How do people pick certain ones to be mean to?

[belle5691]

Just in general, it kinda surprises me when I read some of the posts and some people are really nice in them and then you remember when they posted in your thread or someone elses to say something mean to you. How or what makes people pick who they are mean to, if they dont even know you? :confused:

[YYounghouse]

ah.... the mystery of connection.
who knows, I just try to be kind to everyone.
Some people can only feel good about themselves
if they put others down.
sad. sad.
sometimes this place reminds me of Jr. High,
truly, not a place for the faint of heart.
that is why
me= mostly a lurker

[Johnslambchop]

I think people tend to pick on people that they feel are weaker than themselves because they need something to make them feel better about themselves..... I think that held true in High School -- you'd think we were all a little past there here....

[kidzpca]

ah.... the mystery of connection.
who knows, I just try to be kind to everyone.
Some people can only feel good about themselves
if they put others down.
sad. sad.
sometimes this place reminds me of Jr. High,
truly, not a place for the faint of heart.
that is why
me= mostly a lurker

ita

I also try to be kind to everyone.

But then there are TROLLS. Those people here just to cause trouble.

[buttrfli]

I try to pick on everyone at least once :D

LOL I am just kidding ;)

I honestly don't think I have been "mean" to anyone here... I know I have (recenlty) said a few things to a person that I later apologized for, but I wasn't trying to be mean.

oh wait... yea there is one person I have been mean to... but we won't talk about that LOL ;)

[belle5691]

LOL butterfli....we made it through that one without too many scars. :) What i was thinking of I guess was kinda funny....I wont even say what post it was in...but a few weeks ago a person made comments in a certain thread that must have been pretty bad because the comments were removed before I could even read them, thank goodness, and since then Ive noticed that person seems like a really nice considerate person to others. I was just puzzled. Oh well....

[caides_mom]

well let me tell you what i do~i put all your names in a hat and pick a different person each day ;)
i'm kidden i don't post enough to do that :eek:

[joesbaby]

i personally think that if someone has had alternitve ideas, lifestyles or dealings with someone, they seem to be picked on more than others. like if your life dont fit into a certiain format, they figure you to be either a looser, a predator, or just stupid. or my personal favorit..the angry evil ex.. i hear that one alot from my kid. i guess its mostly, someone picks on someone whos ideas, emotions, values, or lifestyle they dotn agree with. does that make any sence???
have a good day
ericka

[justme23]

I have been asked this... and sometimes I think it is more because someone feels passionate about a subject and their passion comes across as being rude as opposed to actually WANTING to be rude to someone... I know I have come across rude in a lot of my posts... it is certainly not meant that way and I always try to apologize... even tho that rarely matters.

[msmom79]

You Know What? Ive Seen It In My Post,and Yes I Have Been Smarted Off To.and Told No That Didnt Happen!! You Know What Gets Me Through It? I Know I Tell The Trueth,i Have Lived A Different Life The Last 5 Years,hey Its Been Really Hard On Me To Be On My Own,but I Do It Daily!! Got Alot Of Good Advice From Nana And Mama,so For The Ones Who Are Mean,alls I Can Say Is "karma" Will Get Them. And Just Remember Folks Dont Judge Someone Unless You Have Walked In Their Shoes!! Jmo,ann

[NiteQueen]

Well ive heard that people that live in glass houses shouldnt throw stones.......lol
I try to be nice to everyone. so in turn everyone will do the same....even sometimes if i dont agree with them. that is their opinion so who is to say they are wrong.

[llbriteyes]

I think that stating opinions is a great opportunity for good discussion. I certainly *try* not to be mean to anyone. I take great pains in choosing my words. I do have strong opinions about things, but I think if opinions are exchanged, what a wonderful world we have. There is no exuse for being rude, but expressing opinions isn't rude.

What a wonderful forum we have here that we can do that. Unfortunately, intonation of what is said gets missed since we can only communicate in the written word. I enjoy a good debate, however, I think some of the things I say are misconstrued and taken as a personal attack, when in fact, I'm simply stating what I believe. I try very hard to make sure I don't hurt anyone's feelings.

Everyone here is entitled to their own opinion, to be sure. That's how healthy debates happen. I know I learn a lot from people with whom I debate. Diversity is the name of the game. It would be pretty darned boring if we all held the same opinion.

As for being mean, well, none of my posts are mean. They aren't meant to be mean. They are meant to spark debate and thoughtful discussion. There is a difference between being mean, and debating a subject. I try to do the latter.

Linda

[Donnagg123]

I think a lot of times it depends on how close the subject is to the person. A normally complacent person can get very riled if it is a subject that is personal to them. that is usually the reason I see for most of the heated debates on here.

[queenangie]

Enie,
Meanie,
Minee,
Moe,
Let's be mean to ________.

Is that what you mean?

Sending you hugs!