Bil And Sil Vent

[gwens29]

My Bil (hubbys Bro) And His Wife Are Nuts Lol Here Is Why ...me And My Hubby Always Take Our Kids Somewhere Every Summer ..well When I Mention Going Anywhere To My Bil He Wants To Go With Us..as In Going In Half On The Rental Car Etc...and My Hubby Wants Him To Go Becuase He Is His Only Sibiling But Sharing A Van With And Hotel Room ( Can U Belive That They Would Want To Since We Have 3 Kids Ages 10, 7 And 1 Month And Its Againist Hotel Policy Too) Isnt My Idea Of Fun :( Hubby Gets Upset And Say If He Doenst Go We Arent Going Etc.. I Get So Pissed At Him Cant We Ever Just Do What We Want To And Let Them Fend For Themselves...it Sucks Oh And Bil Has No Kids And He Isnt To Patient Either :( We Did Manage This Time To Get Out Of Them Going They Wanted Me To Change My Dates So They Could Go I Told Hubby No So They Said They Wouldnt Go ..:) Sorry If Thisis Mean But Its Everytime We Go Anywhere They Want To Go Too

[Kelsey1224]

I don't blame you for wanting to vacation with only your own family. Maybe your hubby doesn't like going without another guy to talk to.

That could be the real issue.

(Please one little request...don't type in all caps. The BBS "system" corrects it and only the first letter of each word is capitalized making it hard to read. Thank you.)

[YankeeMary]

My deepest sympathies...family is not always a joy is it? HUGS!!!

[MamaFairal]

maybe plan a family(BIL included) vacation and then a seperate your family only vacation?

[queenangie]

Oh My Goodness! Let's hope that the extended family does not go this year.

[gwens29]

we cant afford 2 its only a weekend trip too we are strapped for cahs (always are) and he doenst want male company he just feels bad because his brother cant/wont go because he had a brother die in 2001 :( and thisis his only brother....they also try to hitch rides with us to walmart etc its a all the time thing and it bugs me

[hblueeyes]

I have a friend who has had 3 out of 6 siblings die. The first due to a freak accident at 16, her other sis was murdered by her boyfriend at 20 and her oldest brother due to alcholism. As a result the other siblings she has take advantage of her because as she says, They may die tomorrow. It is sad but who am I to say anything. She'll get a clue when she is ready.

How about making arrangements and not telling the BIL. Or... due something like we are going to where ever for an extended weekend. If you would like to join us I have temporarily reserved a car rental, room and tickets for shows, whatever. Your portion is due in 2 weeks and is $4700. I know it seems like alot but I believe we deserve this upscale vacation. I bet they will not go.

Me :p

[Shann]

I was going to suggest exactly what MamaFairal said but I understand the no money issue. I can't blame you, it's nice to get away just for a few days w/ just your family. I would sit your hubby down and let him know that this is suppose to be the families special time. If he insists on the BIL coming then maybe you can plan a seperate outing every other year or something w/ them. I would hate having that many ppl in one vehicle and one room... I would go nuts and probably start screaming. It would be one thing if maybe he had kids and you took all the kids to do something fun, but he doesn't... he's a big boy and should be able to have fun and go on vaca w/ just his wife. I couldn't imagine going on vaca w/ my extended family like that. I like to do what I like to do and if i had kids and someone was getting impatient w/ them I would let them know exactly where they can shove it. It is your vacation and you and YOUR family go enjoy it! :D

[nightrider127]

They wouldn't be going with me if I didn't want them to. I learned the hard way about doing things I really didn't want to do just to keep peace.

I would throw that same "We wont go unless they go" right back at him. Then I would prove that I meant what I said by standing by my word if they went. I would keep the biggest part of the vacation money too so me and my kids could have some fun.

[janelle]

Don't they babysit or anything for you? If not then they are moochers. I would go on vacations with them but at some point say can you watch the kids while hubby and I go have some alone time together? They should be happy to help out.

Think of other things they can do for you and ask them, if they aren't volunteering. This should be all the time if you are doing things for them. Tell hubby that is what family does for each other and see if he wants to have his brother help out. If not then he is on a quilt trip about his other brother and needs someone to talk to about it.