umm...what?

[tljohn123]

Today my idiot brother announces that he just married his g/f of 12 years that he has two children with. He complains that no one threw him a bachelor party...and no one gave him any wedding presents and oh by the way, what are you giving us? I said...well, you didn't tell anyone you were getting married first off, and 2nd, I don't have money for myself let alone YOU! He conned the older lady that lives across the street from me into giving them her and her deceased husband's wedding rings (isn't that something you'd pass along to your children???), got her to pay for the wedding at the courthouse, and also for the marriage license because 'we have no money'.

People have told this lady what a con artist my brother is and a liar to boot. But because he goes to church he's a 'good' boy and she won't believe anyone who tells her otherwise.

Now he wants me to take him to the mall so that he can get this ring sized AND he wants me to take him to his recruiters office in an hour!

And before I forget....if there are any people in the military here...can someone tell me how he can get in if he's 35, drug abuser, history of heart attack, and has had two strokes! He claims that the army doesn't know about it and never will. And he also claims that they will let him continue taking drugs in the army! I've never heard of this and just don't understand it! Anyone?

[ahippiechic]

And before I forget....if there are any people in the military here...can someone tell me how he can get in if he's 35, drug abuser, history of heart attack, and has had two strokes! He claims that the army doesn't know about it and never will. And he also claims that they will let him continue taking drugs in the army! I've never heard of this and just don't understand it! Anyone?

I want some of what he's on, if he really believes that!

[buttrfli]

He conned the older lady that lives across the street from me into giving them her and her deceased husband's wedding rings (isn't that something you'd pass along to your children???), got her to pay for the wedding at the courthouse, and also for the marriage license because 'we have no money'.


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That's just sick and sad :(

[Shann]

He conned the older lady that lives across the street from me into giving them her and her deceased husband's wedding rings (isn't that something you'd pass along to your children???), got her to pay for the wedding at the courthouse, and also for the marriage license because 'we have no money'.

I agree w/ Buttrfli, how sad. :( I like how you've become his personal taxi... I think I would tell him where he can stick that "you're going to do everything for me" attitude. If he's 35, he needs to grow up and learn to fend for himself, not expect others to do it for him. :rolleyes: {{{{hugs}}}} I hope you have a better brother-free day :D

[tljohn123]

I agree w/ Buttrfli, how sad. :( I like how you've become his personal taxi... I think I would tell him where he can stick that "you're going to do everything for me" attitude. If he's 35, he needs to grow up and learn to fend for himself, not expect others to do it for him. :rolleyes: {{{{hugs}}}} I hope you have a better brother-free day :D

Yup then he wanted to TAKE my car! No way is hot foot Hannah taking my car! he's a treasure alright...at least my baby brother is 10 times better than that brother.
Yes, it's sad he was and still is able to con my neighbors into thinking he's better than what he really is. We tried to tell them...but they won't listen. I just wonder what he's said about me. My next door neighbor used to mow my grass and shovel my walks for me. But since dear ole bro moved to this neighborhood....that neighbor hasn't.
I really don't know if he's in the Army or not. I pray to god he's NOT. I wouldn't want my nations security in his hands!

[belcherpi]

And before I forget....if there are any people in the military here...can someone tell me how he can get in if he's 35, drug abuser, history of heart attack, and has had two strokes! He claims that the army doesn't know about it and never will. And he also claims that they will let him continue taking drugs in the army! I've never heard of this and just don't understand it! Anyone?

Well if he was anywhere near South Dakota he wouldn't get in the Army. My husband works at a MEPS which is where your brother would have to go for his physical and other things before he is enlisted. I have a strong feeling they will find out ALL his little secrets. :D If your brother actually is enlisted in the Army it would be very surprising because it wouldn't happen here.

[DrGrin]

And before I forget....if there are any people in the military here...can someone tell me how he can get in if he's 35, drug abuser, history of heart attack, and has had two strokes! He claims that the army doesn't know about it and never will. And he also claims that they will let him continue taking drugs in the army! I've never heard of this and just don't understand it! Anyone?

With a health record like that, he couldn't get in. He'd be surprised what the military can find out about him that he thinks they don't know. He's definitely yanking your chain.

[msginna]

well... they take so many drug tests he would be out in a heartbeat. There were always suprise drug tests when I was in. They watch you as you take the pee test too!

[killbarney]

Honestly-if you found out he really was going in the Army and you could get some of the records, I'd drop them off anon at the recruiter's office. I thank you if you do.

[belcherpi]

Honestly-if you found out he really was going in the Army and you could get some of the records, I'd drop them off anon at the recruiter's office. I thank you if you do.

I know a few recruiters and honestly they tell the recruits not to tell any info that could get them disqualified. I'm not saying all recruiters do this (so please don't bash) but I know a few that tell them to lie and my husband has come across quiet a few recruits that have been told to lie. :eek:

[Quaker_Parrots]

Age wise, he could be telling the truth, I heard that they raised the cut off to 42.

[stephanyb]

There might be some crappy recruiters out there that would tell people to lie just to meet their quota, but even if he got passed that...he'd be out after the physical. They will drug test him....he should worry about what would happen to him if he kept coming up positive. They would eventually find out about his medical history and drug use....and when they did, he would then be in trouble for lying. I'd almost say let him try...he can't con the military. And maybe if he was caught and got into military style trouble it'd make him rethink he's decisions.

[tljohn123]

There might be some crappy recruiters out there that would tell people to lie just to meet their quota, but even if he got passed that...he'd be out after the physical. They will drug test him....he should worry about what would happen to him if he kept coming up positive. They would eventually find out about his medical history and drug use....and when they did, he would then be in trouble for lying. I'd almost say let him try...he can't con the military. And maybe if he was caught and got into military style trouble it'd make him rethink he's decisions.

That's kind of what we were thinking. He says he's going to be stationed in Ft. Campbell, KY for the next three years and told my mother that as long as he's got a prescription for any of these drugs he's taking they'll let him have it. How can this happen!!!!!! He called me this morning to get me to taxi him around (told him nope) and when he found out my back was hurting...he started naming off all the stuff he's taking. Geez....he was making MY head spin!

He's been in the Army before...but he broke his leg in basic from what I understand. This was during the time I wasn't speaking with him at all because he's an idiot. Should have left it that way...

[irishchick]

well ..........i obviously am not in the group with this one.
i say if the army lets him in, with his health issues, (they may be more lenient now that we are in a time of war)
IF he gets in.......this may be the only thing that straightens his butt out! it may save his life, he would have to stop the drugs and heknows that. it could turn him into the MAN that some people already think he is.
i think the military is good for any person to experience.
just IMO

[pepperpot]

well ..........i obviously am not in the group with this one.
i say if the army lets him in, with his health issues, (they may be more lenient now that we are in a time of war)
IF he gets in.......this may be the only thing that straightens his butt out! it may save his life, he would have to stop the drugs and heknows that. it could turn him into the MAN that some people already think he is.
i think the military is good for any person to experience.
just IMO

You have a point, it'll either make or break him.

[janelle]

I'm mostly concerned about your neighbor giving away her wedding rings to him. If I was her daughter and found that out I would have a cow. I just hate it when older people are taken advantage of.


Those rings mean the world the the kids and not to a bum who weasels them away with a sob story.

He needed to be in the Army years ago. Hope this straightens him out.

[PreciousDarlin]

I agree with everyone else. I know people that have been disqualified from military service for much less than the medical history your brother has. I don't see him being stationed at Fort Campbel for a full 3 years either. With new recruits, it is pretty mandatory for them to serve at least one full year overseas now, usually in the sandbox. He may wind up at Campbell after that, but there isn't very many military men or women getting past the overseas duty right now. And recreational drug use in the military is NOT tolerated, so he would pretty much be screwed right there. But MEPS usually catches all the heart conditions and such pretty quickly. I mean, if having flat feet/fallen archs can keep you out of the military, does he REALLY thinking having a history of heart conditions won't?

[Qtxann315]

I highly doubt that your brother will get into the army. Although they are extremely easy to get in, but if he is convicted of any felony, they won't accept him. If he's doing drugs, and still is doing it, he won't be able to get in.

[tljohn123]

well ..........i obviously am not in the group with this one.
i say if the army lets him in, with his health issues, (they may be more lenient now that we are in a time of war)
IF he gets in.......this may be the only thing that straightens his butt out! it may save his life, he would have to stop the drugs and heknows that. it could turn him into the MAN that some people already think he is.
i think the military is good for any person to experience.
just IMO

One would hope so......he's a great faker though. Always has been and always will be. I personally do not believe that he will EVER change. One thing I can say is...if he really did re-up for 3 more years...he can't just drop it like he does everything else.
LOL! I do have to say, when he told our younger brother that he was going to be near them for 3 years, he says 'Bro we're gonna be bbqing every damn weekend'. My SIL (who also can't stand him) says....(and this is a direct quote) 'oh HELL NO!"

[mosdata1]

Does the neighbor he got the rings from have any family? If so, I would notify them anonymously & let them know that he is scamming her. I'm sure she's on a fixed income & can't afford to take of him too.
Good luck!!!

[buglebe]

I don't know how it can happen after reading what you have all said but I know that drug addicts can be and are in the service.

[tljohn123]

As far as I know, she has a few kids. Fixed income? Don't know, but I DO know that her husband was a very successful reupolstering business before he died. She's a nice lady, just doesn't believe that people can be as evil as my brother is. I tell you one thing, I wouldn't have given my rings to him. For all I know, the rings she gave him were just bands and nothing fancy. I haven't seen them. He called me at 7:30 this morning wanting me to take himn to the mall so he could get his ring sized. Wonder who was going to pay that? Because where he was going is strictly a cash basis, you don't pay, you don't get!

As for the drugs (and I'm probably repeating myself here), he told mom that as long as he has a prescription for it, it's ok in the Army. I still can't imagine that.