What is the perfect number of kids to have?

[4maxnrob]

well right now i have a 22month old and i want to have at least one more and pray that it is a girl, but if its a boy then try one more time....a lot of people tell me that one is enough but i dont feel right with just one child...my heart tells me to have at least one more and if god allows me to have two more....i dont know what are your opinions girls??

[earnhardt1]

i want one more but cant have anymore..... i would love to have a girl

[ahippiechic]

I always just wanted one. But I met someone when my son was 20 and we decided we wanted a child. So I have 2 now (boy and girl) and I think that's just perfect for me, even tho they are far apart in age. SO, just do what feels right for you and your DH.

[Army-Mom]

I wanted six, but after my first one the dr told me not to get pregant again it might kill me..well I divorced my first husband and meet a man with no kids so I took my chance and had two more and the third one did just about kill me so I had my tubes tied..But now Misti you know I want my Arabella...lol..I couldnt have her but you can..

[4maxnrob]

LOL, I WANT AN ARABELLA TOO LOL, BUT WE WILL SEE HOW ROBBIE WORKS IF YOU KNOW WHAT I MEAN, MAYBE THE TWINS WILL POP OUT FINALLY...LOL..THEN WHAT WILL I DO....:2in1: I GUESS I WILL HAVE TO BE IN TWO PLACES AT ONCE

[Army-Mom]

LOL, I WANT AN ARABELLA TOO LOL, BUT WE WILL SEE HOW ROBBIE WORKS IF YOU KNOW WHAT I MEAN, MAYBE THE TWINS WILL POP OUT FINALLY...LOL..THEN WHAT WILL I DO....:2in1: I GUESS I WILL HAVE TO BE IN TWO PLACES AT ONCE

yes, since I am a twin myself it could happen..and sister in law lost triplets too..

[MistyWolf]

For me the perfect number is 2 which is what I have .. I couldn't handle a house full of kids (I think .. lol) .. I'd probably be in the looney bin!

I have 2 girls and I LOVE my girls, but believe me, they can try you so bad at times. I hear boys are easier and I can believe it .. lol.

[VenusA423]

I don't think the perfect number is the same for everyone. I have a 5 year old girl and 8 month old boy. Took me a couple years to get my son, but I think it ended up being better for me that way. Still don't feel like I'm done yet.. my husband does, tho.. lol. He says he'll be happy with whatever I choose. I plan to wait at least a couple years if we try for another.

[dv8grl]

For me ZERO!!!

[MamaFairal]

I only ever wanted 2....just 2!

I had my girls 4 1/2 yrs apart so one would be in school and i would be home with the other when they were little....worked out fine! They are close to each other, hang out with each other...best of friends!

My girls are now 20 & 24 and both still live with me an i love it...
In 2006 we took in Selena who is now 8 yo and her adoption will be final Jan 18, 2008...so now we're a family of 4

Works for us :D
* i wanted to add: i was a single mom from 1989 on so anyone can do it.

[tngirl]

Zero

[ladybugva]

It really depends on you and your family. I had a co worker who had 1 and was so happy w/ just one. We used to talk about 4 (even numbers and all) but we are done w/ 3 b/c my last 2 are jsut alike and very active and very trying. LOL I was scared that #4 would be just like #2 and #3. They are all boys.

Try to be sure it is what DH want's alos. My Brother has 3 boys and wife wants another, she is hoping for a girl but wanted 4 from the beg. He was done w/ 2 and I worry that it might strain the marriage and could hinder the relationship w/ the other kids if he didn't really want more but is giving in to her.

[Eyore]

I don't know if there is a perfect number for how many kids you have.
I did hear alot of people are choosing to have one child so they can give it more and to be able to give the child a better education later on. Basically because it is cheaper to raise one.
I think you have to do what is best for you guys and what you can afford to do.
I had 2 children, one boy and one girl they are now 28 and 25.
I personally didn't want anymore children plus I hemorrhaged after having both of my kids and that scared me also to not want anymore.

[hunny]

Zero for me

[BeanieLuvR]

Two was right for us. I have a 20 year old daughter and a 13 year old son.

[sheila_361]

2 was good and plenty for me, my sons are are very close in age, the youngest is 22, will be 23 in Jan and the oldest he's 24. I had always wanted a little girl, so I was thrilled when my oldest and his wife had a baby girl.

[ljtaylor]

I have 2 boys. That's enough for me. I never wanted any girls. My sis has 5 and that's just too much to handle.

[hotwheelstx]

I always just wanted one. But I met someone when my son was 20 and we decided we wanted a child. So I have 2 now (boy and girl) and I think that's just perfect for me, even tho they are far apart in age. SO, just do what feels right for you and your DH.

You're like my momma was. I was an "only" girl for 16 1/2 years. Then ta-da momma became pregnant. Really a strange feeling being the only and then having another one. I'm now 44 and my baby brother just turned 27 last week.

Needless to say I learned really quick you can't send them back where they came from, can't give them away....they're always there. My mother had a lot of problems being pregnant at almost 40. I still remember her telling me you (me) were so easy to carry, deliver. Baby brother wasn't.....hence I decided not to have any. Besides she also told me no matter what I and my brother would be her "babies" for the rest of her life. It was true until the day she passed away last year.

[Bliss]

None... I do have a 16 yr old son. I never planned on having children, I didn't want to be a parent. You know how it goes.

[ilovecats]

There is no "perfect"number.what people want and/or get is as varied as can be.No one can tell you the perfect number,it does not exist.perfect is whatever you think it is.

[cuddlebugg]

We have 4 the oldest just turned 16 and the youngest will be 10 in May, the oldest 3 are boys the youngest our girl. We had decided when I was pregnant with the 3rd that it would be our last regardless of the sex of it. Things happened and I ended up pregnant with number 4. Wouldn't trade her for the world. Growing up I felt like an only child I have 2 sisters one is 7 yrs younger, the other 14 yrs younger, she is only 10 months older than my oldest. We have no relationship and don't speak hardly at all. My husband has 3 sisters and a brother, he is the youngest by 8 years. For us we knew all along that are kids would be close in age. No one can tell you what is right or wrong for you and your husband, it's what you want.

[Wimzik]

I only wanted 2, but I ended up with 3, because the second time was twins:eek: I'm very happy with what I've got and wouldn't change a thing, I am definitely done now though lol I don't think there is a perfect number, just whatever is right for you. :)

[lavena1975]

I WANTED 1 BUT ENDED UP WITH 4, AGES 10, 7, 6,6
IF THE 6 YR OLDS WOULD HAVE BEEN BORN FIRST THERE WOULD HAVE NOT BEEN ANYMORE!! AND I WAS ON THE PILL WITH ALL OF THEM :nono

[taylyn]

I have 4 , but I think I should've only had One!!

I think 1 is a good Number.

Babies are so sweet -
But think of how many Teenagers you want.

Really think of your Life with older EXPENSIVE kids and decide how many you can Handle emotionally and financially.

Only 1 of mine was really planned.


Although I am kind of looking forward to the day when I have 4 grown Children. :)

I will Be glad I had them then!!

Not that I don't love them now .... its just alot of work , this Parenting thing while you are actually doing it day in and out!

I've got them age 3 - 18 ... so , I am drained!!

[PrincessArky]

I have 4 , but I think I should've only had One!!

I think 1 is a good Number.

Babies are so sweet -
But think of how many Teenagers you want.

Really think of your Life with older EXPENSIVE kids and decide how many you can Handle emotionally and financially.

Only 1 of mine was really planned.


Although I am kind of looking forward to the day when I have 4 grown Children. :)

I will Be glad I had them then!!

Not that I don't love them now .... its just alot of work , this Parenting thing while you are actually doing it day in and out!

I've got them age 3 - 18 ... so , I am drained!!

oh I hear ya believe me..........mine are 12, 10, 3, and 2 at the moment in a couple of months we will be 12, 10, 4, and 3 and damn I cant see a finish line anywhere lol

[evrita]

I think it all depends on who you are. I wanted to have 2 and then I had my first 2 and after I lost my first 2 and then I had my DD and we were going to have another one after her and OH MY when she was 3 we looked at each other and said do you want another one like her and we both agreed nope!! She is very strong willed and has a heck of a temper and knows what she wants which isnt a bad thing but wow. I get told all the time from strangers how rude we are and how we have deprived her of having a sibling. I tell them she has 4 others 2 in heaven and 2 half siblings and if they would like to have the kids for me and give me the money to rasie them I would be glad to have more.

[Shann]

Zero

:rofl: LMAO!!!!

I agree w/ the others, there is not right number, it's what you feel is right.

[freeby4me]

My right number is one. Everything we have is based on the One. There is NO ROOM for anymore LOL

[magenta]

The right number for me is 3. They won't go back to where they came from & I can't afford boarding school! lol
Mine are 14, 12 and almost 6. None were planned. First 2 I was on the pill, we didn't see 3rd coming either!

My 14 & 12 year olds are 22 months apart. It was easier for me to have them close together. Having them so far apart from my youngest was tough. It was starting all over again back at the beginning. They are in Jr High & youngest just started Kindergarten this year.

I'll tell you something else, having 2 in diapers was easier than having 2 in Jr High. Whoever said about having teenagers instead of babies I hear you! lol

[Willow]

Two was right for us. I have a 20 year old daughter and a 13 year old son.

That's the ages of my kids, too. My daughter will be 20 at the end of the month and my son will be 14 in February. I don't think there is a perfect number. It's whatever you and your husband decide on.

[tnfuhs]

I would have been happy with just my 3 from my first marriage, but then when I got married the 2nd time, we wanted kids together, so there came 2 more, then my last one was an oops, but I wouldn't give any of them up for anything in the world, and I'm glad I have them. Its hard during the holidays tho, they have learned not to expect too much, since it is quite expensive the older they get.

[MamaArc]

I have 2 and that's perfect for me, they are 4 years apart, but they are typical kids, they fight all the time...lol My son is 17 and daughter is 13. I think it's up to you how many you want and can afford, it's not so bad when they are younger it's when they get in the double digits that it gets really expensive.

[PrincessArky]

I think it all depends on who you are. I wanted to have 2 and then I had my first 2 and after I lost my first 2 and then I had my DD and we were going to have another one after her and OH MY when she was 3 we looked at each other and said do you want another one like her and we both agreed nope!! She is very strong willed and has a heck of a temper and knows what she wants which isnt a bad thing but wow. I get told all the time from strangers how rude we are and how we have deprived her of having a sibling. I tell them she has 4 others 2 in heaven and 2 half siblings and if they would like to have the kids for me and give me the money to rasie them I would be glad to have more.

wow I can't even imagine how hard it must be to have lost 2 children :( And yeah there are always ppl in the world telling ya either you dont have enough kids or too many in my case lol

[sandooch]

My right number is 2, but I did debate for a long time, after having my first daughter, if she should be an only child. I only struggled with this decision because I had an absolutley awful labor and delivery with her.

But one night when she was 2, I watched her laughing as she sat on the couch in her pull ups and nothing else, hair all mussed up, munching on baby carrats and watching a cartoon. I got a warm and tingly feeling and made up my mind right there to have another child. I thought, "How can I not give her a sibling to love and play with?"

I got pregnant right away but miscarried. It took 9 months more, and I got pregnant again and had another girl. Just what I wanted because my sister and I are so close and I wanted the same for my children.

They are 13 and (almost 17) now and are as close as 2 sisters could ever be. We are a happy little family.

But I agree with the others...it's what your heart desires and how many you can afford to raise that matters, whether it be one, two, three, ten or zero.

My younger sister just had her second baby at almost 42 years old, and everyone keeps telling me that I should have another (I'm 45). I tell them they're nuts; I'm perfectly fine with my 2 girls. I no longer have the desire, much less the energy, to raise another child at this point in my life.

[tracey74]

I have 2 a boy 14(15 in feb) and a daughter who just turned 12 in sept and thats it for me(I lost one in between my son and daughter and almost bled to death with my son and almost lost my daughter-her cord was wraped around her neck)I do not want anymore kids my 2 fight over the stupidest littlest things they use to physically fight(fists and all although my son ended up getting the worst of it most of the time).I couldnt deal with a baby now especially getting up every 2 hrs to feed the baby) although Im sure my 2 would help mentally I couldnt deal with any more kids lol.although if it happened then Id have to deal with it somehow, but 2 is plenty for me.wouldnt trade them for the world but sometimes they can be PITAs lol but I love them to death.and also the drs told me not to have anymore as either i could die or the baby or both so Im trying to prevent that from happening.

[MOM2B2003]

I have 2 boys who just turned 2 and 4 in September. Prior to having the youngest, we decided to have just 2 and we were trying for 2 boys. When I was pregnant for the youngest, I started feeling differently. I am still trying to convince hubby to have one more, and I would like to try for a girl. I would be happy with a boy, too. However, some days I am not sure. It is still an open topic as nothing "permanent" has been done yet.

[flute]

I think the number of kids depends on what you want.

I want 2 or 3. I'm still undecided

[jedmatters]

WE HAVE 2!!
Our son is 18, a senior.... Our daughter is 10 and in 5th grade.



Both of my brothers have 3 girls each.

My sister has none. And that is a good thing. Some people are not parent material, and they know it.

[belleofpa]

I have 2 a son and a daughter. I think it all depends on the person. If you can afford to have more, go for it. Two was plenty for me.