Which would hurt you MORE..

[Mini]

If the emotions were there like he actually loved her it would hurt me more then if it was "just sex" but either would hurt pretty bad....

In fact me and my ex bf broke up due to him being emotionally involved with another woman. Never had sex with her but it killed me all the same and I couldnt stand being near him any longer.

What do you think?

[YankeeMary]

HUGS!!! Sorry Mini.

[speedygirl]

I'd have to say emotional because his heart is in it as well as his body. Many men can be pigs and just get with a woman for sex with no emotional attachment. Both betrayals suck but if he was emotionally attached, there's a bond of sorts there.
Sorry you went through that with your ex, Mini.

[Renrut]

Both!

[DAVESBABYDOLL]

I voted both.

[BeanieLuvR]

I chose both. My DD and I were just talking about this the other day. I think it would hurt more if he fell in love with another woman even if they didn't have sex than if he went to a bar got drunk and had sex with a stranger. Although both would tear me apart.

[April78945]

he'd be castrated either way

[delSol]

either one for me

[cabby92]

He spends time with her, buys her things, misses chances to be with me and the kids, or he drinks too much on a business trip and has a one night stand. He'd pay dearly for the latter but the former would be a deal killer.

[Lild]

Both

[sheila_361]

both

[PICKLES]

emotional

[galeane29]

both

[meltodd69]

Either way he would be history. And I am sure he would say the same. I don't give him any reason to ever doubt me and he does the same. That is one of the reasons we have been together so long. We respect each others feelings and our vows.

[lucimPI]

he'd be castrated either way

April, you have such a wonderful "way" with words. I truly mean this as a compliment. I always get a smile from your comments. What is scary is that most times I agree with you, as in your comment of today!! Just thanks for being you!!!

[gmyers]

Both would be really hard for me but I think the emotional attachment would be the worst.

[krisharry]

he'd be castrated either way

ITA !!

[Hetty]

Both.....We were just talking about this and I am a firm believer that they(men) are just like dogs neuter(sp) them&they tend to stay around home.

[Mini]

Just to clear anything up, nothing is going on in my life. Sorry if I made it sound that way! Me and my current bf are fine, I just mentioned my ex cause thats what did happen.

I was just thinking about this and thought I would ask yall. Sorry if I confused anyone!

[CLARKS4]

I said both

[belle5691]

I chose both also....although having been different situations where both happened at different times---the emotional affair was/is a lot harder to get past than the physical one.

[JerseyMook]

Probably emotional - I am not all of that territorial.

[sunniekiss]

I chose both, Both are equally as bad only she can't get pregnant or he catch a STD with an emotional affair.
Those types of emotions belong solely to the person he claims to love & no one else.

[jedmatters]

If he threw us away for "It did not mean anything" that would kill me.
That would mean that what we had was worth less than her.

So, he better be in love and it better matter. Because someone is going to miss him, eventually. But, my aim is really good with bow and arrow hunting!!!!

[magenta]

I chose both.

[catdance]

I voted both because I don't know which would be worse..a physical unfaithful..or an emotional..they both sort of mean the same to me..
In the movie, with DeNiro and Streep (sp) "Falling In Love", great movie for a Sunday rainy day or snowy day..he didn't "do it with Meryl's character..and when he desribes his feelings, to his wife...she said after he said "they didn't do it"..she slaps him and says "no that is worse"..I liked that movie and explains my thoughts...I am sure of it.
So BOTH for me.
I have been through this so I send ya HUGS, Mini....

[msmom79]

i said both---as i have been through both--its not easy to deal with a cheater--let alone someone who says its just emotions. both to me are cheating. emotional scars take alot longer to heal-jmho

[PrincessArky]

If the emotions were there like he actually loved her it would hurt me more then if it was "just sex" but either would hurt pretty bad....

In fact me and my ex bf broke up due to him being emotionally involved with another woman. Never had sex with her but it killed me all the same and I couldnt stand being near him any longer.

What do you think?

I am so sorry this happened to you.

Either would break my heart

[Anig2u]

Both would hurt a lot, just in different ways. Cheating is the worst thing anyone can do. If your not happy get out of the relationship, because they will be hurt when you leave but cheating on them will hurt even more and the whole trust thing is ruined.