Sensitive Issue

[JCshopper]

I have a little guy in first grade. He came home very upset because, it seems, one of his classmates (A BOY) has made a habit of kissing my son (on the cheek). My son says he has told the boy repeatedly not to do this, but it seems to have made the situation worse. The boy is kissing him in the lunch line, in gym class, on the playground and the other children have started picking on my son. Apparently the other little boy doesn't seem to care that he is being picked on. The teacher has informed me that this child is "Full of himself" (whatever that is supposed to mean) and she will address the situation tomorrow. Now, this same boy seems to always get away with stuff. Bringing a discman to school and listening to it in the lunchroom. They are not even suppose to bring them to school. I think there is an issue with the parents thinking their child doesn't have to adhere to the rules like other children. I have had problems with the little girls kissing on my son since last year and have had to bring it up with the principal because they were getting quite aggressive about it. They have had a strict personal space rule in his school and the situation has been dealt with. This one is a little more difficult though. My little guy is 6 and I really don't think he needs the stress of classmates picking on him because some little BOY will not stop kissing on him. This other little boy is also very physically aggressive at times with my son, but much more so with other children. I guess I am just looking for a little advice on how to handle this if it continues to be a problem like I think it will.

[stresseater]

Two words....sexual harasssment...use them repeatedly next time you speak with the principal. It will do wonders if used in conjunction with the word lawyer . :D :D

[buttrfli]

Two words....sexual harasssment...use them repeatedly next time you speak with the principal. It will do wonders if used in conjunction with the word lawyer . :D :D


ITA. The teacher should have put a stop to it immediately. If a child makes unwanted advances on another child it should be delt with right then and there. It dosen't matter if its kissing or hugging.

No touching at school means no touching at school! I guarantee you if your son were kissing a girl, you'd sure hear about it and this is no different.

[catssass]

Call the parents, this should be dealt with between you and the boys parents, if they do not want to help change the situation, call the school and tell them it is sexual harassment like another poster said...

[Jaidness]

I agree with the other posters, if you start saying sexual harrassment and the legal issues involved I bet the school/parents take action quickly enough, good luck!

[Shann]

no advice, think the other posters covered it. Wanted to wish you some luck. Your poor little guy is just popular w/ everyone. ;) But seriously, I hope it ends soon and the school gets the situation taken care of.

[NiteQueen]

Two words....sexual harasssment...use them repeatedly next time you speak with the principal. It will do wonders if used in conjunction with the word lawyer . :D :D




ITA!!!!!

[msmom79]

Ita W/all Post Here !! Put A Stop To This Behavior Now

[LitWtch]

I agree that the issue needs attetion, however, bear in mind that the other child is ALSO 6 years old. These are little kids, and one does not realize his boundries - perhaps he is just showing he likes your son's friendship, even though it is not the correct way to show it. You have already spoken to the teacher tactfully, sit back and let her do her job. If there is no resolve, then approach the principal and request a meeting with the boy and his parents.
I am not saying that this is the situation, it just seems that society is quick to judge when something could be completely harmless. Sexual harassment? These are largely innocent 6 year olds. Simply let the principal know that you expect the behavior to stop or you will take it to the board.

[cinnamonch]

I am not saying that this is the situation, it just seems that society is quick to judge when something could be completely harmless. Sexual harassment? These are largely innocent 6 year olds. Simply let the principal know that you expect the behavior to stop or you will take it to the board.

Maybe its not sexual harassment in the way we look at things given the age of the children, but it is still harassment. Her child has told this boy repeatedly to leave him alone but he wont. It's now to a point were other children are picking on her son because of this boys behavior.

My question is why hasnt the teacher stepped up and said something to the child/parents about his behavior before now? It's not like she can say she didnt know what was going on.

I would suggest you schedule a meeting with the principal, the parents, the children involved and yourself and get this out in the open. Let them know you dont appreciate what their son is doing to your child and they need to get this behavior corrected else you will file harassment charges against them and their child.

[JCshopper]

I will wait until the end of the week to see if the situation is corrected. If it has not been I will certainly be in touch with the principal. I would never have any conversations about disciplinary problems, with another parent, without the mediation of the Principal. I used to work for a school district, and that is a big no, no. You can get yourself into a big he said, she said debate. Especially since some parents either think their kids can do no wrong or shouldn't be disciplined. I have had situations with one such family already this year. A fourth grader was beating on my son on the bus and the district did not want to call the parents because every time the child's seat has been moved or he has been spoken to the parents have called screaming. They've complained about the driver putting him in the second seat so he couldn't beat on the other kids, and that's when he started beating on mine. I AM SO SICK AND TIRED of IDIOT PARENTS. I am also tired of dealing with school districts letting them get away with this **** . What happened to the days of "GEE, little Johnny is a menace and he's OFF the bus"? YOU DRIVE HIM! Wow, now that I've vented about that... This new situation concerns me because my son is very upset and the other children are picking on him. I remember being his age and the scars that stay with you ... even though they are only 6. These things just have a way of sticking around. Thanks for letting me vent.

[llbriteyes]

If none of this works, take it to the next level.... whatever that might be (ie principal, school board, media).

I agree with everyone else.

Linda

[DJ88GIRL]

I do hope you get this worked out, I know how cruel children can be.
But it has made me revisit the way people look at things like this. The reason I say this is my little grandson is a hugger. If he likes you ..he hugs you. I seen him hug another boy at school one day and the kid shrugged him off. I tried to explain that he didn’t want to be hugged. But I will have a better explanation for him when I talk with him again about this. I can see where this would cause, a lot of grief. Hugs to you and your little one, keep us updated.

[schsa]

Give the teacher the chance to correct the problem. If it persists, then insist on a meeting with the principal and let the principal deal with the kid's parents and the child. If they do have a personal space rule then if the teacher can't enforce it with the child, you can bet that the principal will make sure that the child and the parents understand the rule. Who wants to see their school in the paper with a sexual harrassment suit going on? I am sure that the principal will intervene and put a stop to it.

[Blondiex46]

so did anything happen yet and what do you expect to happen. If the principal speaks with the parents he doesn't have to tell you, confidentiality.

[JCshopper]

The teacher has had a talk with the child and so far, so good. NO more smooches.