I feel numb from the news

[Hopscotch]

Hi Everyone,

My son called around 6:00 pm and told me they didn't find a heartbeat for the baby. My daughter-in-law went to her first ob/gyn appointment today. They said that the baby had stopped growing at around 6 to 7 weeks. She was nine weeks along. I can't explain how sad I am right now. Not only for my loss but just knowing what they must be experiencing. I tried to find the words to comfort them but what can one say at a time like this. Everyone, please say some prayers for us. Thanks.

[kyswpgrl]

I am so sorry to hear that. I will keep your son and his family in my thoughts.

[pepperpot]

:( so sorry.....

[robinA]

:( I am so sorry. I will keep them in my thoughts.

[sheila_361]

So very sorry for your loss..

[ilovecats]

I am very sorry for your loss.

[catssass]

I am so sorry.......

[flute]

((hugs & prayers))

[Corinna]

I am so very sorry to hear that. Of course I will keep you and your family in my thoughts and prayes.

[Fred12]

I am so sorry (((((((((((((((hugs and prayers))))))))))))))))

[BeanieLuvR]

I am so sorry. You will all be in my prayers. Hugs.

[Mom2Shaun]

I am so sorry to hear about this, and I know how sad you must be feeling right now.

I don't want to offer false hope, but let me tell you about my best friend in the same situation. She was pregnant with her first child, but at her 1st appointment, the OB told her there was no heartbeat. They told her to come back in a week or so for a D&C. She went back, and said, "But I still feel like I'm pregnant! Please check again." They did, and said no, no heartbeat, so they did the D&C.

My friend kept telling me she still felt pregnant, but I told her she was being ridiculous. This went on for weeks. One day, she was lying on her bed and talking to me on the phone, when she said she felt a lump in her stomach, then pushed it and felt it move across her stomach! I was frantic, sure my friend had cancer. I went with her to the doctor, and they found out she was still pregnant! The doctors were freaked out, because they were afraid they might have knicked an arm bud or done something to injure the baby when they did the D&C. They also worried that they would be bankrupted by a lawsuit. But they did some very fancy ultra-sound and found out everything was OK, and that it was actually the same baby. They had somehow missed it when doing the D&C! That "baby" is now 10 years old; my god-daughter, Noelle (born just before Christmas), and she is perfect! So don't despair! The doctors don't know everything!

[gmyers]

I'm really sorry. I hope you and your family are doing ok. I'll keep you and your family in my prayers.

[MOM2B2003]

Like you....I am at a loss for words on this. I am so sorry! At a time like this, one wonders why......maybe heaven needed a precious little angel.....Keep your chin up and be strong for them. Even if they say everything is okay, still be there. All of you will be in my thoughts and prayers.

[tracey74]

sorry for your loss I went through this myself about 13 years ago and I was almost 4 months along. so I had to have what was called a chemical abortion because my body wouldnt "expell" the baby. I let them do an autopsy and come to find out the baby had a tumor in its stomach and water on the brain and wouldnt have lived to be a year old. and not 6 months later I get pregnant with my daughter. yeah it hurt like hell because of the loss but Im glad the child didnt have to suffer for long. and otherwise my daughter would not be here. but its hard to offer any type of sympathy or condolences or whatever because you feel like the person had no idea what youre going through . for me time helped me deal with it.the drs gave me a booklet on the loss of a baby cant think of the name but it did help some.so just be there for her if she needs you and if she needs to talk to a gried counselor

[freebielover]

I am so sorry for your loss, stay strong.

[Army-Mom]

I am so very sorry and my thoughts and prayers are with you.

[Unicornmom77]

Sending out comforting prayers and healing wishes.

[PrincessArky]

I am so sorry, I will keep your family in my prayers

[tsquared]

I am so sorry for your loss...i will keep all of you in my prayers

[Memedav]

I am so sorry to hear this. I was wondering though if they also did an ultrasound? I am currently almost 21 weeks pregnant and my OB didn't get a heartbeat at all (not even a blip) with a doppler until I was nearly 14 weeks pregnant. Also if your DIL is even a little bit "fluffy" in the abdomen that can also make it harder to get a heartbeat. If they haven't done that then I would suggest you mention it to your son and also ask that they do a blood test to check the baby hormone levels (I think it's HCG?) I had to have this done and it did ease my mind greatly to know that I had a high amount of baby growth hormone. I hope everything works out and please know that your family is in my prayers.

[tarasdream]

I am so sorry. You will all be in my prayers.

[myspirit]

I am so sorry, Brightest Blessings!

[friend6040]

Im so sorry for your loss

[Shancopp]

Aw, that's so sad. I'm sorry for your family's loss. I'll be keeping you and your son and dil in my thoughts and prayers.
God Bless.

[bpl76]

Prayers and {{{{{hugs}}}}} for you all. Have been there done that and know how devastating it is.

[Hopscotch]

Thanks everyone for your words of comfort. I also was wondering if for some reason they just couldn't hear the heartbeat but that baby was still o.k. From what my daughter-in law's mom said, she was with her thank goodness, they did a number of tests. They said that the baby had stopped growing. I talked with my sister who is an RN and who also had a miscarriage her first time and she called and talked to them both so I am pretty sure the doctors are right.

[MistyWolf]

So sorry .. thoughts and prayers are with your family.

[belcherpi]

Your family is in my thoughts and prayers

[moe265]

I am so sorry for your loss

[magickay]

Such sad news...prayers and healing thoughts for the parents and you (and the rest of the family).

[Aloha from paradise]

I'm so very sorry for your loss. Will keep the family in my prayers.

[karefree]

I will say prayers for the entire family. So sorry this has happened to all of you.

[dixiechicken]

I am so sorry to hear of your loss. I know how hard it must be and I hope it gets better.

[earnhardt1]

so sorry........((hugs))))

[Faithfully]

That is awful, I'm so sorry

[JaneG]

Your family is in my prayers.

[bears984]

I am so very sorry to hear that, I will keep you and your family in my thoughts

[ang in NC]

This happen to me, actually they told me it happens alot. I can still remember the pain. I will pray for all of you.

[DAVESBABYDOLL]

So sorry.

[MamaArc]

So sorry to hear this...your family will be in my prayers.

[magenta]

I am so sorry.

[DBackFan]

I also want to say how sorry I am. There is nothing more precious than a child. Everything happens for a reason even though its hard to see right now. :hug

[jcw]

I am so sorry.

[chyna123]

I know exactly how you feel...I lost 2 within a 7 month period.....I was 14 weeks with the first one I lost and 8 weeks with the second one... I hurt everyday...It does get easier but something a person never forgets.... they are my Angel Babies.....it was 3 years ago and its gotten easier to deal with.... but I do feel your pain.....when I read your post it just reminded me of how much it does hurt...I am in tears for your families loss......

[Beso]

Hugs to you and your family during this tough time...

[Bahet]

:hug I'm sorry for your family's loss.

[BigLyd1]

Your family will be in my thoughts and prayers. I have been through it also. Looks like quite a few of us have, so we know how painful it is. Hugs to you and your family.

[Mom2-3boys]

I am so very sorry! 5 years ago I went through the same thing I was 9 weeks along and then things started happening I ended up in the ER where they did a trans-vaginal ultrasound which indicated the baby had no heart beat. Losing a baby is like nothing else, it made me feel like I did something wrong that I didn't didn't take care of myself enough, my Dr. told me more times then not it happens because there is something very wrong with the baby and it's your body's natural way of taking care of it, I took her explanation, but it didn't hurt any less. Make sure your DIL has lots of support and takes time to grieve!

[iluvmybaby]

I am so sorry for your families loss, God Bless you all, you are in my prayers

[Tasha405]

I am so sorry. :( :hug

[speedygirl]

Hugs and prayers for you and you family.

[starduster31]

so sorry for your loss, you and your family are in my prayers........

[june72]

My heart goes out to you family! Many prayers for the Lord to send His comforting and healing power to youns.