Now my car is DEAD!

[dinosmom]

My car wouldnt start Tuesday and I was super pissed because I thought it was the battery that I just had replaced in January!!! Joe took a look at it and its the alternater and not only that, he found something major wrong with the engine. He can fix it but the engine has to be rebuilt! So Joe is letting me use his Expedition. First of all this thing is a MONSTER and doesnt even fit in my garage and I dont know how to park the darn thing here in the city. Plus, Joe's only other vehicle is his motorcycle and its supposed to rain. He said he could just use one of the shops trucks but thats not fair to him (and I really dislike the Expedition)!!! I feel like such a loser!!! Cant even support myself!!! Then I was freaking out because tomorrow is my last day of work. I have some money in the bank and I figure I am good for at least 3-6 months without ANY income. But what the hell happens if I still cant find anything. And to top it off, Joe is mad (not really mad but annoyed I guess) at me because he keeps on telling me that he will help me out-no problem but I dont want that. Chit, we have only been dating a few months and he has to support me already???

UGH!

[jasmine]

I'm sorry to hear that

make him a nice home-made dinner, snuggle on the couch, watch a movie~~ and thank him:naughty:lollypop: LOL

[SLance68]

I can totally relate to the independent woman syndrome. I hate having to rely on someone else for anything. As far as the Expedition - just look at it as a pickup with a topper - it really is a F150 with a topper. As long as you don't have to parallel park they are not bad to drive. Let Joe help you - I know that is really really hard to do but sometimes you just have to give in. Sending you some hugs.

[jasmine]

hay, on the lighter side, I' glad you have some money to last you a little while, if that were to happen to us, we would be screwed, because we live from paycheck to paycheck. And also consider it a blessing, your boyfriend does car work! That saves you a bundle right there!
Remember, when it rains, sometimes it pours, but then the rainbow comes out again. Your boyfriend sounds sweet and caring, you are lucky.
And I hope you find a job, soon!

[Mom2-3boys]

Why would you feel like a loser? It's not your fault these unforeseen things come up! I would say you're lucky you have a guy that's willing to help you out (even if you don't want it) like that..he really does sound like a great guy from what I've read in your posts. Don't think of it as supporting you...just let him help a little until you find a job...nothing wrong with that and obviously it's something he wants to do NOT has to do!

[iluvmybaby]

Are you sure you want to invest more money in that car? It sounds to me like it is a lemon, I am not sure how much you have invested but it might be something to consider. I hope things improve for you HUGS

[whatever]

If its an older car I would consider NOT redoing the engine. Or else instead of rebuilding it looking for one out of a used car in a salvage yard etc. A reputable garage can usually find them for you. Years ago my sil used to take her car to those jiffy lubes and they NEVER replaced the oil filter when they changed her oil. So her engine blew up at 50,000 miles. So they found her a used one. It was alot cheaper than rebuilding it.
But if your car is an old car it might not be worth putting the money into it.
Sorry to hear about all your troubles. I know what you mean. Its hard to have to depend on people. But things happen. I will tell you, your boyfriend sounds like a keeper.

[fairydana]

Dang! When it rains it pours, huh? I hate that you are having such a tough time! Maybe this will be the end of it and things will start looking up for you soon!

You have got a good man! If he wants to help you out then let him. Its ok to let someone be good to you! I promise!

Keeping you in my thoughts and prayers!
:hug

[dinosmom]

Thanks everyone for the kind words. Joe really is a GOOD guy! I am really trying to "chill" but that "independant woman syndrome" really clashes with Joes "macho man syndrome". LOL Last night he explained that he feels that its his "duty" to take care of things-not that I cant or that its not right for a woman to do these things etc, but that he is capable of helping out and thats what he is going to do. He also explained that he is very financially sound-he can afford to help me out and thats what he WANTS to do. He is one of these VERY considerate people-he holds doors for everyone, goes out of his way to help people and yes even walks old ladies across the street-seriously! I am totally NOT use to that-every other guy has been a selfish, stingy pig LOL. So its going to take awhile to get use to this....but I do LIKE it!!!! :)

As for his Expedition...it went back to him. Every parking spot is a parallel parking job around here. My neighbors came out to watch me attempt to park it in front of my house last night....I am sure there is video up on youtube today! It was pretty hysterical. Joe said that he has something for me to drive and that we will pick it up tomorrow night when he gets off of work. I have NO IDEA what he has up his sleeve. Its either an 89 Escort or a brand new Mercedes! LOL

[fleabones3]

I know its hard to let go and let someone help you.. but you know what. sometimes it's nice to let someone else take the wheel so to speak. be thankful, there are a million other guys that would say its not their problem since you have only been dating a few months. Let him help you. When you get back on your feet, you can return the favor. Or like the other ladies say.. cook him his favorite meals ( way to man's heart is thru his belly) give him back massages, order a pay per view fight or something to return the favor. Or , give him a strip tease......

[fairydana]

Thanks everyone for the kind words. Joe really is a GOOD guy! I am really trying to "chill" but that "independant woman syndrome" really clashes with Joes "macho man syndrome". LOL Last night he explained that he feels that its his "duty" to take care of things-not that I cant or that its not right for a woman to do these things etc, but that he is capable of helping out and thats what he is going to do. He also explained that he is very financially sound-he can afford to help me out and thats what he WANTS to do. He is one of these VERY considerate people-he holds doors for everyone, goes out of his way to help people and yes even walks old ladies across the street-seriously! I am totally NOT use to that-every other guy has been a selfish, stingy pig LOL. So its going to take awhile to get use to this....but I do LIKE it!!!! :)

As for his Expedition...it went back to him. Every parking spot is a parallel parking job around here. My neighbors came out to watch me attempt to park it in front of my house last night....I am sure there is video up on youtube today! It was pretty hysterical. Joe said that he has something for me to drive and that we will pick it up tomorrow night when he gets off of work. I have NO IDEA what he has up his sleeve. Its either an 89 Escort or a brand new Mercedes! LOL

Oh my god! I can just picture you trying to park and your neighbors watching! That is funny!! You cracked me up! Thanks :)