I shouldn't complain.............but

[hotwheelstx]

Yesterday was my 45th birthday. Alright with me I guess I can't stop time from passing.

Anyway, Aggie knows good damn and well when my birthday is. Also my family (immediate) does as well.

NO ONE IN MY FAMILY CALLED AND SAID HAPPY BIRTHDAY. Aggie didn't make any plans....he did ask me last week what I wanted to do for my birthday and I told him. He didn't do any of it. No card, greeting, gift, going out to eat......NOTHING. He sat most of the day in front of the television playing on his 360.

Finally around 2:00 I left the house, took myself out to eat. The people in the restaurant showed more interest than anyone in my family. Went to cemetary laid flowers down for mom.

Got home Aggie asked me where I went I told him. He then proceeds to get angry that I didn't invite him to go with me out to eat. If I have to think about doing something on my own, spend my own money....why should I have to tell him?

My mother's been gone a year and a half and always made birthdays something to remember.....she really did. It truly didn't matter who you were....she made you feel special.

It never fails....Christmas, wedding anniversary, Aggie's birthday are all within 2 weeks. He receives a gift, card, greeting.

My mom's own sister didn't remember my birthday, either. That's not like her at all.

Glad the day's over with. Aggie told me when he was going to bed that he was going to do something (celebrate) for my birthday next weekend. Next isn't my birthday, he should of said something to me about it, said Happy Birthday.

O.K., I'm done.

[LoveBugg]

Im sorry hun. Here is a big hug :hug from me to you.. Happy Birthday. Hopefully everyone will turn around and it was all a ruse for a surprise party :)

[galeane29]

AWww, Happy Birthday. I'm sorry you had a bad day.
~hugs~

[cpbaby]

I hate it. I am so sorry. Since my MIL died, I get NOTHING for my birthday....she always got me something and made me cake. It wasnt alays the best present in the world(like the year I was 8 months preg and she bougt my 350 lb butt a suede mini skirt and belly shirt) but HEY, she put an effort into it. And most times, all I ask is a touch of effort. I bet thats what you wanted, too......if not, I can send you the mini and belly shirt........;)

[hotwheelstx]

I hate it. I am so sorry. Since my MIL died, I get NOTHING for my birthday....she always got me something and made me cake. It wasnt alays the best present in the world(like the year I was 8 months preg and she bougt my 350 lb butt a suede mini skirt and belly shirt) but HEY, she put an effort into it. And most times, all I ask is a touch of effort. I bet thats what you wanted, too......if not, I can send you the mini and belly shirt........;)

You're funny. Long gone are the mini's and belly shirts. Thanks for the kind words and the offer. Really very sweet....lol

[nightrider127]

So sorry you had such an unhappy day.

Belated birthday wishes to you.

PS Revenge is sweet.

[vicky122]

Sorry your day was bad. I think what he does for you is what he would get in return. And if he says anything I would say hey I am only giving you what you give me.

[tsquared]

Happy Belated Birthday young lady!!!

[maranatha4]

A little belated but wishing you "Happy Birthday" anyway.Sorry your day was so disappointing.

[SLance68]

Happy belated birthday.

[Unicornmom77]

That sucks! I would want to complain also!

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HUGS!

[Jackie_Blu]

Im so so sorry you had such a crappy birthday. Men can be so insensitive.....and I know exactly how you feel (got the same situation here). Im glad you took yourself out for dinner.
So sorry we missed it yesterday.......but HAPPY BELATED BIRTHDAY!!!

[BeanieLuvR]

Happy Belated Birthday!! I would give him the same on his birthday. See how he likes it.

[hotwheelstx]

Here it is Monday and Aggie wants to do something "special" for the vets. I don't have a problem with that at all. He just got back from the store. He bought 50 US flags (small ones) for every state. I'm sure we'll be going to the military cemetary sometime today to put them out. More effort, money put on those people than his own wife. Still shaking my head.....

[Pepsi4me]

Here it is Monday and Aggie wants to do something "special" for the vets. I don't have a problem with that at all. He just got back from the store. He bought 50 US flags (small ones) for every state. I'm sure we'll be going to the military cemetary sometime today to put them out. More effort, money put on those people than his own wife. Still shaking my head.....


Oh wow! i'm so sorry. That just makes it worse. Men can be like that though.



Happy Birthday!!

[Army-Mom]

Happy birthday!! I am so sorry that he forgot your birthday..sending hugs

[chib44]

Hotwheelxts So sorry about your Birthday My hubby gives me the same damn thing every year NOTHING

[tnfuhs]

Happy Belated birthday. I never get nothing anymore either, its starting not to bother me. I just do stuff for me for my birthday

[janelle]

Well good for you hotwheelstx. You did something for your self instead of waiting around. Maybe you could have told your hubby, bye, I'm taking myself out for a birthday dinner, see you later. LOL Some men go into their own little world and it's impossible to get them to come out.

I planned my own birthday party two years ago and invited several people. Sometimes when you want something you just have to do it yourself. Huggs.

[MsLynn]

i'm so sorry,

about the only thing i get for my birthday is when ya'll on here tell me... my birthday hasn't really been remembered in years

[littlered1]

Sorry about your day.
I know it is a little late but...
HAPPY BIRTHDAY!!!!!!

My mom's day was like that, I wont ever say anything to my darling daughter. But it does hurt.

[jcw]

Happy belated birthday.

[belle5691]

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Sorry, It's late....It's happened to me too.

[ma4angels]

:party: :birthday: Happy Belated Birthday. I bet if your DH's next birthday is forgotten he would know exactly how you felt on yours. Anyway I am sorry your special day didn't go your way.

[BigLyd1]

Sorry your birthday wasn't a happier one. Remember you're still young. Maybe have something special planned for yourself next year ahead of time in case someone forgets again.

[cabby92]

My hubby does that to me. He totally ignored Mother's Day, is usually late for my birthday (or shows up with the typical bag of convenience store junk) and I never have anything to open for Christmas. However, when he does do something, he does it big. This year I went away for a few days after Christmas. When I got back I had a fireplace in my living room, right where I'd always wanted one. I try to take to good and forget the bad, but it twinges every now and again.

[DonnaWV]

So sorry your Birthday was not a happier one. Happy Belated Birthday

[ElleGee]

Ugh!
Happy belated birthday!
I am sorry your dh is acting like an a$$

[whatever]

I feel your pain hon. ON April 21st i turnded 35 and every year it gets less noticed. Its sad. I have always kind of wanted a surprise party i KNOW it will never happen however. my brother did call and my husband told my Happy birthday. But that's about it. Granted i will say we are the kind of people if we want something we save up and go buy it. So we are hard to buy for. But my mom didn't call. My dh felt bad and the next day got me a cake. When i made an off handed comment my mom used to make me a cake. But it seems like everyone thinks just because you get older you should not be treated "specail" on your birthday.
Well Happy birthday from me to you. Pretend i sent you a card!!

[hotwheelstx]

Since Sunday Aggie's been trying to make up for my birthday to no avail. He baked a cake today....his favorite pineapple upside down cake...I won't touch it, never have, never will. Can't stand pineapples. He's bought some red, white and blue balloons (leftovers from Memorial Day)that do say Happy Birthday. It's not getting better....it's getting worse.

Discussion today was about my birthday again. When it falls. He knows damn good and well some years it does fall on the actual holiday. I will remember the people that gave their lives for our freedom on that day.....however, I will also celebrate my day.

I'm not sure he even knows Memorial Day is on May 30th. every year. It's just recognized on the 4th Monday in May.....like Labor Day is the first Monday in Sept. Always falls on a different date.

I'm hoping the rest of May will fly by. I also got my arse chewed for going to the cematary to visit my mother and put down flowers. "Why didn't you ask me to go?". He has a fricking car, knows where she's at, can go when he wants to as well. I got more chewed out about the expense of the flowers.....they came out of my own pocket. I have my own personal checking acct. I didn't use ours.

So, Happy Birthday to me....the saga continues. Thanks everyone for the wishes. Really doesn't bother me that they're late. At least ya'll are kind enough to take the time to read my thread.

[Kelsey1224]

Happy Belated Birthday!!!

Next time...do not do anything for his birthday. When he asks why, tell him that because of how he treated you on your birthday that you have come to the realization that birthdays are not important to him. Therefore, you are no longer going through the effort.

And stick to it! One of two things will happen. Either he will realize that birthdays are important to you and will remember in the future...or, he will continue to forget. But at least you won't feel put out because you won't feel like you are the only one doing anything about birthdays.

HUGS!!!

[hotwheelstx]

Kelsey,

Aggie has the same birthday as you do. It's kind of hard to forget....lol. Hopefully it MIGHT be easy to forget this year. What goes around, comes around and it bites when it does.

[freeplease]

On his birthday, go buy 50 little balloons to put at the cemetary. If it's so important to him to honor others, it should work for his birthday, too.

Sorry your day was spoiled. I made my family never celebrate mine again. Just because I'm old, and can do without the reminder. lol

[Kelsey1224]

Kelsey,

Aggie has the same birthday as you do. It's kind of hard to forget....lol. Hopefully it MIGHT be easy to forget this year. What goes around, comes around and it bites when it does.


I thought that I remembered that about Aggie. Believe me...lots of people forget my birthday...LOL! My mother (who has passed away) and my husband always remember. My kids do to. But, my DIL is actually better than my son in remembering my birthday. She makes it a point of having my present be something different and wrapped in birthday paper. She is such a sweetie. My son would probably say "Merry Christmas/Happy Birthday" and think that was enough.

There is no other way to put it. Aggie is being a butthead and there is no excuse for his behavior! You have every right to be upset and hurt!

[iluvmybaby]

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Happy Belated Birthday, glad you went out to eat and at least got a good meal. My ex always forgot ALL special occasions except his mom's

[hotwheelstx]

On his birthday, go buy 50 little balloons to put at the cemetary. If it's so important to him to honor others, it should work for his birthday, too.

Sorry your day was spoiled. I made my family never celebrate mine again. Just because I'm old, and can do without the reminder. lol

That is a good idea. Aggie's birthday is Christmas Eve......lol. Yes, it really is. Always gets seperate gifts for birthdays, Christmas. As for my age. I'll still tell it. If I didn't/won't Aggie or my mother would while she was still with us.

45 if you're curious.......truly

[baragabrat]

Happy Belated birthday. I never get nothing anymore either, its starting not to bother me. I just do stuff for me for my birthday

Yep, one year I took myself to the salon and got; a massage, facial, manicure/pedicure, hair cut and color and my stylist got me a candle! It cost a bunch but I was happy. Hubby is getting better bit by bit as I tell him what I want. This year I want my car detailed and since we can't afford to have it done, he will do it himself. Anymore I don't mind asking him for whatever I want. And he doesn't mind either!

[janelle]

Let's face it girls, men just do not get it. We have to spoon feed it to them.

I have no problem reminding my hubby of my birthday. I even ask what are we going to do on my birthday? Sometimes you just have to ask if you want to receive.

[hotwheelstx]

Let's face it girls, men just do not get it. We have to spoon feed it to them.

I have no problem reminding my hubby of my birthday. I even ask what are we going to do on my birthday? Sometimes you just have to ask if you want to receive.

Aggie asked me and I told him what I wanted for my birthday at the beginning of May. Plus birthdays are highlighted on the kitchen calandar......Yesterday I went and got my own gift and YES HE PAID FOR THIS. I had a charcoal portrait of my mother, brother and myself that was done way back in the 80's. Never framed. Since my mother's death I wanted to keep it preserved....brother certainly didn't want it. Cost Aggie a small fortune with the frame, matting, glass that I chose.

I'm hoping next year he'll not "think it's just another day"....if he does more expensive the gift to myself will be.....lol

[buglebe]

Here it is Monday and Aggie wants to do something "special" for the vets. I don't have a problem with that at all. He just got back from the store. He bought 50 US flags (small ones) for every state. I'm sure we'll be going to the military cemetary sometime today to put them out. More effort, money put on those people than his own wife. Still shaking my head.....


I know this is a little off the subject, but where do you find those little flags?

My daughter's birthday was the 26th and her husband did the same as yours. The thing I don't understand is why when his birthday comes she will go all out for him, card, cake, present, us there if she can etc. and hers come along and he doesn't even say Happy Birthday. One year I sent him an email to remind him just in case he forgot but it was no different.

[MERE CHAT]

A bit late I know but I just noticed your post and I want to wish you a BIG BIG HAPPY BIRTHDAY!!!

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