Worst time in my life...........(Long and Sad)

[purplerose23]

Yes, that's right.....I am having the worst time in my life right now. Maybe that is why God did not allow me pregnancy just yet (for those who have been following my whines...) :rolleyes: Well, I have had a major drama trama occur and am not sure if I am coming or going right now. It all started when my fiance and twin sister did not get along in the small apartment I had (they got along great before and in the beginning of our dating). It was a small cramped place, 1br to be exact (sis stayed in den w/ her kids, she left her man to come here). Well to compensate us all, we moved to a 3 bedroom a few months ago. All was good and well, until the blowup. It started with small bickers over stupid things, like the air conditioner temperature and cleanliness of the facility, trip plans, etc. Then the blowup occured while I was out on vacation. I was out for nine days (may 17-25). They were the worst days ever. We had no money to travel with, and being in the house made fireworks occur. The last day, may 25, was of all the worst. My fiance and I awoke, after along talk with my father on the night before, to speak to my sister of all things going wrong. Dad and my sister do not get along anymore, she burned those bridges. Well dad said for us to get her out and to live our lives. SO, I went to tell her about the rules she was breaking and to be nice, and even offer for us to go in 30 days. Well that changed with how she acted with my fiance. She would not look at him or answer his requests, just stared at the TV. He turned it off to ask again, and she gave ME a dirty look! Well, he and she then had dirty words and he stormed out, just to bring the landlady back. She was evicted on his and her official confirmation. My 2 nieces had to go too........... :( One is 8 and the other just turned 2. I miss them so! Well my sister came the next day (yesterday) and really stired the fire! She told him things I told her in privacy! He threw them back at me and things got bad................we just about broke up again............ :( We did make it through it, but we still have fought on and off since.........he seems cold and mean now, and I am getting counseling right away for us both..............I want it to work. AS for my sister, she is calling me to see how I am, BUT more dirty things are coming up, like my landlady accusing me of having no job............and I DO! IT is really really crazy lately and I NEED ADVICE.............and a shoulder to cry on! If requested, I could go in detail of what was brought up from my sis, it was not cheating or stealing...or anything of that sort, just misunderstandings.

[Freebeemom]

Perhaps you just need to stay away from your sister...let her work out her own problems. She sounds like she is bitter for you having a relationship...and maybe a good one?
It is good you are in counseling...or are going to try it. Is your Fiance receptive to it?

Sorry you are not doing well. Hang in there. Hopefully, things will turn around and hopefully your sister will find better things to do than to stir up the pot. Don't let her blackmail you or make you feel guilty because you don't see her kids. It is only going to mess them up if she is constantly fighting in front of them.

[mlayton1994]

((hugs)).

[MsLynn]

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[ebgreen74]

I totally understand asking her to move out if things weren't working out. Its hard having that many people living together in 1 house. BUT there is no way in this world I would tolerate someone, anyone having my own sister thrown out on the spot like that by the landlord. That was uncalled for. If your fiance has that bad of a temper, perhaps he isn't worth marrying IMO.

[queenangie]

Hugs!

[llbriteyes]

Wow. What a tough situation. I understand you love your sister and her kids, but sometimes the best thing is to but some distance between you for awhile. I had a five bedroom home, and my sister, her husband and their daughter moved in with us so they could save money for a down payment on a house. It was one of the worst things I ever did. I love my sister, but two families just can't live in the same house.

((((( Hugs )))))

Linda

[Willow]

Not to be mean but I think your sister moving out is probably for the best. From reading your other posts there was definitely a lot of tension in your house because of your sister being there. You and your fiancee need some time to work through things without interference from your sister.

[VALENA-)45]

Not to be mean but I think your sister moving out is probably for the best. From reading your other posts there was definitely a lot of tension in your house because of your sister being there. You and your fiancee need some time to work through things without interference from your sister.ITA!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! And she should not have repeated what you told her in confidence, she was dead wrong for that. I know you love her and all, but she needs to make her own way in her own house. Good Luck.

[schsa]

This is probably for the best. Your sister is not someone who is going to do her best to get along. And you and your finace' are still getting over so much.

Never tell anyone anything that you don't want repeated. It will make life so much easier.

[tracey74]

Wow. What a tough situation. I understand you love your sister and her kids, but sometimes the best thing is to but some distance between you for awhile. I had a five bedroom home, and my sister, her husband and their daughter moved in with us so they could save money for a down payment on a house. It was one of the worst things I ever did. I love my sister, but two families just can't live in the same house.

((((( Hugs )))))

Linda
amen I totally agree.

[Unicornmom77]

~*~*~*~*~BIG HUGS~*~*~*~*

I will keep you in my thoughts and prayers hun!

[ezmoney163]

Just my 2 cents here. But it is crap like that, why I tell no one anything. What a (insert bad word) to tell your fiance' things you told her in private. ANd who does she think she is trying to break you guys up.
(By the way when is the wedding??)

I honestly would not talk to her anymore, JMHO. What a witchy witch, to make your life miserable just because she made her own that way.

I am so sorry for you.

ANd just a side note, it may be a good idea to not get preggo right now, if you guys are having some problems. You need to iron out the wrinkles before wearing that dress. Hope everything works out for you.

(((HUGZ)))

[Blondiex46]

Shame, what is the deal with your dad not even getting along with her, but telling you to get rid of her, I feel bad for her and the kids, where did they go do you know? Does she work?

[purplerose23]

Thanks for your replies.................I am taking it a day at a time.......and it is a shame, I know :( I miss my nieces like no other, and am working things out with the fiance. Well, to answer some, my sister still does not work and she has even called to check on me and I have answered. I tell her its going a day at a time and do crave to see the girls. She is at a hotel right now and should be moving into a mobile home soon. I know she is ok as well as the girls. Its just the fact that the house got quiet, way too fast. My father and her do not get along due to things she has done to him in the past. She had a car repossessed my dad got a loan for her on it, and she got behind and they bicker over the grandchildren. I agree with her on the grandchildren part though, my dad and stepmom only spend time with the 8yr old and not the 2yr old....its terrible...........but my sister has not even tried to call and resolve things.........she did not see him on his birthday, fathers day or even easter......its pretty bad. I told her to talk to him about it and come to an agreement, but she hasnt. Just like the job situation, I got her an interview at my work and she cancelled it..................and I also tried to work with her on duties at the residence, and she did not do it appropriately, not sure where else to go with it................

[freebielover]

Wow sounds like she just wants everything her way. I would just focus on you and your fiance for now, she seems like a witch trying to cause trouble for you and fiance and you and your landlord. You can only help someone so much before you start to hurt them, maybe if shes kicked out she will start fending for herself. I hope everything goes well, you're definitely thinking ahead with the counseling. I'm sure everything will work out.