End o schoolyear and grades!!! and IEP...!

[kidzpca]

Nevermind. I just had to get this off my chest...

I'm really more concerned with my son's education and the schools just passing kids on because they attend class and breathe...

I honestly am on the teachers' side but do want son to repeat 7th grade if he honestly doesn't pass his classes IEP or no IEP. It really doesn't matter if he graduates from school in 2012 vs 2013. I just want him to get and education and be able to survive in the "real world". If that makes me a bad parent. So be it.

[kidzpca]

It is a homework issue with the added I want to switch middle schools 'cause my friends go there. Um...we don't live in the school boundries and our city doesn't allow out of area transport etc. Besides I won't sell my house and move or have another $100,000 to $1,000,000 to buy on the ritzy ***** side of town in order for him to have his way.

And part of it was that He has had mind you, 5 assignment notebooks this year all aledgidly lost/stolen. More likely conveniently misplaced/tossed. And I'm tired of it being my responsibility. It is my son's and he must account for it. He is the one going to school. Not me.

Not gonna do it. So he suffers.

As for his grades, It is a constant struggle and if HE doesn't do the work I say have him repeat 7th grade. Don't just pass him because he is in class and breathes.

If this makes me a bad parent then I hope I win the award for Worst Parent in the USA. So be it. And someone posted I was an enabler...B*** I just want my son to get an education and I don't care if he graduates in 2012 or 2013.

[freeby4me]

(((HUGS))) I agree with you about keeping him back. Go in and tell them that you want him held back. You dont want to teach him that if he just "shows up" thats good enough, That wont get ya a paycheck in the real world right. I agree also that its not your "total" responsibility to make sure hes doing everything. I think you need to be "plugged in" but also make him realize its up to him to make it happen.
It also doesnt help that Michigan schools are getting horrible budget cuts which means things are going to be stretched even farther. (((HUGS))) Things will get better. :)

[azwup05]

Pat yourself on the back dear, and don't worry so much. You aren't the only one that is getting tired of the calls on the answering machines, and the yearlong fight. I too have made the same decission and am allowing my son to just fail this year. I figure it's better now than later when I have less control.

[cpbaby]

Mine is a junior this year instead of a senior due to the same problem in 8th grade and he repeated it. He was a "freshman" for 2 years, then made up enough classes in summer school to be a junior, now we arent certain he will pass this semester. OH WELL.......He HAS to get his diploma. If it takes him till hes 23, SO BE IT....He wont EVER pass his GED so graduating high school is his only option.

[kidzpca]

Pat yourself on the back dear, and don't worry so much. You aren't the only one that is getting tired of the calls on the answering machines, and the yearlong fight. I too have made the same decission and am allowing my son to just fail this year. I figure it's better now than later when I have less control.

Thank you. ;)

[buglebe]

I agree with you about wanting your son to learn and not just pass for being in his chair at school. We pulled our son out of bed every morning and took him to school his senior year. Yep we met so many times also with the principal. But we got him through it. He was smoking pot daily and I was an RN and I didn't even have sense enough to know. And I thought I was an aware parent!! That was years ago and he is so greatful to us for doing that for him then.

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[buglebe]

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[ahippiechic]

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Just a spammer. They have to have 10 posts or the link shows up as stars. (Unless the know how to get around it)

[freeby4me]

OK so how bout an update??

[Fred12]

I agree with the OP his son's education is much more important that just passing him beacuse he is there and breathing. Good for you kidzpca!

I am working with a boy now that is 19 and a senior in high school and he can't read or write. I asked him to write his abc's for me and he wrote abdegh, and I am not kidding. I gave him a cat in the hat book and he couldn't read it. He has downs syndrome. I have worked with many downs syndrome kids and they (at least the ones I have worked with in the past) learned how to read and write. Maybe some can't learn, I really don't know. But from everything I have seen. His problem is that everyone dropped the ball on this poor kid. The school, the one on one aide and his dad. I am teaching him how to read and write. I printed out preschool stuff and starting at the very beginning, sounding out letters and he is enjoying it. In his case (IMO) he just needed someone to take the time and when the school dropped the ball the parent should have noticed. The kid I am talking about may never learn algebra but he is going to learn to read and write if I have anything to say about it. And I hate the word "can't" I had parents tell me their kid "can't" do this or "can't" do that and after working with the child, they showed the parents that they could. I even had a parent say their kid couldn't wipe his own butt because his arms were too short... yeah right! He learned how to do that real fast. His special ed teacher said he would never know his own phone number (gggrrrr.....some teacher) and three days later he knew his phone number and his address. (Showed her!!) I didn't mean to vent in your thread kidzpca (sorry) but I agree with you 100% and it makes me so mad that some schools don't seem to care.

[kidzpca]

I agree with the OP his son's education is much more important that just passing him beacuse he is there and breathing. Good for you kidzpca!

I am working with a boy now that is 19 and a senior in high school and he can't read or write. I asked him to write his abc's for me and he wrote abdegh, and I am not kidding. I gave him a cat in the hat book and he couldn't read it. He has downs syndrome. I have worked with many downs syndrome kids and they (at least the ones I have worked with in the past) learned how to read and write. Maybe some can't learn, I really don't know. But from everything I have seen. His problem is that everyone dropped the ball on this poor kid. The school, the one on one aide and his dad. I am teaching him how to read and write. I printed out preschool stuff and starting at the very beginning, sounding out letters and he is enjoying it. In his case (IMO) he just needed someone to take the time and when the school dropped the ball the parent should have noticed. The kid I am talking about may never learn algebra but he is going to learn to read and write if I have anything to say about it. And I hate the word "can't" I had parents tell me their kid "can't" do this or "can't" do that and after working with the child, they showed the parents that they could. I even had a parent say their kid couldn't wipe his own butt because his arms were too short... yeah right! He learned how to do that real fast. His special ed teacher said he would never know his own phone number (gggrrrr.....some teacher) and three days later he knew his phone number and his address. (Showed her!!) I didn't mean to vent in your thread kidzpca (sorry) but I agree with you 100% and it makes me so mad that some schools don't seem to care.

Vent away ITA..with ya....