HELP!!!! - In Need of ...

[abbynme]

Hey girls,
I'm sitting here with only one eye working. Live-in punched me in the face last night. Cops came but don't know if he was sent to jail. I'm looking for work, but, can't go on interviews looking like this. I feel so degraded, embarassed, etc. Need help in coping with this and paying bills with no income. Savings is going quick! Any sugesstions are welcome. Thanks! Ya'll are great!

[CatrinaF25]

Hey girls,
I'm sitting here with only one eye working. Live-in punched me in the face last night. Cops came but don't know if he was sent to jail. I'm looking for work, but, can't go on interviews looking like this. I feel so degraded, embarassed, etc. Need help in coping with this and paying bills with no income. Savings is going quick! Any sugesstions are welcome. Thanks! Ya'll are great!

first let me say i am very sorry this happened to you.
second get a protection order TODAY NOW!!
third i hope you know this is not your fault! no man or woman has a right to hit another.(unless protecting others)
i appauld you for trying to do this on your own. although i am lil help i wish you the best. this is not your fault so please donot feel degraded or embarassed. maybe feel embarassed FOR HIM that he is this evil but you have nothing to be embarassed about. you are a victim huggers

[catssass]

I am so sorry this has happened to you, it is NOT your fault, I totally agree with Catrina, do exactly as she said...I see you are in Virginia, I looked up some numbers, call one of them, they are the experts on what you should do next, most of all they will give you the support you need right now, I'll say a prayer for you, please let us know how you are doing...

http://www.angelfire.com/ar/LRfuzz1/shelters/dvsrva.html

[mistressB]

that's sucks. i really hope you don't let that jerk back into the house. they never change. you shouldn't be embarrassed but i really wouldn't go to a job interview with your eye swollen, an employer will look at that and see that you have trouble in your personal life that might effect your work life. just keep putting ice on it, take your vitamins and when it's just bruised you can use yellow to nutrilize the dark color before covering it with make up.

[joni1269]

(((((hugs)))))

[faygokraze]

Go to a local domestic violence shelter!!!!!! They will help with anything!! If you go and apply for assitance from the state they will help also.... Tell them about your situation!

(((HUGZ)))

[Blondiex46]

So sorry sweetie. There has been alot of people on these boards that have been through what you have been through. Do you have a support system, friends, family anything? Make sure you take pix of your face, find out if there was a police report filed also. There should be support services somewhere you live.

[llbriteyes]

1) Leave. You can go to a battered woman's shelter, even if you have children. These are also known as safe houses. They can also help you with finding a job.

2) Prosecute. You don't deserve to be hit. Nobody does.

Linda

[latestdish]

*hugs* The same thing literally happened to me between November and December of 2004. Follow other advice given, and 1) See if VA has a crime victims fund. Go apply. 2) Call courts and police to see if ex was sent to jail.
3) Apply for lots of local assistance. 4) Let me pray for you, if it is OK.
I also am a homemaker with little income, but am learning some tips as I speak
to cope. PM me or e-mail me at pepsiette@hotmail.com. :( I have absolutely NO use for "men" like this at all. Also, and I learned from very, very hard experience (and I am normally someone who is very liberal/believes in not fighting): 1) change your locks immediately 2) do not let him back in. That's like EVER. Yeah, no matter how much he cries, says he is sorry, etc. He is just sorry he was caught is all. A lot of these men never change. Don't end up hurt worse, or dead. I almost did. I mean it, too. I was in two relationships just like this one, and did not learn the first time. 3) If he comes back for his things REQUIRE a police officer or constable escort him. Otherwise, door stays locked. 4) Go to a shelter- really. Follow the advice here. I left a shelter early. I was really, really foolish for doing that. 5) Tell the police about all weapons he has - really. Don't feel guilty. A PFA is just a civil action, and will not affect prospects for jobs, etc. He is mean. Not you.
There are much better men out there.

*big hugs/and tears for you coming to my eyes as I write this.* One more thing: get some medical help before you go anywheres! You DO NOT want to lose your sight/have your eyes get worse.* The doc can also often right statements that will help you in court. You can do it! Take care! -Joy

[Shann]

*hugs*

[schsa]

Take everything you have a go to your local women's shelter. They will help you get back on your feet. Do not, under any circumstances, let that man back into your life. Next time he may kill you. Get out while you can. Have your mail forwarded to a PO Box and don't go back. You are better off without him and you can make it on your own.

[queenangie]

Go get help, dear!

Do not let him back in your home. Next time it could be your life,
instead of the black eye. You do NOT deserve to be somebody's
punching bag.

Let us know how things are going.

God Bless you, dear!

[supermous]

Went through similar situation back in 2000 and left my ex for good!
It was one of the WIZEST things that I could have done!!!
One of the things that really helped me in addition to the caring support system of my friends, was that I contacted the organization that is affiliated with my religion, it is a family and children's organization designed to help with all sorts of situations, and they were really great with me and my son! They provided me with phone numbers, as well as two great big boxes of food and even a few toys for my son since we had left our home and were hiding out at a friend's house! Had I not regained my own house they would have even been willing to find me an apartment and pay for my rent until I could get back on my feet!

Another thing that I am doing to this day is working from home, I have two jobs, the first being babysitting an autistic little girl, I pick her up monday through friday after school and watch her until her mother gets off of work.
The other job that I do is phone work from home. I call people from a weekly list that my company provides me and ask them for donations of old clothing, household items etc, arrange for the company truck to come on a designated day and pick up the items and then get a weekly paycheck, the only outside contact that I make is mailing my call sheets and truck driver lists back to the main office, as well as calling into my supervisor to give her updates on the progress of my calling for the week.

Good luck to you and GOD bless!!! :)