bribella
10-06-2005, 09:26 PM
I just need to vent so sorry if I dont make sense lol!
Okay where o' where to begin?
I have twin 19 yr old sisters and 1 of them lives with my mother. She had a baby at 18 with a(supposed) illegal mexican (claimed she didnt know she could get pg from having sex. umm ok) She moved out of my mom's place and in with the father of her son. He was abusive and my mom convinced her to move back home.
She moves back home and shortly thereafter moves in with her new boyfriend and lives in his mom's basement until her new boy friend beats her up and she goes crying back to my mom.Mom lets her move back in.
My mother is pretty much raising her grandson because my sister is too lazy to do it.
She was getting welfare and then when they required she go to job training classes to better herself she decides to drop out of the welfare to work program.
She receives $350 a month in child support(which leads me to think the baby's daddy is not illegal like her and my mother say) and she blows it on tattoos and clothes for herself. Has to beg my mom for diaper money.
She has said that she does not want to be a mom but doesn't want to give up the child support she gets. I have told her several times that child support money is not hers to go blow on tattoos and crap. It is to take care of my nephew. And if she didnt want to be a mom she should have kept her legs closed.
She says she loves him yet when he wakes up in the morning and she is to tired to get up with him she will put him in my mom's room or just put him outside their room and go back to bed! He is 1 at that age they get into all kinds of stuff that could hurt them!
She "forgets" to feed him if my mom is gone. Doesn't change his diaper often enough, doesnt teach him things, pays no attention to him except when he is getting into something. So he has caught onto that and does stuff like that to get her attention..... any attention is attention.
It makes me so sad. My mom provides the majority of his care it's only when my sister IS with him. My mother has reported her to DSHS and they investigated and my sister had to go to parenting classes but obviously she wasn;t paying attention just like she didn't pay attention in sex ed.
My mother and I think it might be better for my nephew if my sister gave him over to my mom to take care of until she pulls her head out of her butt.
But then again that may never happen she goes with any male that looks her way. Very poor self esteem. No self respect what so ever.
I get upset that my mom puts up with her being like that. I will call over there around 11 am and ask my mom what she is doing and she says watching "alex" and I ask where my sister is and my mom tells me " upstairs sleeping"
WAKE HER BUTT UP !!!!!!
But she puts up with it I guess because she doesnt want my sister to get mad and take my nephew and leave and then she worries that he is being neglected.
I just want to scream at my sister and shake her!! What is wrong with her? If she doesn't want to take care of him why won't she give him to someone who will?
IMO if she loved him she would take good care of him.
That's all sorry to ramble.
Okay where o' where to begin?
I have twin 19 yr old sisters and 1 of them lives with my mother. She had a baby at 18 with a(supposed) illegal mexican (claimed she didnt know she could get pg from having sex. umm ok) She moved out of my mom's place and in with the father of her son. He was abusive and my mom convinced her to move back home.
She moves back home and shortly thereafter moves in with her new boyfriend and lives in his mom's basement until her new boy friend beats her up and she goes crying back to my mom.Mom lets her move back in.
My mother is pretty much raising her grandson because my sister is too lazy to do it.
She was getting welfare and then when they required she go to job training classes to better herself she decides to drop out of the welfare to work program.
She receives $350 a month in child support(which leads me to think the baby's daddy is not illegal like her and my mother say) and she blows it on tattoos and clothes for herself. Has to beg my mom for diaper money.
She has said that she does not want to be a mom but doesn't want to give up the child support she gets. I have told her several times that child support money is not hers to go blow on tattoos and crap. It is to take care of my nephew. And if she didnt want to be a mom she should have kept her legs closed.
She says she loves him yet when he wakes up in the morning and she is to tired to get up with him she will put him in my mom's room or just put him outside their room and go back to bed! He is 1 at that age they get into all kinds of stuff that could hurt them!
She "forgets" to feed him if my mom is gone. Doesn't change his diaper often enough, doesnt teach him things, pays no attention to him except when he is getting into something. So he has caught onto that and does stuff like that to get her attention..... any attention is attention.
It makes me so sad. My mom provides the majority of his care it's only when my sister IS with him. My mother has reported her to DSHS and they investigated and my sister had to go to parenting classes but obviously she wasn;t paying attention just like she didn't pay attention in sex ed.
My mother and I think it might be better for my nephew if my sister gave him over to my mom to take care of until she pulls her head out of her butt.
But then again that may never happen she goes with any male that looks her way. Very poor self esteem. No self respect what so ever.
I get upset that my mom puts up with her being like that. I will call over there around 11 am and ask my mom what she is doing and she says watching "alex" and I ask where my sister is and my mom tells me " upstairs sleeping"
WAKE HER BUTT UP !!!!!!
But she puts up with it I guess because she doesnt want my sister to get mad and take my nephew and leave and then she worries that he is being neglected.
I just want to scream at my sister and shake her!! What is wrong with her? If she doesn't want to take care of him why won't she give him to someone who will?
IMO if she loved him she would take good care of him.
That's all sorry to ramble.