G'maDebbie
10-26-2007, 10:01 AM
I really need to VENT!!
My husband may not be perfect, but I will tell you that he has a heart of gold. He does things for people out of the kindness of his heart, and more times than not, they don't even have to ask him, he just does it and very rarely ever gets paid (which doesn't bother him in the least).
Last month my husband started with a sore/stiff neck. He figured he slept on it wrong and it would go away, well, within the next couple of days he ended up in the emergency room not able to move his head at all. After many long hours and many tests, it was discovered that he has spinal stenosis, which is narrowing of the spine. It is very painful and can be very dangerous if it causes pressure on the spinal cord.
Do you think for one minute that all the people he has helped out would even call to find out if he is ok, or to see if there is anything he might need? He has been out of work for a month now, and he is always telling me how he is putting money in these boxes they are always passing around for one reason or another at work for someone who is ill or hurt...etc.....do you think they are passing one around for him? Hell NO!
Although it would be nice to have some help, as we are struggling to pay our bills at the time, it's really not even about that. It's about the fact that my husband more times than not puts other people before himself without blinking an eye. I have gotten upset with him at times cause he forgets that he has responsibilities at home as well. If he knows someone has a project going on, he is there!
I feel really bad for him, although he hasn't said anything, I can tell that his feelings are hurt. It isn't easy for him to have to sit at home and do nothing either, he is ALWAYS busy doing one thing or another. You would think maybe just one person would come over and just sit and talk with him for awhile.
Thanks for letting me vent. :confused:
My husband may not be perfect, but I will tell you that he has a heart of gold. He does things for people out of the kindness of his heart, and more times than not, they don't even have to ask him, he just does it and very rarely ever gets paid (which doesn't bother him in the least).
Last month my husband started with a sore/stiff neck. He figured he slept on it wrong and it would go away, well, within the next couple of days he ended up in the emergency room not able to move his head at all. After many long hours and many tests, it was discovered that he has spinal stenosis, which is narrowing of the spine. It is very painful and can be very dangerous if it causes pressure on the spinal cord.
Do you think for one minute that all the people he has helped out would even call to find out if he is ok, or to see if there is anything he might need? He has been out of work for a month now, and he is always telling me how he is putting money in these boxes they are always passing around for one reason or another at work for someone who is ill or hurt...etc.....do you think they are passing one around for him? Hell NO!
Although it would be nice to have some help, as we are struggling to pay our bills at the time, it's really not even about that. It's about the fact that my husband more times than not puts other people before himself without blinking an eye. I have gotten upset with him at times cause he forgets that he has responsibilities at home as well. If he knows someone has a project going on, he is there!
I feel really bad for him, although he hasn't said anything, I can tell that his feelings are hurt. It isn't easy for him to have to sit at home and do nothing either, he is ALWAYS busy doing one thing or another. You would think maybe just one person would come over and just sit and talk with him for awhile.
Thanks for letting me vent. :confused: