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belle5691
04-30-2005, 04:53 PM
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HaveKids,LostMind
04-30-2005, 05:11 PM
You just need to tell him to be completely honest with you, and then totally trust whatever he tells you, no matter what your gut feelings may be. This is how my dh and I do. And just let him know, if he tells you the truth, no matter how hurtful it may be, that then you can finally get past your feelings and move on.

And this other person is dead, its not like he could cheat on you with her now, no matter how pretty she may have been. I know that may have sounded harsh, but I couldnt think of a more tactful way to put it, sorry.

And then also, she was married. Do you really think she and your SO would risk ending both of their relationships that way?

Anyway, I hope you guys work everything out. Just remember, honesty is everything in a relationship. If you dont have trust, then you have nothing at all...
budlite
04-30-2005, 06:18 PM
Who determines who is pretty? Trust is a must in a relationship, when you start to feel that trust leave you. Then take a hard look at you, your partner and your realtionship... Then re think what is best for you.......... You know yourself better than any one......
justme23
04-30-2005, 09:52 PM
Aren't you married? Maybe I have you mixed up w/ someone else... but if I am thinking correctly you are married and this man is NOT your husband... right?
belle5691
05-01-2005, 03:53 AM
Wrong. The question is about my husband. Enough said...as I dont see your reply as an answer to my question anyway.
JKATHERINE
05-01-2005, 04:53 PM
:eek: WOAH!

Yeah, what she said. :eek:
irrelevant0
05-01-2005, 06:23 PM
the only rude comments i saw came from the op ... i didn't read the original post, but based on the replies and a past experiences, there's nothing you can do except leave. it sucks to think about, but it's the best thing if it really bothers you. there's only so much you can take ... good luck.
justme23
05-01-2005, 07:41 PM
Forgive me for being wrong... You have always talked about your best friend and the home business yall are in together... I never saw any mention of your husband being a part of the business too... so I apologize for assuming. I guess I thought my answer was obvious, that since you are married and I THOUGHT the man you were speaking of wasn't your husband that it shouldn't matter because you are committed to someone else. Since I was wrong... it doesn't matter and I apologize.
firechic
05-02-2005, 05:06 PM
I tried to tell ya all before, she is a drama queen to the max.