WendyLou75
05-04-2009, 09:02 PM
Well apparently the fact that we've been DIVORCED for a freaking YEAR now means nothing to the moron... I haven't seen him in person for over 5 months, and the last time we talked, I *actually* got along with him and had a civil conversation, I even kinda like his new girlfriend - I've known her as long as I've known him.
But now he wants to talk ****, and why you ask, because he found out through the grapevine that I am engaged to a man who actually: 1. has a full time job that pays well AND has his own car AND can afford to pay his bills, 2. is even tempered/not psychotic and 3. actually loves me for me and actually finds me rather sexy. ;)
As I understand it, him and his currently gf, who he was with while we were getting divorced - and oh yes, that was brought up in Divorce Court - split up for a while and he was fully expecting me to contact one of them and be like "ha ha ha" but I said nothing, and didn't actually find out about it until last week and it happened 2 months ago. That's how OUT OF THE LOOP I am regarding him.
I've posted about this before but he's still flapping his gums about how I should pay 1/2 of the divorce -the divorce that was final uh a YEAR ago! WTF? I did pay my part - most of you know this. I went through the Legal Aid Dept. and did a Pro Se divorce. I paid the $47.50, I filed the paper work, I am the one who practically lived at the Chancery Court office AFTER it was all said and done to make sure I didn't have to pay the court fees. And after reading and re-reading my FINAL DECREE it says that he absolutely has to pay. I even called the Chancery court today and talked to the clerk yet again, she knows me well now. :) She even pulled my Final Decree out, read it out loud, and then asked me if he could even read and was he stupid. LMAO! He only owes $130!!! That's IT! His girlfriend is a private care nurse, and he's in nursing school - supposedly...it's POCKET change to them. Jenni (the gf) has told me that over and over again... in person, on the phone before I got the # changed, in email... and they REFUSE to pay.
In fact Thursday night, my best friend and her husband were out and Tim and Jenni showed up. JENNI, not Tim, JENNI came over to Mary and said "So is Wendy going to pay her half of the divorce?" and Mary says "I don't know what you're talking about, I've never has that discussion with her before" and Jenni says "Well REMIND her who MY Dad is and that Tim WILL get a lawyer"... and Mary actually laughed - out of being nervous mostly - and said "Sure..." and walked off.
Now #1. I don't care who HER Dad is because SHE has NOTHING to do with this. Her dumb ass was stupid enough to show up to DIVORCE COURT with Tim and his MOMMY.
#2. HE already paid $50 over the course of a YEAR but hey who's counting right? So that shows intent to pay... and in fact I found out today that he set up a PAYMENT ARRANGEMENT several months ago to stop them from going after his ass. The police have already been out to find him 2x so far.
The Chancery court already sent out a couple of documents... and he won't respond, and of course who ever answers the door has never seen him, etc.
GRRR! So today she tells me that their hands are tied at the court house because they've sent out every legal document they can send now and until they get fresh info (where he's working - and he's not working, big surprise there or a new address) they can't do anything else. I could be a ***** and try contempt of court but I don't know... :getyou
#3. He really doesn't want to cause a confrontation with my fiance'. *grins* I honestly think he's incredibly miserable at the idea of me being happy because most of the last year I've been in and out of bad relationships, it's only been in the last 5 months that I've settled down a lot and I really feel good about this relationship - good enough to marry him. ;) I believe due to Mary and Bill (my bf and her dh) running in the same circle, they know that John has a GREAT job, we're financially secure for the most part and it's going to get a whole hell of a lot better because I got a job at the same place John works making more than I ever have in my life, I am also selling AVON and I'm an E-Rep too. Me and John argue but nothing major and even if we do, we make up rather quickly. So there's NO drama here at all 90% of the time. It was only in the beginning of the relationship that we had issues because we were just getting to know each other and it took me quite a while to trust him because of how badly Tim treated me, and he had been a bachelor for quite a while and was set in his ways and not used to a woman being at the house almost 24/7. Anyways, John's treated me better the last 5 months than Tim ever did in the time we were together (Oct. 1999 to April 2008).
Shew this is long... but I just had to get this out... because I've talked to John about it, shown him the Final Decree and now he's just plain pissed off about the whole thing. He's having trouble grasping that Tim really is that immature because John's 41 and Tim's 31 so he believes, like the rest of us, that Tim should get over it and just pay the damn bill.
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But now he wants to talk ****, and why you ask, because he found out through the grapevine that I am engaged to a man who actually: 1. has a full time job that pays well AND has his own car AND can afford to pay his bills, 2. is even tempered/not psychotic and 3. actually loves me for me and actually finds me rather sexy. ;)
As I understand it, him and his currently gf, who he was with while we were getting divorced - and oh yes, that was brought up in Divorce Court - split up for a while and he was fully expecting me to contact one of them and be like "ha ha ha" but I said nothing, and didn't actually find out about it until last week and it happened 2 months ago. That's how OUT OF THE LOOP I am regarding him.
I've posted about this before but he's still flapping his gums about how I should pay 1/2 of the divorce -the divorce that was final uh a YEAR ago! WTF? I did pay my part - most of you know this. I went through the Legal Aid Dept. and did a Pro Se divorce. I paid the $47.50, I filed the paper work, I am the one who practically lived at the Chancery Court office AFTER it was all said and done to make sure I didn't have to pay the court fees. And after reading and re-reading my FINAL DECREE it says that he absolutely has to pay. I even called the Chancery court today and talked to the clerk yet again, she knows me well now. :) She even pulled my Final Decree out, read it out loud, and then asked me if he could even read and was he stupid. LMAO! He only owes $130!!! That's IT! His girlfriend is a private care nurse, and he's in nursing school - supposedly...it's POCKET change to them. Jenni (the gf) has told me that over and over again... in person, on the phone before I got the # changed, in email... and they REFUSE to pay.
In fact Thursday night, my best friend and her husband were out and Tim and Jenni showed up. JENNI, not Tim, JENNI came over to Mary and said "So is Wendy going to pay her half of the divorce?" and Mary says "I don't know what you're talking about, I've never has that discussion with her before" and Jenni says "Well REMIND her who MY Dad is and that Tim WILL get a lawyer"... and Mary actually laughed - out of being nervous mostly - and said "Sure..." and walked off.
Now #1. I don't care who HER Dad is because SHE has NOTHING to do with this. Her dumb ass was stupid enough to show up to DIVORCE COURT with Tim and his MOMMY.
#2. HE already paid $50 over the course of a YEAR but hey who's counting right? So that shows intent to pay... and in fact I found out today that he set up a PAYMENT ARRANGEMENT several months ago to stop them from going after his ass. The police have already been out to find him 2x so far.
The Chancery court already sent out a couple of documents... and he won't respond, and of course who ever answers the door has never seen him, etc.
GRRR! So today she tells me that their hands are tied at the court house because they've sent out every legal document they can send now and until they get fresh info (where he's working - and he's not working, big surprise there or a new address) they can't do anything else. I could be a ***** and try contempt of court but I don't know... :getyou
#3. He really doesn't want to cause a confrontation with my fiance'. *grins* I honestly think he's incredibly miserable at the idea of me being happy because most of the last year I've been in and out of bad relationships, it's only been in the last 5 months that I've settled down a lot and I really feel good about this relationship - good enough to marry him. ;) I believe due to Mary and Bill (my bf and her dh) running in the same circle, they know that John has a GREAT job, we're financially secure for the most part and it's going to get a whole hell of a lot better because I got a job at the same place John works making more than I ever have in my life, I am also selling AVON and I'm an E-Rep too. Me and John argue but nothing major and even if we do, we make up rather quickly. So there's NO drama here at all 90% of the time. It was only in the beginning of the relationship that we had issues because we were just getting to know each other and it took me quite a while to trust him because of how badly Tim treated me, and he had been a bachelor for quite a while and was set in his ways and not used to a woman being at the house almost 24/7. Anyways, John's treated me better the last 5 months than Tim ever did in the time we were together (Oct. 1999 to April 2008).
Shew this is long... but I just had to get this out... because I've talked to John about it, shown him the Final Decree and now he's just plain pissed off about the whole thing. He's having trouble grasping that Tim really is that immature because John's 41 and Tim's 31 so he believes, like the rest of us, that Tim should get over it and just pay the damn bill.
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