My "baby" is getting married

[cpbaby]

Sigh........My "baby" is getting married July 19. He texted me the happy news last night about 11:30. He said he hopes I can respect their decision and that he loves me.....yeah, I will deal and go on, that is all I can do, but still. He is NINETEEN......she is EIGHTEEN.......They have been dating for 5 or 6 months and he admitted to me the main reason they are getting married is because her dad just got remarried and the stepmom kicked my soon-to-be DIL out.... He has a good job, but has only had it for 6 weeks and she still has two years of high school left.....


However, he is still older than I was when I married his dad and almost as old as I was when he was born.


Guess I will have a new "daughter" soon, huh?

[sunflowers]

Hugs .....and congrats!

How is she 18 with 2 yrs of high school left?

[Willow]

Hugs .....and congrats!

How is she 18 with 2 yrs of high school left?

She could have been kept back a couple of times.

Congratulations cpbaby!

[cathych]

wow, that is young. I know kids get married that young, but I was so immature at that age. i know that kids got married that young in the past, but there is so many more options for them now than there used to be. 2 years of high school left? Sounds like she is 16, not 18. It will be hard for them, esp. if she gets preggars right away. Best of luck to them though.

[BeanieLuvR]

Congrats! I wish the best for them. I was 18 and my DH 19 when we got married and it will be 27 years this fall. People predicted we would only make it 6 months so you never can tell.

[gmyers]

That is really young but sometimes it does work out. I hope it works out for them.

[YankeeMary]

Well add another to your CHRISTmas shopping list...lol. At least they aren't getting married because she is preggo, so there is a good side eh? Hopefully it will work out and their marriage will last for many many years. Then you can look back and giggle and think, I was worried for nothing. Hugs.

[cpbaby]

Thanks for the nice words. I know they have as much of a chance of making it as anyone else who gets married, but still, he is my baaaaaaaaaaaaaabeeeeeeeeeee......ya know?



Hugs .....and congrats!

How is she 18 with 2 yrs of high school left?


When her mother was alive, the children attended a backwoods church ran school. When her mother died and he remarried the first time, they moved closer to town and the kids were put in public schools. Apparently the church ran school relied more on religion than education since the 4 kids all tested a good bit lower than their peers/age/grade levels. So, she is two years behind.

[speedygirl]

They have been dating for 5 or 6 months and he admitted to me the main reason they are getting married is because her dad just got remarried and the stepmom kicked my soon-to-be DIL out

Congrats to them I hope it all works out for them. The only thing that I would be concerned about is that the main reason he's getting married is because she got kicked out by the stepmom. If he had said they were madly in love, couldn't live without her and so forth I'd be feeling okay about it. I really hope that they have a wonderful life.

[dcut4]

CAn you maybe talk them into just living together? Either way I hope it all works out. Best of luck to them!!!

[JustDoIt]

It's a hard place to be in, because you want your son to be happy, yet you don't want him to make a mistake. But at the same time you don't want to alienate him by making him feel guilty about his choices.

I hope it all works out for everyone involved. And hey, at least it will give you a reason to go out and buy a new dress and some snazzy shoes. :)

[Urban Cowgirl]

Congrats! I wish the best for them. I was 18 and my DH 19 when we got married and it will be 27 years this fall. People predicted we would only make it 6 months so you never can tell.


I was 18 and dh was 20....will be 13 years this August...still....I'll die if my kids want to marry that young. Do what I say, not what I do Dammit!!! LOL Best Wishes for your son.

[BBELEAZAHR]

Im sure everything will work out okay :)

[PrincessArky]

Hope all works out well for them :)



Apparently the church ran school relied more on religion than education since the 4 kids all tested a good bit lower than their peers/age/grade levels. So, she is two years behind.


That happens with many of the ones that come to our local public school as well.

[cpbaby]

UPDATE!


Wedding was moved to mid-August....and now it is scheduled for July 18 of 2009. We shall see. I have already given my first "bad MIL advice". I was talking to STB-DIL and I asked her why they didnt live together before the wedding. She told me her people would have a conniption....I told her that if she went through life doing exactly what everyone tells her to do, she will never learn anything for herself. She just sorta looked at me. Anthony may be a horses patootie at times, but he listens to what I have to say and then does what he thinks he needs to, even if I dont like it(Like getting married, lol). Sometimes he thinks my advice is good and sometimes I can hear his eyes rolling while I am talking.


SOOOOOooo, it may be next year, or it may be next week. Whatever it is, it will be ok. Right?

[4diego]

Yes, it will "all come out in the wash" as they say. Even if all else fails and they get married, you just have to know it will be one of those "learning experiences" that young people seem hell bent on putting themselves through. Or they could be soul-mates and be married forever. If they are going for the Aug. '09 date, a whole lot can happen in a year!

[luvcub]

Kids are stubborn in there views so much younger today,I was married at a really really young age,for several reasons,it did not work,at this age we are in love-so we think-untill we really grow up,then life shows us differently,if you bring this up,which Im sure you wont,I bet the kids will get testy,normal for their age. Young love is soooo sweet,I hope they stay in love and it all works out,most will not,but the ones that do,after the long run,will be very very special. Congrads!

[cabby92]

At these ages you can probably guarantee what will happen in a year.

Exactly a year from today. If you want to make yourself sound like a good STB-MIL call her and wish her an early anniversary.

[PrincessArky]

I hope all works out well

[msmom79]

i hope everything works out for the best,young love,alot of us did this exact thing-got married young,sometimes it works and sometimes it doesnt-they will learn by their own mistakes-alls you can do is be there for them.best of luck to you all.

[YankeeMary]

I think its wonderful that you have such and open honest relationship with your son. I do hope all works out for the best. It sure stinks when are kids are old enough to make their own decisions (not necassiarly good ones...hehe) and we have to just sit back and watch....grrr. Thats the hardest part of letting of I think. I am the Mom, I am the boss!!! LOL. Truly and honestly, I hope that if they do get married, it will be everything they want and more and it will last forever. HUGS!!!

[sheila_361]

Best wishes to them whatever they decide to do, and hope they have a long and happy life together.. :hug

[suprtruckr]

grandma :rolling ;)

[janelle]

This is where being in a church family and getting premarital counseling is so important. They will probably do whatever they want but still it stops them enough to think about the step they are about to take. I wish them well whatever happens.

[MERE CHAT]

My sister got married the year she graduated. She was a few months shy of her 18th birthday. She'll be married 39 years this August and has 2 wonderful daughters and great sons-in-law and 7 grandchildren!! Proof that sometimes a "young marriage" can work!! BTW, my parents married when dad was 20 and mom 19. They have 4 children, 7 grands and 12 great-grandkids and they just celebrated their 57th anniversary in June!!!