What do you do when you hate your bestfriend's childhood friend? Long, I'm so sorry!

[Buslady469]

My bestfriend Julie has a friend Sheryl (who she grew up with)...this girl is a piece of work. 2 years ago, I had a Halloween party, being the dumb a$$ that I am, I invited Sheryl, thinking that maybe after a few years of not being around her (she moved away and got married and moved back) that she might have grown up a little. Well, she left my party, and went home with my NEXT DOOR NEIGHBOR.....and she is marrried...since then, she has pulled crap at other get togethers that Julie has had. Sheryl, ALL MOST ALWAYS, hangs out with the boys when we have get togethers, comes over and tells me and Julie HOW TO COOK, and prepare for the party (Julie and I do catering on the side) she NEVER helps set up or clean up. Well this past Christmas Julie had a Christmas Party, there were 30 people there, everyone was having a great time, until Sheryl, once again showed her a$$, she went up to a couple that worked with Julie's husband (who has never met any of us) and told them that they looked like a couple who need somone to make their sex life better, and that they needed to take her home, then she was "trying" to fondle a married man, THEN to top it all off, she blurted out to another friend of Julie's that she was BI, and wanted to take her home...GROSS....well, after than I told JUlie that I had nothing for her, and she needed to stay away from me. New Years rolls around, and my husband and I had a New Years party...Sheryl called, and told me how upset she was that she was not invited to the party. I told her that she does not know how to behave, and I would not invite her to anything that I ever had again....It gets better.....

Julie and I threw together a Super Bowl party for tonight...we did not tell Sheryl we were doing this...Guess who showed up...You guessed it... Sheryl, I wanted to go and shoot myself in the head when she pulled up...then she had the nerve to tell me, that she figured that Julie might be doing something for super bowl, and I would be there for it, and that it was not right that Julie would not include her but would include me....I thought that I was going to slap her eyes right out of her head....then she went and sat my my DH's lap, the doodoo hit the fan....I went balistic on her...

I just don't know what to do. I'm not syaing that i want Julie to stop being her friend, but I don't want to jeprodize my friendship with Julie either. I talked to Julie after I got home, and told her, that If that WITCH, is at any other fuctions, then I will not be....I am really afraid that i am going to beat the tar out of this girl.....I hate that I might have to give up my best friend because of an ungreatful witch. Bus I guess that is what I will have to do.

Sorry that this was so long...any thoughts that you might have will be great!

[IthinkNOT!]

to me it sounds like that untill the girls grows up, there is no need to even try and hang around her. And you have a much better temper than I do, if she had been sitting in my SO's lap, I prob would have knocked her in the floor. I would suggest not spending time with the girl at all. Nothing says that you have to be friends with your friends friends. It would be nice, but its not always gonna happen. Or maybe just limit the hanging out to just the 3 of you? Go shopping or something, maybe there will be less potential for her to show her a$$ then.

[PrincessArky]

My friend has tons of friends that I dont care for and thats ok BUT none of them act like this girl.....I cant blame you for NOT wanting to be around her... I sure as heck wouldnt want to I cant imagine what your friend actually sees in her........if she is married she better watch out for her so called friend

[Freebeemom]

I think your ultimatum is the best. You have to stick to it.

If Julie's friend is hitting on married men, it is up to the married men to say "No" as well. Sorry, but it takes 2 to tango. I don't agree with it, at all. I, personally, have stopped hanging out with crowds like this and going to bars for that very reason. There are some people that just don't know their limits. I had a friend, or at least I thought was my friend, who was bi. He just LOVED hanging out because I had a wide variety of friends. He was always trying to hook up. Anyone that I have met that claims to be bi is very greedy. I know it is bad to sterotype, but this is my experience. Make up your mind and stick to it. Don't be a whore about it.....

Shake off that person. Loose her. You are on the right track.

[Willow]

I can't understand why your friend Julie would even want to associate with Cheryl. I can't tolerate people like that.

[lassss]

ya should have taken her out back for a tail(kicking)gate party for 2 and punted her into tomorrow :)

[hblueeyes]

What does the friends husbands say? Does he know what the wife is doinf when she goes out? I'd make a tape and then send it to hubby.

Me :p

[girlwithsoul]

I can't understand why your friend Julie would even want to associate with Cheryl. I can't tolerate people like that.


I agree with this statement 500%

[andreame70]

I am with Patchouli on this one. Not only can I not understand why Julie would want to associate with this girl, I cannot understand why Julie would put up with Sheryl disrespecting you like that. If she is truly your friend, she would not tolerate someone treating you this way.

I believe that Sheryl feels threatened by the relationship that you have with Julie. Maybe she feels that you are closer to Julie than she is, I don't know. One thing is for sure....if Julie can't see that this chick is trouble, then maybe you are better off without Sheryl or Julie hanging around.

Oh and another thing, how did your hubby react to the door knob that plopped onto his lap? I certainly hope that he was quickly assisting her up. My DH would have had a heart attack trying to remove her as quickly as possible, cause he knows I would have torn the house down with her a$$ and his. (Ohh by the way, around here we call women like her "door knobs" because everyone seems to get a turn.)

Good luck,

Andrea

[Buslady469]

Well, DH told her to remove her fat a$$ off of his lap, and that I was not one that she wanted to pi$$ off. Julie called me today, and told me that She has the same conclusion that everyone else has....Sheryl is VERY jealous of our relationship. Sheryl was not going to be at the Super Bowl party until she found out that DH and I were going to be there, and then she didn't even talk to Julie...Which I think that is very crappy. TRUST me,I am staying as far away form this chic as I can get!!!!!!!!!

[migirlfriday]

(Ohh by the way, around here we call women like her "door knobs" because everyone seems to get a turn.)

Good luck,

Andrea

OMG, I have to remember that one! :D

By the way, the group of friends that I have had for years and years included a friend whose husband went to prison and she got rid of him. But she still hung around .... until she started to sleep around with our men. There were still a couple of the girls that talked to her, but she pretty much lost all of her friends because of it. So, Sheryl will end up losing all of her friends if she keeps acting like that and you will not have to hang with her anymore, I can't say you won't ever see her, because as all of us know bad pennies have a way of turning back up!

I think you have done what you can. Letting her know why she was not invited was good and hopefully she will get the hint and straighten up or she will lose all of her friends and her husband.

[kyswpgrl]

But she still hung around .... until she started to sleep around with our men. There were still a couple of the girls that talked to her, but she pretty much lost all of her friends because of it.

I really hope they got rid of the men as well!!!

[stickers]

YOu did the right thing, but it sounds like you might have to go further. It sounds like you need a restraining order on her.

Easy to get, just find her name and address and go to the police station, this will legally keep her from your functions and if she shows up at them, secretly call the police, they will come take her away.