ds got into a fight at school :(

[gwens29]

he just turned 10 and is very small for his age he gets picked n a lot and we finally told him to hold his own when push came to shove and he did with a child 3times his size ( same age though) but he really hurt the kid at first it was a argument and then a elbowing match and then a foot stomping and the other kid had on open toed sandals and when ds stomped his toes it ripped his toe nail off :( the principle wants to punish ds for this which im ok with but the other child gets nothing (well his toes nail is in bad shape) but he was fighting also and i think both should get something my dh husband said if we punish him for this it will be like eatting our own advice about standing up for his self he alreaduy apologized to the little boy but the little boy didnt have to apologize to him what do u all think?

[schsa]

I think that there's a difference between standing up for yourself and beating up on another kid. Maybe you should have some better guidelines as far as what consititutes standing up for yourself.

[Lori63]

I can so relate!!!!!!!!My youngest is almost 10, just hit 50 lbs. and is short. In the beginning of the year we had to work on him standing up for himself, because there are some thugs in his class. He went from taking their crap to exploding. So, now we're trying to help him find a middle ground and handle things the right way. It is hard! I would talk to your son about how you are glad he stood up for himself, just in the wrong way. I agree that both kids should have some punishment from the school, but there's not much you can do about that. Good Luck to you.

[lassss]

he just turned 10 and is very small for his age he gets picked n a lot and we finally told him to hold his own when push came to shove and he did with a child 3times his size ( same age though) but he really hurt the kid at first it was a argument and then a elbowing match and then a foot stomping and the other kid had on open toed sandals and when ds stomped his toes it ripped his toe nail off :( the principle wants to punish ds for this which im ok with but the other child gets nothing (well his toes nail is in bad shape) but he was fighting also and i think both should get something my dh husband said if we punish him for this it will be like eatting our own advice about standing up for his self he alreaduy apologized to the little boy but the little boy didnt have to apologize to him what do u all think?

I think it is great that your son stood up for himself..if he didn't then he'd be picked on all the time and now that other lil punk won't bother him again. I feel the other child should be disciplined for bullying. I can't see punishing your son for standing up to bullying and putting that kid in his place. Self defense should not be a punishable offence! :)

[Njean31]

i teach my kids not to hit first but if someone hits them then they have the right to nail the crap out of them. i'll be darned if my kids are going to be bullied.

[buttrfli]

i teach my kids not to hit first but if someone hits them then they have the right to nail the crap out of them. i'll be darned if my kids are going to be bullied.

ITA! My kids know not to start a fight. They also know that if someone tries to start a fight with them, they are to walk away and find an adult BUT there are situations in life where neither of the above are options so they know how to defend themselves. I don't teach them to fight necessarily, but they do know how to defend themselves and if they have to throw a punch, they know how to do that too.

[Bud_Girl76]

I think it is great that your son stood up for himself..if he didn't then he'd be picked on all the time and now that other lil punk won't bother him again. I feel the other child should be disciplined for bullying. I can't see punishing your son for standing up to bullying and putting that kid in his place. Self defense should not be a punishable offence! :)


ITA.. I tell my kids don't hit first.. If you get hit than you hit rightback and stand up for yourself..

[spongebob]

i agree , i told my kids not to start fights but finish it if you have too. my son is also ten and this kid kept on picking on him at school. well this kid started pushing my son and decide to pick on him at recess also. so mickey punched him. and i always told my kids you will not be in trouble . but you will be if you start it.


your son stood up for him self and the kid was bigger then him. no i wouldnt punish him.


now i wouldnt want my son to hit every one that picks on him. tell them to stop it and tell someone first.

[LitWtch]

if you feel the other boy should be punished as well, then it is up to you to tell the principal that before he determines your son's punishment. certainly they should both be punished.
let the punishment stand at school if both are punished, and drop it at home - he learned his lesson. if the other child is not punished, then go to the superintendent and complain.