need help please

[corkster]

Hi all..please tell me how to disconnect "that" da% wire so my son can't leave in his car...I am losin' my mind. ty

[firechic]

:confused:

[kyswpgrl]

Sounds like she's wanting to disable the car so her son can't leave the house. If only it were that simple. If someone wants to leave, they'll find a way.

[DBackFan]

Sounds like you want to disconnect the coil wire (we used to do this too occasionally) BUT its not the same on every car....sorry. Hope you figure out what to do. Sometimes leaving in an alternate way is better than letting one drive...I know. ((((Corkster))))

[DonnaWV]

I have been in the same place as you. I don't know what to tell you about the car. I just pray everytime my son leaves, and thank God when he returns. There would be no need for me or hubby to take something off our sons truck, he can work on it, and would just fix it. Good luck, I hope things work out for you.

[MsLynn]

i'd just take the battery out

[catssass]

i'd just take the battery out


I'd let the air out of the tires :D

[Kyla Kym]

I'd let the air out of the tires :D
Or better yet, take the tires off and leave it sitting on blocks. :p


Wonder how hard it would be to remove a steering wheel? LOL :D

[FreeBnutt]

How old is your son?

Why not ask a mechanic where the distributor cap is, and how to remove it, so you can take it with you, and DS has to pitch his bitc.... to get it back.

[YankeeMary]

Just take away his keys.

[sarahj]

this one definately works... my neighbor used it with his 2 rebellious teenage sons: take off the liscense plates. they are pretty easy to unscrew and small enough to lock in a safe, take to work in a breifcase, hide, etc. a cop would DEFINATELY notice a car driving around without plates.
not to flame anyone or their ideas, but... i wouldnt take away the keys because he would probably make another copy next time he gets them back in anticipation of getting them taken away. (plus, i used to work at a car dealership and we were able to cut a new key if given the VIN number... the parts dept had some kind of code.) the battery would be easy (and inexpensive enough) to go to the auto parts store, get another one, and install it.

[dv8grl]

Try the old "Eddie Murphy : Beverly Hills Cop" trick, stick something in his tail-pipe.

or - Disconnect one of his battery cables.

[ggawlak]

Try the old "Eddie Murphy : Beverly Hills Cop" trick, stick something in his tail-pipe.
Umm ... she wants to prevent him from leaving in the car, not kill him.

[AustMC]

blow up the car. that way ur happy and the son isn't

[dv8grl]

Umm ... she wants to prevent him from leaving in the car, not kill him.

That won't kill him, it will stall out the vehicle.

[YankeeMary]

All of these ideas are just a temporary fix. You could always sell the car. That way it is more of a perm. solution. Good Luck.

[MAlice101]

How old is your son?
Who's car is it?
Why do you not want him to leave?

[cathych]

are you paying for insurance on your son?

[trickynick]

I dunno, the battery would work for my son. He's always broke, unless he goes into my purse.

[cathych]

Sounds like you have a budding juvenile deliquent on your hands. Steals from your purse, takes the car, what else? I think that you are doing him a disservice by paying his car insurance. Make sure the car doesn't have any gas in it in the evening time. Or, you could always buy one of those "club" thingies that you attach to your steering wheel to deter theives. He could not steer it unless that is off.

[jedmatters]

If the car is in his name, you could be in trouble if you disconnect anything, or vandalized it at all.
If he is over the age of 18, you can not make him stay home, that is illegal.
If the car is yours, but he is insured, it is considered implied that he has permission to drive it and you can not do much legally to stop him.

If you are on the policy as the policy holder, you could take his name off the insurance, and he will ge a ticket. If he is the policy holder, then you can not take him off of it.
If you pay the insurance, stop paying it.

Be prepared. If he is a legal adult and you do anything to keep him out of his car, you may run the risk of never speaking to your son. Is the problem worth the loss of your relationship? Could talking settle the issue without treating him as a toddler?

If he is a minor, then you can make him stay home, but again, you are running a risk of the relationship if you force it. Make sure the reasons are worth the potential possible reactions.

[cyberrat]

remove a spark plug wire lol cant go anywhere without that

[TX_Cowgirl]

and i am just curious as to why you want to disable your sons car
or did i miss that ?

[MAlice101]

and i am just curious as to why you want to disable your sons car
or did i miss that ?
If you missed it, so did I!
I asked above but no answer has been given yet

[corkster]

Hi all and sorry I haven't replied yet but my life is so crappy and miserble I just haven't been in the mood. WAY too long a story but ever since my son got his license he has gone constantly, gotten several tickets, caused me more stress than I can take. My husband is a trucker and gone all wekk then comes home and doesn't punish Cory for anything I tell him about when he gets here. wants to be his "buddy" and I am sick of it. Anybody in the world would tell him that's a from of abuse, and that the husband and wife should be on the "same page" etc. then we have crapy stressful weekends then he's off on the road again and leaves me with the hell. Geez..way too much stuff to type but this car crap is gonna be the end of me. Dave says he can do all the stuff I tell him no..I'm confused and really feel too bad to type anymore right now. thanks for understanding all..I'll make it I guess. :rolleyes:

....husband keeps paying his ins. and really everything is out of my hands. I am actually wanting to leave but just haven't gotten around to it. There are just so many other issues and I was miserable the day I posted..sorry all.

[BeanieLuvR]

((corkster)) I am sorry that you are going through so much.

[corkster]

thank you (((beanie))) I can use any hugs I can get :-) I am a tuff old gal and been thru so much but nothing compared this. sigh....you made me feel better..

[MAlice101]

Your husband needs to back you 100% especially since he is away most of the time. You should not have to shoulder all the disciplining alone, he needs to help you.
If you ground your son from the car, take away his keys. You should also invest in one of those auto clubs that lock the steering wheel. Be firm and consistent.
If your son gets tickets then make him pay them. If your husband chooses to pay them, that is his choice. But let your son see that at least you wont put up with his behavior.
But I think the bigger issue is why your husband is not in your corner. Obviously your side is presented here. Would he agree to marriage counseling? Would you?
I do hope it all works out for you. You sound very frustrated and i don't blame you

[TX_Cowgirl]

sorry to hear that your having so many hard times..
i feel for you...one question though...is your husband your sons real dad? just wondered cause you said he is his friend when he is home on the weekend..he needs to tell him that you are in charge and that what you say goes..that is just wrong he lets him walk all over you...your gonna have to pick yourself up from your boot straps start kickin butt and take no prisoners..if the car is in your name and your son is grounded from it..tell him if he takes it with out your permission you are going to turn him for stealing..your car..or something..sounds like your going to have to use some tough love on him...hang in there it will get better...member god never gives you more then what he knows you can handle............

[killbarney]

Why does your husband have to punish him when he gets home? Why don't you? He doesn't listen to you and your DH overrules you? Let them have each other for awhile-it's called tough love. It sounds like you want to leave-so do it for awhile to get a better perspective on things.

And good luck. The best advice I can give is TAKE CARE OF YOURSELF.

Oh, and if your son does something illegal/etc. guess who's considered responsible? YOU are.



My husband is a trucker and gone all wekk then comes home and doesn't punish Cory for anything I tell him about when he gets here. I am actually wanting to leave but just haven't gotten around to it.

[lameduch27]

Just wanted to give you a hug,,,(((corkster))), and to say I hope it gets better for you.