am I a failure?

[tljohn123]

Sitting here, taking a break from packing oh what fun. Just thinking about things from the past....two marriages down the drain, credit is wrecked because of everything going on, and I feel like the world's biggest failure. Last night I went to the house and just looked around.....I tried to show people I could actually do something on my own without having my ex around, and it all blew up in my face. I hate this! I feel like I'm totally spinning my wheels and just going nowhere! I think i just want to crawl under the nearest rock and just not come out.

Where the heck do I go from here? I know things could be worse...much much worse. I just try and take things one day at a time, the best thing I can think of.

[kelblend]

We all have things blow up in our faces. It doesn't mean you are a failure, it simply means you tried. That is a good thing by the way. Things will get better.

[cpbaby]

Someone who has never failed, never tried anything new. There are plenty of people who sit in their safe, little cocoons and say HEY, LOOK AT ME, I AM A WINNER! IM BETTER THEN YOU FAILURES OVER YONDER! But they just weren't brave enough to try anything out of their comfort zone.


Things will get better. Just keep hanging on.

[pepperpot]

Where the heck do I go from here?

On wards and up wards! Take deep breaths and don't look back....((hugs))

[Charley01]

you're not in prison for murder and you love your family then you're not a failure. everybody goes thru bad things just remember this too shall pass.

[Kimberly61]

if it werent for the past you wouldnt have a future. Just keep your head up and keep looking forward, your day will come.

[Pepsi4me]

At least you tried & that's a lot more than most people do.

[ahippiechic]

At least you tried & that's a lot more than most people do.

So true and I bet you have learned things from this time in your life that will help you later on. We all fail at one time or another, no one is perfect. You seem to be handling it well also, some people just give up.

As for where you go from here, why...anywhere! But you don't have to decide this very moment. Take some time, think about things, heal.

[iluvmybaby]

I don't think you are a failure, I think that you are trying to be independent and do your own thing, and you are doing a good job. Who needs a darn man anyways, all they do is itch themselves and steal the remote ((j/k trying to make you laugh))

[mosdata1]

Please know that this difficult time WILL come to an end, and you WILL be better off. I know that it is a small comfort, but know that you will get through this.
I will pray that things get better & continue to improve for you.

[andreame70]

Teresa! What the heck is going on? I just tried calling you and left you a voice mail. No! You are not a failure. You have struggled through and dug yourself out of so much lately, I consider that to be successful! Call me GF!

Andrea

[Shann]

I agree, you are NOT a failure. Once you hit rock bottom, you can only go up and it sounds like this is your rock bottom. Things will get better and you have us here to help you through it.

[turbob]

You tried, that is all you can do. You are not a failure because things didn't work out. The only way you could be a failure is if you didn't try at all! hugs to you.

[squirt661]

OUCH. Do not take this wrong, but, for you to ask if you are a failure when you have done the best you can do, that hurts me to think you feel that way. NEVER EVER give up on yourself or what you think is right. If you have done your best, guess what, you have done your best. Better than doing nothing. Hold your head up HIGH and feel proud because you tried.

[DestinysGrandma]

This is my motto and i know how bad things can seem.

There is no such thing as failure, there is only good and bad reality, and more is learned from the bad, sometimes, than the good. As hard as it may be the bad, opens us up to the real world and reawakens the clarity of vision known only to those of us who risked and tasted the bad. Never failing at all is failing in the biggest way. Avoiding risk altogether, you cannot help but fall short of what might have been.

{{{{HUGS}}}}

[Lasher]

Never confuse a single defeat with a final defeat. ~F. Scott Fitzgerald

[NoFoolPrice]

Nope, not a failure, not in my book anyway. Honey, women are the winners of this world! We struggle to keep families together, husbands, children - even pets. We are the heart of the world. We can only do so much, don't hold yourself responsible for other's wrongdoings.
Sit down, take a deep breath, and then realize that you have an opportunity. a door waiting to be opened - and then take full advantage!
You write very well, you expressed your deepest feelings and opened yourself to the women on this board, and guess what?!? the response was overwhelming love and resepect. How could a loser possibly deserve that response?
I predict that you will go on to a much more rewarding and appreciated life, just remember to respect yourself.

[PrincessArky]

I agree, you are NOT a failure. Once you hit rock bottom, you can only go up and it sounds like this is your rock bottom. Things will get better and you have us here to help you through it.

exactly


I truly believe what doesn't kill us really does make us stronger :)

I will keep ya in my thoughts and prayers :)

[tljohn123]

I honestly don't know what I would do without all of you being my sounding board. I called sweetie the other day just miserable as heck----just wanted him to tell me he loved me and things would be ok. He did....but only after I requested it lol.

I guess I know deep down I am NOT a failure...I've just made some very bad choices in my life. I know I shouldn't have bought the house because it was just too much for me. But how the heck was I to know I'd be out of work for so long? Or that my brother and his wife would screw me over AGAIN! I think this time around, I'm taking off the rose colored glasses. Maybe see things a bit more clearly and not be blinded by emotion.

On another subject, we finished moving me out of the house today. Got everything stuffed into a mini warehouse (now that was fun), I think I cracked my knuckle (beautiful purple and blue and red and swollen). The only thing I have left at the house is a plant and my computer. The kids helped a great deal (cept the 8 year old, he'd rather play) but I had to bribe them to do it. It was worth it though. And my back is killing me but this too shall pass.

Thanks for responding everyone...you're all truly awesome. And Andrea....thank you for listening to me yesterday, even if I didn't make sense. Muahhhhhh!

[andreame70]

You made perfect sense doll! It was great to hear from you. Call me anytime, you know I love to hear from ya!

[Angelseyes28]

Yikes, ice that finger to bring the swelling down.
I hope you are starting to feel better about yourself. Everyone makes bad choices at some point and no one thinks you are a failure.

[tljohn123]

I actually am starting to feel a bit better about myself. I realize there are just some things I can't control and it WILL get better eventually.

The finger looks hideous but it's not swollen anymore. I still don't know what I did! But it's a beautiful shade of purple now! And now I have to go to work.....ugh

[PrincessArky]

I actually am starting to feel a bit better about myself. I realize there are just some things I can't control and it WILL get better eventually.

The finger looks hideous but it's not swollen anymore. I still don't know what I did! But it's a beautiful shade of purple now! And now I have to go to work.....ugh

glad you are feeling better, and take care of that finger

[dlwt]

They cant make ya "jump off the bridge".
Heres something a friend told me the other day and i love it, hope you do 2.

There's a Reason the Rear View Mirror is so small,
and the Windshield so BIG
Glance Back
Focus Forward

So hun you can look back but just focus on your future
Good luck we are all cheering you on and thinking good thoughts for ya

[xtrememom]

Teresa honey you are not a failure, sometimes things happen for a reason and maybe this happened because it was time to slow down and get a fresh start. You have been through so so so much in the last year with your back, the surgery the time off work, it could not be helped you only have the future to look forward to and its going to be much brighter I just know it is.

I have hit rock bottom where I had no home, no job, no car and was living in a tent and let me tell you I never once felt like a failure I came out of it and am a better person for it today.

Just focus on the future take it one day at a time.

Xtrememom

[sunniekiss]

You are so NOT a failure! I had a 25 year marraige end b/c my EX went through a mid-life crisis & scrweed around on me.
You are going to do just what I had to do,pick yourself up off the ground & dust yourself off, wipe away your tears & get pi$$ed-off enough to get even by living well.
I went from being a SAHM to runnning a business almost single handed. Sure it is still tough, Saturday nights are the worst, & trying to make ends meet gets scary but eventually you will make it through.
Every day, look at yourself in the mirror and say to yourself, I AM A STRONG & CAPABLE WOMAN. I CAN DO THIS ON MY OWN!
Feel free to PM me any time you want. I can relate & be a shoulder to lean & cry on.

[jimorrison]

Keep fighting for what you want! never give up and stay focused