Anyone else?

[keen9801]

Has anyone ever felt like you and your other just aren't really going to go anywhere?

Honest question really

me and my b/f has been together for 7 years yea we are still b/f and g/f neway here lately things seem like they are going down hill for us, seems like he and I are almost feeling the same way about each other

I don't know maybe it sounds stupid maybe its just me i am not sure but i know that we don't really fight like we used to we don't act the same which yea its good things with us seems to be going really good until the last few months seems like things are falling and falling fast i don't know whats going on but is it possible to love someone but not be in love with them even after being with them for 7 years? I love to be around him i love being with him but i just don't feel like the feeling is mutal we kinda act distant between each other hard for me to understand because i am happy to see him at night when i come home from work i am happy to be around him and he does very nice things for me but like i said when we are together i feel like we are distant is that even possible? i do love him and i can't see myself without him but on the same hand i don't feel like we are going to make it has anyone else went through that feeling before you think maybe he is falling out of love with me because he isn't around me as much with me working or maybe because i am gaining weight or maybe because he is just plain tired of hearing me give him crap for not marrying me? ok i am done now i will ,,just hope that we get better, thanks for listening and i know its short and possibly a quite dumb vent but had to spit it out to someone somewhere,

[MamaFairal]

7 year itch ????

[Kyla Kym]

here lately things seem like they are going down hill for us, seems like he and I are almost feeling the same way about each other

..................... seems to be going really good until the last few months seems like things are falling and falling fast

If this is happening all at once, you better sit him down and ask him what is going on before it's to late.

[lisahiser]

maybe you two need a nice weekend together away from everything so that you can talk and get some quality time.

[lassss]

how about a couples retreat where ya learn more about each other and fine tune things with a counselor?

[Willow]

Yes, I have felt that way. A few years back. I would rather be alone than to be in a relationship that is going no where. Hope you can work things out with your boyfriend.

[Kelsey1224]

I think it's totally normal how you are feeling. That's why I am a big advocate for "marriage". When you are married...and you get these down times...you are more motivated to work on the relationship. When you aren't married, it is easier to call it quits.

Whenever I'm asked by young couples for advice on how to make a relationship work...I explain that it is work. When you are in a relationship with someone...there will be periods where you don't really like the other person that much. And there are periods where you can't imagine your life without them. That's normal!!!

The key is to work through those down times. At least...that's the key if you want to be in a relationship that will last a lifetime.

Hubby and I have been married 27 years in July. I was married before and my husband jokes that he was on probation for 5 years. But, now that our children are grown...married...and out of the house...I can't imagine spending the rest of my life with anyone else. While we do spend a lot of time with friends and family...much of the time it is just the two of us. We even commute to work together. There is no one else I'd rather spend time with. (Well...there are the grandbabies...but you know what I mean...LOL.)

[llbriteyes]

Sounds like a marriage to me. You have stages in marriage you go through, and this COULD just be one of them. I've been married for 22 years this June. We've gone through the crazy passion, the lulls, the highs, the kid years, the comfort zone, the problem years, etc.

If you guys still love each other, couples counseling can help. You can go to a professional, or even your clergy (they're trained in that too).

I wish you both well.

Linda

[schsa]

After 7 years and he still hasn't decided that he wants to be married? If you want marriage then its time to move on to someone who is marriage minded. If you don't care whether you are married or not, then stop talking about it and start working on what you are missing in your relationship.

Most relationships go through ups and downs. The difference is if you are motivated to bring it back up or if you are ready to walk away. Is he motivated to try and keep things together or would he rather walk away? Maybe that's the question you should be asking. If you want to work on it then do something. Counselling, couples weekend or just time alone. If you have reached a point where its just a dead relationship and the two of you are more roommates than lovers, you can always walk away.

That's where you start.

[VALENA-)45]

Honey, 7 years ia a long time, i have a few questions. do y'all have any kids together, do y'all ever go any where to gether, do y'all ever sit down and talk, like how was your day, or how are you doing???? Y'all need to sit down and have a few talks, with each other, and come to an understading about your relationship. It's good that y'all don't fight any more, maybe that is what y'all miss. i hope things work out for the two of you. Good Luck.

[queenangie]

Hon, you need a weekend alone,
just the two of you,
no kids for the entire weekend.

Sending you warm hugs, hon!

[ebgreen74]

Yes it happened to me before. He and I were together for 6 1/2 yrs and never married. The reason we never married was because it just wasn't meant to be. Afterward I wondered why it took us so long to end things. We just got into a pattern and kept going with the flow but neither of us had any desire to be married to each other ever. I left him, met another guy and was married a yr and a 1/2 later and i didn't have a doubt in the world when I did so.