andreame70
03-18-2007, 07:00 PM
I love my little sis so much, she has been through more in her 18 years than anyone should ever have to endure and yet, even though she is so bright, she still continues to make some really serious stupid mistakes.
She fell in love when she was 16 with a worthless, good for nothing, loser. There is no other way to describe him. He dropped out of school, began using drugs. (I mean really bad drugs, crack cocaine and heroine.) I can't tell you how many times we tried to help him. We all spoke to him about how important it was to get his life together and begin supporting himself. He was 20 (when they started dating) and had done nothing with his life...he still hasn't.
At 17, my sis got pregnant by this guy and had my beautiful little niece. We were disappointed that it would happen so young in her life, but my sis continued with college and we (Me, Mom and Dad) helped her with the baby. We still continue to help because we want to make sure she can get her education behind her.
So many times, she has talked about getting rid of the slacker in her life and so many times she just couldn't shake him. He will lie to her to make her feel bad and she cowers down and defends him. She defends the fact that he won't work. She defends the fact that he refuses to pay his court ordered child support ($300 a month.) He is about to be arrested in a few days for failure to pay. He has not paid one single penny since the court order was written and he is now $1500 in arrears.
Just the other day, we find out that my sis is pregnant once again. I swear to God, I want to hit her over the head with a 2X4. What the heck is it going to take to make her see that this is not the way to move forward in her life?
Two babies now by a good for nothing, non supporting piece of trash.
It is approaching three years that they have been together. In those three years, this boy has never once taken my sis on a real date. He has never taken her out to eat and pay for it. Not one trip to the movies where he paid. Nothing! She finished high school, worked part-time and now has started college. She pays for everything that they do.
In the back of my mind, I somehow believe that maybe she feels she doesn't deserve better than this. I don't know. All I know is that it breaks my heart to see her waste her time on someone that it is not worth it. So now I am here venting... I know there is nothing I can do, but be there for her when the chips start to fall. I do wish there was some way to make her see it for herself. Sigh.....
Andrea
She fell in love when she was 16 with a worthless, good for nothing, loser. There is no other way to describe him. He dropped out of school, began using drugs. (I mean really bad drugs, crack cocaine and heroine.) I can't tell you how many times we tried to help him. We all spoke to him about how important it was to get his life together and begin supporting himself. He was 20 (when they started dating) and had done nothing with his life...he still hasn't.
At 17, my sis got pregnant by this guy and had my beautiful little niece. We were disappointed that it would happen so young in her life, but my sis continued with college and we (Me, Mom and Dad) helped her with the baby. We still continue to help because we want to make sure she can get her education behind her.
So many times, she has talked about getting rid of the slacker in her life and so many times she just couldn't shake him. He will lie to her to make her feel bad and she cowers down and defends him. She defends the fact that he won't work. She defends the fact that he refuses to pay his court ordered child support ($300 a month.) He is about to be arrested in a few days for failure to pay. He has not paid one single penny since the court order was written and he is now $1500 in arrears.
Just the other day, we find out that my sis is pregnant once again. I swear to God, I want to hit her over the head with a 2X4. What the heck is it going to take to make her see that this is not the way to move forward in her life?
Two babies now by a good for nothing, non supporting piece of trash.
It is approaching three years that they have been together. In those three years, this boy has never once taken my sis on a real date. He has never taken her out to eat and pay for it. Not one trip to the movies where he paid. Nothing! She finished high school, worked part-time and now has started college. She pays for everything that they do.
In the back of my mind, I somehow believe that maybe she feels she doesn't deserve better than this. I don't know. All I know is that it breaks my heart to see her waste her time on someone that it is not worth it. So now I am here venting... I know there is nothing I can do, but be there for her when the chips start to fall. I do wish there was some way to make her see it for herself. Sigh.....
Andrea