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ilikefree
05-15-2006, 07:40 AM
My son, Justin, who is in 7th grade, came home from school this past Thursday and said that one of the Mexican boys, Kevin, in his class cut in front of him in the lunch line. Justin told him that he had to go to the end of the line. The boy told Justin that he (being Justin) was racist against migrants (which this kid is NOT a migrant) and just stayed in line. Justin didn't even say anything about migrants or anything, that's just what this other boy came up with. Justin just dropped it and ate his lunch. He aides for the guidance counselor's office and after he ate his lunch, he went and told her what had happened. She happened to be in the principal's office at the time and together they told the principal. The principal asked Justin what he thought of the illegal immigrants. He told her that he didn't care who they were, Spanish, French or any other nationality, if they were here illegally, they should go back to their own country. All the principal did was to tell Justin to go tell this other kid what he told her!!! DUH!! He comes to an adult for help and doesn't get any!!

But the story doesn't end there. Justin was asked by the music/choir teacher if he'd help serve supper at music program that was going on this past Saturday. So he showed up when he was supposed to. Afterwards, all the helpers were in the choir room, unsupervised. The choir teacher's son, Miles, tripped Kevin, the same kid who cut in front of Justin in the lunch line, took his shoe and ran down the hall with it. Kevin took off his other shoe and ran after Miles. The boys were in the hall playing keep away with the shoe. After that they all went back into the choir room. Kevin was still missing one shoe. Tyler, the principal's son, had it in his shirt. So Kevin, who is 50-60 pounds heavier than Justin, jumps on Justin's chest, knocking him backwards and asked Justin where his shoe was. Justin jokingly (which I told him he shouldn't have even done) told Kevin that it was in the toilet. So, while still laying to top of Justin, Kevin told him, "I'm going to kick your racist @$$" So Justin yelled to him that Tyler has your shoe. Tyler took the shoe out from under his shirt and gave it to him. Miles asked him why he told him where the shoe was and Justin told him that he was on his chest.

Yes, these guys are in 7th and 8th grade, so they are old enough to know not to act like that, but where was the teacher or some kind of supervisor? And I don't know why this Kevin keeps telling Justin that he is racist...the only thing he has ever said was against illegal immigrants in general, not directed toward him. Justin sat most of Sunday, Mother's Day, with the heating pad on his chest after I felt around to be sure nothing was broken. I have been keeping track of dates and incidents in case we have to do something drastic. I told Justin that I'd go into school with him today and talk to the principal with him, first of all to find out why nothing was done on Thursday and then to let her know what all went on Saturday. But Justin said that he'd talk to her and then he wanted dh to call the school and talk to her instead of me, because he knows that dh would get through to her more. This kid just has me so infuriated that I may just go to school and strangle him myself. I mean, if the principal isn't doing anything about him picking on Justin, then I shouldn't be afraid of her doing anything to me, right? It ought to be interesting to see how everything turns out, seeing how her son was involved in the game of keep away, too. Grrrrrrrr...I'm just glad that there are only 7 days of school left this school year.

Oh, and since it happened on Saturday, do you think it is too late to take Justin to the emergency room to have x-rays taken, just to have some kind of documentation of what happened? I really think that his chest is just bruised and I know I should have taken him right away, but I just wasn't thinking.

tngirl
05-15-2006, 07:52 AM
these guys are in 7th and 8th grade, so they are old enough to know not to act like that

This is part of your answer. Why would 7th and 8th graders require constant supervision. And, your story isn't clear on who was playing keep away with the boy's shoe. Was your son part of the game? You speak of your son being picked on by Kevin after what you have said the other kids did to him? Is it any wonder the boy may have an attitude?

ilikefree
05-15-2006, 09:59 AM
Yes, Justin was in on the game too, but I don't understand why you say that it is any wonder that the boy may have an attitude. Why just against Justin and what does any of this have to do with him calling Justin racist? None of the other boys got pounced on or called racist. Mind you, this boy is 50-60 pounds bigger than Justin.

girlwithsoul
05-15-2006, 10:36 AM
And I don't know why this Kevin keeps telling Justin that he is racist...the only thing he has ever said was against illegal immigrants in general, not directed toward him.

I'm not sure if I have this right....is Kevin hispanic but NOT an illegal?

Jolie Rouge
05-15-2006, 10:37 AM
My son, Justin, who is in 7th grade, came home from school this past Thursday and said that one of the Mexican boys, Kevin, in his class cut in front of him in the lunch line. Justin told him that he had to go to the end of the line. The boy told Justin that he (being Justin) was racist against migrants (which this kid is NOT a migrant) and just stayed in line. Justin didn't even say anything about migrants or anything, that's just what this other boy came up with.

This is the attitude I think she was refering to : if you don't do it my way, it is because you are a racist. Has nothing to do with the facts, or that someone broke the rules - if I don't get to have it MY WAY then you are a RACIST.

ilikefree
05-15-2006, 10:38 AM
I'm not sure if I have this right....is Kevin hispanic but NOT an illegal?
That's right.

tngirl
05-15-2006, 10:47 AM
Yes, Justin was in on the game too, but I don't understand why you say that it is any wonder that the boy may have an attitude. Why just against Justin and what does any of this have to do with him calling Justin racist? None of the other boys got pounced on or called racist. Mind you, this boy is 50-60 pounds bigger than Justin.

Do you ever get the idea that maybe you are not getting a complete story? Don't get me wrong, I am not saying your son is lying...so please don't think I am. I am just saying that people's perspectives are a bit different in every situation. So, based on perception, it is possible that you do not know the entire story, only what your son has chosen to tell you. I can not think of any reason why the boy would "single out" your son. Is it possible that the kids are "riding" this boy more than you realize? With the attitudes against Mexicans right now, it wouldn't suprise me.

I hope the situation can be remedied without anymore bullying by either side. There is always the possibility that maybe Justin's attitude has struck Kevin the wrong way and he is taking it personally from your son. Sometimes we say things that are taken in the wrong context and end up hurting someone's feeling. We tend to believe and take the side of our own child over that of anyone else, but, we base that on the fact that we are getting a full picture of the situation.

dv8grl
05-15-2006, 11:08 AM
I believe that your son is the victim of a HATE CRIME. I would call your local television station and tell them this story.

If the situation was reversed, the hispanic kid would pull out the race card, why can't you?!?!

girlwithsoul
05-15-2006, 11:15 AM
That's right.

Well if Kevin is hispanic, he's probably been fed a lot of rhetoric about racism and the whole debate on immigration reform. He's what....13???.....what the heck does he know? I think this is really more a question for Kevin's parents. What are the telling him to make him use those words in school?

I'm sorry you're dealing with this. Kids can be so cruel....especially when they're confused and don't really know what's going on.