I hate depression

[belle5691]

Especially around the holiday season!!!

Who do you go to talk to---when you honest to God have NO ONE to say the things you need or want to say? I work---but thru a temp agency, have no benefits, so no insurance--just enough money to survive on, so not enough to pay for help. Plus, no I'm not a threat to myself---but what if they think I am, and I get admitted to a hospital or something---have been there before when I did have insurance....and then things get even more messed up cause I can't keep up anymore?

[pepperpot]

((hugs)) I wish I had answers, I don't...((hugs))

[YankeeMary]

There should be counselors in your area that are based on income, or you should have a county mental health office, and they are based on a sliding scale and sometimes free. Contact NAMI, they should have a list to call or can at least directed you to the right place. www.nami.org

[BeanieLuvR]

((((belle5691)))) I will be praying for you. If it would help to just talk about it pm me. I will be glad to listen.

[Army-Mom]

praying for you..

[Shann]

{{{{hugs}}}} I don't have the answers either. I know how hard it is to feel so low and it's so hard to get out of that rut. I've been there and sometimes teeter on the edge of going back every now and again. If you need someone to talk to, you're welcome to PM me. I hope things get better.

[janelle]

Do you belong to a church community? I know many people would have no where to go if not for their church.

I belonged to a nondenominational church and they had many single people that got together during the holidays. Also, the church had potlucks. The janitor was a single man who lived alone. His church family took care of him many times. Inviting him over for dinner. One family in particular had him babysit for them and he ate at their house many times.

He and the other people, no matter who always felt a part of the community since they had programs this time of year. The kids put on plays and they had programs and prayer services so people had something to do most of the time.

People now have the internet so it is a huge help this time of year. You can make friends online. Just chatting back and forth helps. There are so many people in the same boat right in your community. I hope you can connect to others with the same problem. I had a few phone friends when I was single and they help so much.

[Mom2Shaun]

Believe me, I've been there too, and I really feel for you! I went thru a very serious depression years ago, and I felt that things had never been good, weren't good now, and would never be good. So I know how miserable it can be. But I'm happy in my life now. If you can just hang on for a while, things will eventually get better. and you can be happy again!.

I've found 2 things that helped pull me out of a depression. Maybe they'll help you too:

1. Accomplishing something. When I was depressed, I couldn't get myself to clean the house, let alone anything else! All I wanted to do was lie on the couch and watch TV. So I made a deal with myself. I could lie on the couch IF I got up during every commercial and did some cleaning, paid a bill, did something productive. At the end of the day, I would list every darn little thing I had done and feel a little better about myself. It helped.
2. Get up, get out, be with people, one way or another. I just talked to the Salvation Army because my brother is extremely depressed and we thought serving turkey dinners to the homeless would make him feel better. Unfortunately, they don't do that. However, they told me they need volunteers to set up boxes for food give-aways. They're especially desperate for volunteers to sort boxes of donated toys. (So many of them have been recalled, with lead paint or whatever.) Now that sounds like fun; you'll be doing something painless and working with other good people, all for a wonderful and cheerful cause.

I'm not trying to push you, because I know you don't need that know. But try #1 for a little while and see if you start to feel stronger. And hang in there; in a while, life will be on the upswing again.

[chyna123]

I know exactly what your going through right now... I am also going through some rough times myself and I have tried and tried to look at the brighter side of things but I just cant seem to find it.....

[belle5691]

Thank you all for your replys and offers to listen. It is appreciated more than you can ever know. If I can just hold on till January and life gets back to normal and you dont have to keep pretending in front of everyone else......:-)

[janelle]

Believe me hon, everyone is pretending in front of you too. You are not alone. Even those who have relatives coming over are depressed---why do I have to put up with these jerks? KWIM?

Get some fun and funny movies if you cannot connect with others and look at them. Doesn't need to be about the holidays, just whatever makes you laugh.

There is just too much dang espectations this time of year to be everything to everybody. Impossible all around.

Do whatever you want whenever you want. If you are free to do that you are ahead of everyone else. You don't need money to be happy. I think those who have a lot or more depressed than others.

[belle5691]

I think thats just it---Im not able to do what I want, which is just relax at home. Im expected to be "places" and I swear my family has to be listen in the top 10 most disfunctional. LOL. Got some health news -- was referred to a specialist a week or 2 ago, can't afford to go, but my application was processed incorrectly so was told today to come in, in person, sit for up to 6 or 7 hours (till it was my turn) to have my application for a discount approved, I just have to say one sentence to them: Please consider my application for future services (discounted) as I have no back services. They dont seem to appreciate the fact that I refused to run up bills at their facility without some discount or approval...and wait for them to approve --anyway, long explanation. I have parents who expect me to be there (3 hours away), but aren't real happy that my brother who lives in the same town as my parents actually had to invite himself and his family to Thanksgiving to be with family. My parents werent going to invite him. No major reason---just disfunctional. Thats the major stuff right now....Then the little stuff added up...till now I cant seem to separate it all. I appreciate all the good thoughts from everyone. It does help...believe it or not. Thank you.

[janelle]

HMMMM sounds like a lot of families now. Sorry this is making you so depressed. Try to do what you can and not let it bother you. We can all chose how things affect us even though it's hard. Sucky I know, but if we react differently others have to change to our reaction if you know what I mean.

Seems like others are bringing you down. Try to keep your visit short. Huggs and just know you are not alone.

[ang in NC]

I am sorry, things are rough and getting rougher!

[iluvmybaby]

Especially around the holiday season!!!

Who do you go to talk to---when you honest to God have NO ONE to say the things you need or want to say? I work---but thru a temp agency, have no benefits, so no insurance--just enough money to survive on, so not enough to pay for help. Plus, no I'm not a threat to myself---but what if they think I am, and I get admitted to a hospital or something---have been there before when I did have insurance....and then things get even more messed up cause I can't keep up anymore?


I work with people and around the holidays I see so many people who are just SO depressed, it's like eeyore with a black cloud hanging over his head. I have depression but I try to nip it in the bud and the beginning of the cycle through redirection. I hope that things look up for you and that you get to feeling better soon. Are you on medication? If you are and can't afford it, go to the PPA which can get you yours meds free/at low cost. If you are low income, you can get a 30 day supply FREE. Do you have a Quico or a Mental Health center in your area that lets you see Dr's on a sliding fee bases?