My soon to be ex

[taz69]

The a**ho** texted my son on his birthday-and told him to find his real dad to support him! Roger has been this boys dad since he was 1 1/2 years old! No matter what feud he and I are having, he had no right to destroy my son like that! Roger adopted the kids 3 years ago. What a fool he is! Hurts me so bad to see my son devestated like this.

[vicky122]

Omg what a cold hearted sob he is. Why would you do that to a child??

[fleabones3]

what a sorry POS jerk... but since he adopted him, by law he has to support him, so haha joke is on him.
My heart breaks for your son. Getting a text like that on his bday no less. May your ex's peter fall off

[Njean31]

what a jerk. he sounds childish and immature.

[Steelerfan]

He sounds like a real SOB!! Sorry about your son!!

[Kelsey1224]

Unbelieveable. What kind of person does that to a child?

[YankeeMary]

Well legally he is his real father. Now he can continue to pay for a child that he will never ever see. More importantly, he will be paying for a child that doesn't love him or respect him. He is beyond an *******. He is less then human. My heart really aches for him.
I think it is time for a card shower for your little man. Let us show him he is loved. Please send me your address and his name and I will send him a card.

[pepperpot]

Your poor son.....:(

[JewRican]

Have you confirmed it was stb-ex that sent the text and not the b*tch he left for? Not knowing your ex, this just sounds like something a jealous homewrecking b*tch would do, yk? Got rid of the wife? Check! Now get rid of the kid so he can be all mine. So she uses his phone to check that off her little todo list.

Does that make sense to anyone else? I'm going on little sleep and 2 very sick kids so I'm not firing on all cylinders right now.

[hotwheelstx]

What an idiot. If you take it to court....they're going to say that he accepted and acknowledged he was his son.

I'm so sorry. What kind of person would do that to a child? It's beyond me. I've been thru it with my brother and his ex-to a certain degree. Brother wanted to give up his parental rights....when it came down to it he wouldn't do it. However, he never sees his daughter from that marriage. I see her almost everyday. He does pay child support....afraid he'll be arrested otherwise.

Ex-sil is remarried. Trying to get the courts to terminate my brother's rights to his daughter. She wants her new husband to adopt my niece.

It's between you and your ex. Not you, your ex-husband and children. Sorry that's the way I see it. Legally the courts will see your ex as your son's father....bio or not he took and accepted the responsibility.

[iluvmybaby]

The a**ho** texted my son on his birthday-and told him to find his real dad to support him! Roger has been this boys dad since he was 1 1/2 years old! No matter what feud he and I are having, he had no right to destroy my son like that! Roger adopted the kids 3 years ago. What a fool he is! Hurts me so bad to see my son devestated like this.

I am speechless. Really. What a douche!

[magenta]

I agree 100% with JewRican. My first thought was the new girlfriend. Have you talked to your ex?

[galeane29]

It needs to be brought to this dumbazzes attention what this new 'woman' if you wanna call her that has made of him. He's going to lower himself and treat his child like this because of a piece of azz?

I've not commented on this idiot because it pisses me off so bad and it's not even my family. My husband just adopted my children after being their REAL dad since they were 5 and 8 and they are 14 and 17 now. I know it would TOTALLY crush them if he did what this man has done to his son.

I'm so sorry this is happening to you and your family. The only advice I can give is, hold your head high and know that you are better off without his sorry azz.

[taz69]

Well legally he is his real father. Now he can continue to pay for a child that he will never ever see. More importantly, he will be paying for a child that doesn't love him or respect him. He is beyond an *******. He is less then human. My heart really aches for him.
I think it is time for a card shower for your little man. Let us show him he is loved. Please send me your address and his name and I will send him a card.

Quite a few people sent him birthaday cards and it really thrilled him! he is 17-but it still hurts

[taz69]

I agree 100% with JewRican. My first thought was the new girlfriend. Have you talked to your ex?

He has talked to the poor kids since then and told him on the phone the same thing. We have his number blocked now-have to move and get rid of the dogs-but me and the kids will be together and STRONG! he has lost so much-but I HATE that he hurt my son like that!!!!

[ssgjeg]

Just be thankful that he is no longer a part of your sons life. Your son doesn't need a role model like that. He's better off without him.

[BeanieLuvR]

That is just unbelievable that anyone would do that to a kid. He so needs his butt kicked. I am so sorry you and your kids are having to go through this taz. :hug He will get what he deserves one day. You can't treat a person the way he is without having it come back to bite you in the butt.

[HighIQ]

I am so sorry that this has happened to you and more your son. Children are so susceptible at this age and do not forget these things. Your son needs to know more than ever that he is loved right now. It is probably not in his best interest to have anything to do with this man in the future. He will only begin to permanently effect this young man and this will follow him into adulthood. Explain to him what has happened and ask him what he feels about it. I do hope it all works out with the best interest of the child being the number one priority.

[ElleGee]

What an effin rat b@st@rd!! UGH!

[bcg262006]

The a**ho** texted my son on his birthday-and told him to find his real dad to support him! Roger has been this boys dad since he was 1 1/2 years old! No matter what feud he and I are having, he had no right to destroy my son like that! Roger adopted the kids 3 years ago. What a fool he is! Hurts me so bad to see my son devestated like this.

That is so terrible, how could anyone do that to a kid? Kids are so innocent and it doesn't matter if you and the ex have a quarrel, the kids always seem to get in the middle.

[sheila_361]

what a f***kin a hole. You and the kids are definately much better without him in your lives...

[magenta]

What a dickhead.

[gmyers]

I'm sorry for your son. Be sure and give him an extra hug and let him know you love him more than anything and maybe do something special for him today. My sisters husband dropped his kids after the divorce and they're grown now but they're still messed up. His oldest daughter wont marry because she doesn't trust men. Be sure and talk to him a lot because that jerk has really hurt him. It really makes me sad to think what he did to him. I'm sorry ya'll are going through this. Poor kid.

[Quaker_Parrots]

I agree, I think it is probably the 'Ho doing it and not him. I would call and confront him.
Have you confirmed it was stb-ex that sent the text and not the b*tch he left for? Not knowing your ex, this just sounds like something a jealous homewrecking b*tch would do, yk? Got rid of the wife? Check! Now get rid of the kid so he can be all mine. So she uses his phone to check that off her little todo list.

Does that make sense to anyone else? I'm going on little sleep and 2 very sick kids so I'm not firing on all cylinders right now.

[DAVESBABYDOLL]

I agree, I think it is probably the 'Ho doing it and not him. I would call and confront him.


She said he even told the kids on the phone the same thing AFTER the text. IMO, I would go after the wallet and make him pay anyway you could. Put the gloves on girl. He adopted them, legally they are is whether he likes it or not.

[fairydana]

WTF?! That is an AWFUL thing to do, I dont care if it was him doing it or his woman, they should be ashamed of themselves.

What kind of **** is that?!

I would love to send your Son a birthday card! :)

[ma4angels]

I agree if the man legally adopted them then he is responsible until they turn 18 or whenever they graduate high school. I would make him pay until all of them turn 18. Of course you would have to put up with him being a hateful human being until then because he is saying all this stuff to make you angry because he doesn't want to pay support. You know he knows that he is responsible for it. Anyway I am sorry your son had to have this idiot hurt him like this. I hope he had a good birthday anyway.

[Mary Jo]

Sounds like you were married to my ex.
What a dickweed.
Hopefully he'll legally have to pay support and college since he adopted your son.
See if you can use the text message in court for extra brownie points.
What a rotten to thing to do to a kid.
I'm sorry this is happening and btw Happy Birthday to fine young man you are raising.

[Anniston]

Keep your chin up. Your son is blessed with a very good mom and I am so sorry that his dad is such a piece.

[Jackie_Blu]

That's a horrible thing to say to a child who has looked up to you as a parent all their life. He's just a major prick, and Im so sorry for your son. (Ive seen first hand what a Dad sh!tting on a son can do, it happened to mine)
I agree you should rear up and take him for all you can and then some. Show NO mercy.
Is he still living in the area where he met her? If so, ya know Im not real far from there........
Good luck hon and :hugs for you and your son.

[shadowcats]

some men are such jerks,,,,,,,,, he knew it would hurt you and him both thats why he did that,,,,,,,,,, you need to explain that to your son and at 17 he ll be more understanding of why this man needed to hurt him so,,,,,,,, and tell him not to take it to heart ,,,,,,,,, there are those that really love him and now that hes showed his true colors , that hes better off without any contact with him , if i were you,,,,,,,,,,, i'd take him to court and sue him for that , HE WAS THE ONE WHO ADDOPTED HIM, and he shouldnt have done that if he wasnt serious about careing for him,,,,,, in miss, they hold you responsible for children until theyre 21 if they re attending school,,,,,,,,it mite be the same where you are, and that means hes got to food college bills or trade school fees,,,,,,,,,,, and health care etc, so stand your ground, if you dont want to go that route ,,,,,,,, tell him not ever to call or text your son again or you will file charges against him as that is child abuse and threating your son, believe me if you have to print out this correspondance and take it to the courts theyll side with you on this,,,,,,,, that crud,,,,,,,shouldnt have any contact with your son if thats how he behaves,,,,,,,,
hugs to your boy,,,,,,,,,,, my son josh went through the same thing with his real dad before he died,,,,,,,,, his real dad,,,,,,,,,was a minister for 15 years and ran about with another woman in our church and later married her after getting her preg,,,,,,,,, and his new wife told our kids they were trash,,,,,,boy did i set her straight ,,,,,,,,,, told her id come to her home , wait till she came out then i'd wop her a****** right in front of her home, and make sure everyone in her new church would know that she wasnt his first wife and how she came to be his wife,,,,,,,, lol they told their church that josh was his ex girlfriends son,,,,,,told his own son to tell others nothing about his mom , i set him straight also,,,,,,,,, he's a minister in a church of god church, spanish branch,,,,,,,,and they dont like their ministers to be remarried ,,,,,,,,,,,, lol that jerk,
sharon

[CLARKS4]

:hug We can send him another card if thats alright with you. I know he's older but I can get the girls to draw him a picture or something. Just to let him know that he is loved.
I cant believe that any man would do that. He could have just left the hateful stuff between you and him. He will get what is coming to him. He was married when this thing started hitting on him. He is crazy to think that it wont happen to him.
I'm so sorry I really dont know what to say. Just hug your son extra hard and always be there for him. He knows who loves him

[mikang]

I agree with everyone else on here, he is a total dickhead! My ex-husband called my son on his 18th b-day and told him happy birthday, I have you paid off now! It hurt my son bad, so bad that he hasn't talked to his dad since and my son is now 21. The law in Arkansas used to be you had to pay support until the child was 21 as long as they were attending school, but it's all changed now, 18 and you don't have to pay anymore. Your ex will be the one that is hurt in the end because he doesn't have your sons love and respect anymore, which he doesn't deserve. Thank God your son has you!