

[jasmine]

that would be just devestating, to get that far along....... gosh. I am so sorry to hear this.
I don't know what your relationship is like, and what you would do/react, since you had mentioned this was your ex and his fiance. I guess your the one that knows.......
My thoughts and prayers are with them.

[Quaker_Parrots]

That is so sad. the part that makes it even more tragic is the fact I am sure they induced her and she had to deliver the baby. Poor woman.

[iluvmybaby]

My ex and his fiance's baby died over the weekend. She was 8 months pregnant and the pregnancy had been considered hi risk from the start. Over the weekend she stopped feeling the baby move. Ultrasound confirmed their little girl had died. My heart is just breaking for them.

Anyone know what I can do for them? I feel like I need to DO something.

How sad, I am so sorry for her loss.

[evrita]

That is so sad. the part that makes it even more tragic is the fact I am sure they induced her and she had to deliver the baby. Poor woman.

Yeah it sucks going thru all that labor I was in labor for 4 days just to know in the end you wont get to hear your baby cry.

[jasmine]

I wonder why they make the woman go through that? I mean, to go through the whole process of labor pains, pushing etc..... why don't they schedule a c-section, I know it's not any easier emotionally for the mother, but atleast she wouldn't be working so hard to give birth......

[june5917]

this is just terrible. I will be 38 weeks pregnant on friday myself, and i could not imagine anything happening to my baby. i think the best thing would to let the family deal with their grief and let them know you are there no matter what.

[moe265]

January will be 24 years ago that I lost my first child at 9 months pregnant. The most important thing I can tell you is.. say something... so many people say nothing because either they don't know what to say, which is understandable, or think it's best not to bring it up. Let them know that you are willing to listen if they need to talk.

[dinosmom]

Thanks everyone for the advice. They had a memorial service and it was just really sad. They had a picture of the baby after she was delivered and she looked so perfect! I cant imagine how hard this all has been for them! She is in her mid forties and this was probably her only chance to have a child. (now the drs do not believe she can carry a pregnancy to full term) And yes, she had to go thru labor and everything. Heartwrenching! I miscarried over 13 yrs ago and that was pretty tramatic for me but NOTHING like that.

I ended up just letting them know that I am there for them etc and I made a few meals that they could freeze and make later. I also offered to help with household chores if they needed it because I know she was not feeling well and Dom is kind of domestically challenged at a few things.