fiance

[irrelevant0]

a girl he used to know called him back in december or january. i told him to pick her or me, and he told her not to call anymore. now he is asking me if i remember her number and where she lived. he said he just wants to talk to her to see what she wanted because he feels bad for telling her not to call. right now he is making a mile long list of numbers. i asked if he was going to call everyone he thought might know her until he found her, and he said 'might as well'. he'd be mad if i was trying to find one of my ex boyfriends, but it's okay for him. i just feel like crying, but i am not going to. :(

[ang in NC]

RUN! Don't walk

[LuvBigRip]

No offense, but how many times does this "man" need to insult you before you decide that you deserve better? I am sure that you think you love him, but trust me, this is not love.

[delSol]

well, I'm confused. at 2:21 you post you are doing better and talking and at 3:08 he is compiling numbers?????

[Tasha405]

well, I'm confused. at 2:21 you post you are doing better and talking and at 3:08 he is compiling numbers?????
I know! Thats what I was gonna say. I thought maybe I had the wrong person or something though. lol


I thought yall were doing better? What happened?

[turbob]

Dump this slacker LOSER! If he does this now, he will do it after you are married. You deserve better.

[buttrfli]

I know! Thats what I was gonna say. I thought maybe I had the wrong person or something though. lol


I thought yall were doing better? What happened?


I thought the same thing :confused:

[Kelsey1224]

I'm confused as well. And I thought you didn't have a computer and had to go to the library. As your running to the library to post every time the situation changes.

[belcherpi]

well, I'm confused. at 2:21 you post you are doing better and talking and at 3:08 he is compiling numbers?????


I'm also confused. :confused: You really need to take a long hard look at your relationship. I honestly don't think your fiance is ready to settle down with one person yet. Your best bet would be to cut your losses with this guy and move on. I know it's easier said than done but I've read your posts about him and he's obviously not ready to settle down. I wish you the best of luck in what ever you decide.

[mistressB]

yeah sounds like he isn't ready to be married. he's calling sex lines, going to dating sites, and now he's trying to get ahold of some old girl. you need to get rid of him. could you imagine getting married to this guy and having kids? then what, he finds someone else and leaves you and your kids without a father? sheesh, how many warning signs do you need?

[Denise1972]

Honey, I wouldnt waste your time with him. He is trying to make you leave him. He is to scared to leave you. Or he knows you will stay no matter what. Give him an inch he will take a mile. If you have to go back and live with your mom, do it hun. Leave this loser to ruin his own life. (((((HUGS)))))

[Hollie1974]

RUN! Don't walk


ITA bigtime!!
Hollie

[cinnamonch]

Why are you still dealing with him? Back in July you said you were through with him because he seemed to have something going on with another girl and here you are again talking about the same thing.

Don't mean to offend but do you enjoy this drama in your life?

[lassss]

I am sure I will get flamed for this..but girl you just don't learn...how many times do you need to go though this??? a leopard CANNOT change his spots!!! This man is NOT going to change..is this what you want to live with for the rest of your life..always worrying who he is calling or who calls him??? I would much rather be alone in life then to go thru this crap..i'm sorry but it's time to wake up

[freeplease]

Unless this jerk gave you a kidney or something, you owe him nothing but the back of your head out the door. How much garbage do you have to take before you choke? Is this really all you want in life? I can't imagine living like this. Get out now before it's too late to have a life for yourself.

[tammy77]

Is this the same person who was complaining because her man told her to take back presents she bought for her kids so he could pay a bill or is that someone else?

[lassss]

Is this the same person who was complaining because her man told her to take back presents she bought for her kids so he could pay a bill or is that someone else?


yep

[tammy77]

Im sorry but I dont feel bad for you at all.If my husband did half of what your boyfriend did he would be out the door.I love my husband dearly but if he treated me like that I know I deserve better.You made your bed when you decided to stay with him so now lie in it.You are doing this to yourself and allowing him to treat you like crap.I really think you need help and until you get it I know you will never leave.I was just wondering if you might have a self esteem problem and dont think you can do better then him??

[mistressB]

i don't know if any of you are bipolar or have dealt with someone who is, but it sounds to me like she's paranoid. it could be that the things she posts about on here she is blowing out of proportions. she's obviously suffering from mood swings, one minute things are going to work out, the next she's through with him. if she's not on meds she really needs to be on them, maybe then she can make a clear descision about her situation.

[Kelsey1224]

Is this the same person who was complaining because her man told her to take back presents she bought for her kids so he could pay a bill or is that someone else?

Actually, NO. That person's screen name was keen..something.

This poster is rather young and I don't believe they have any children.

[Denise1972]

No that wasnt her.. that was keen



Is this the same person who was complaining because her man told her to take back presents she bought for her kids so he could pay a bill or is that someone else?

[tammy77]

Im sorry that I had the wrong person but what I said Im not sorry about.If this guy is a piece of crap then she needs to leave him.I dont know anyone with bi polar but I feel that I might have it.I havent been to a doctor because I cant afford to go right now.I guess there are different stages because I wouldnt let a man treat me like that.

[catdance]

Dear, I am starting to think this is a really BAD joke, or you like this abuse, this is abusive, it is hurtful and flat out wrong, and I fear if you keep posting like this, some people are going to just STOP sending you advice and get really tired of this, because you are getting alot of attention, and do NOTHING with some very good advice..and I wonder why?? YOU are allowing any of it..I am sorry if this hurt's you, but as I read this stuff, I have to wonder is all..this guy IS NOT available to you, and you deserve SOOOOO MUCH more, being alone to straighten your life out, is best..LEAVE him, let him find this gal..let him do it..he already is going to..so let him..and leave..GET OVER IT.

[bulldog6186]

It may have been mentioned, sorry if I missed it. How old is the OP :confused:

[Kelsey1224]

Dear, I am starting to think this is a really BAD joke, or you like this abuse, this is abusive, it is hurtful and flat out wrong, and I fear if you keep posting like this, some people are going to just STOP sending you advice and get really tired of this, because you are getting alot of attention, and do NOTHING with some very good advice..and I wonder why?? YOU are allowing any of it..I am sorry if this hurt's you, but as I read this stuff, I have to wonder is all..this guy IS NOT available to you, and you deserve SOOOOO MUCH more, being alone to straighten your life out, is best..LEAVE him, let him find this gal..let him do it..he already is going to..so let him..and leave..GET OVER IT.

A little harsh...but I agree with you catdance.

[queenangie]

It will only get worse if you marry him.

Look for another fish in the sea.

My mother used to say, "You have to kiss a lot of toads to find the real prince."
This one is a 'toad, not the prince you deserve.'

[mizzy62]

I was going to post, but changed my mind..I think maybe we have all paid too much attention to this as it is... ;)

[KATinKY]

i don't know if any of you are bipolar or have dealt with someone who is, but it sounds to me like she's paranoid. it could be that the things she posts about on here she is blowing out of proportions. she's obviously suffering from mood swings, one minute things are going to work out, the next she's through with him. if she's not on meds she really needs to be on them, maybe then she can make a clear descision about her situation.

I agree with mistressB, and she does have bi-polar and trust me, she isnt making things up and she doesnt deserve to be treated like she is and anyone that thinks she deserves this because she stays in this relationship needs to keep their oppinion to thier self, because it is the last thing she needs to hear. she comes on here since it it vent and whine and she does that, and I for one will be here to listen to her, and yes I am Bi-Polar just so you know, and I tell you what? he may not be that bad of a guy, she could be paranoid, and making her think the worst. I don't know, but I know it isnt easy for her and its not like she can just pick up and leave, some of you may think so, and I will more than likely get flammed for saying it, but it would not be the first time and wouldnt be the last time. And for the ones who is wondering she is 20. (((irrelevant0))) if you ever decide to leave him, and you dont have a place to go, my door is always open, please remeber that.

[KATinKY]

I was going to post, but changed my mind..I think maybe we have all paid too much attention to this as it is... ;)
not to be mean, but then you should have hit the back button instead of the reply you made, that was very rude.

[mistressB]

Dear, I am starting to think this is a really BAD joke, or you like this abuse, this is abusive, it is hurtful and flat out wrong, and I fear if you keep posting like this, some people are going to just STOP sending you advice and get really tired of this, because you are getting alot of attention, and do NOTHING with some very good advice..and I wonder why?? YOU are allowing any of it..I am sorry if this hurt's you, but as I read this stuff, I have to wonder is all..this guy IS NOT available to you, and you deserve SOOOOO MUCH more, being alone to straighten your life out, is best..LEAVE him, let him find this gal..let him do it..he already is going to..so let him..and leave..GET OVER IT.

you're one to talk! i've read, or should i say tried to read, your posts. you do a fair share of complaining about the people in your life too. oh my friend takes advantage of me, my boyfriend hit me, this guy i went out with kept my $100 ect. next time take a look at yourself before you go criticizing someone else. she didn't ask for your rude comments. she just wanted a place to vent.

[Linus1223]

Kind of easy for all of us to pass judgement when we're not in her shoes, huh?

[mizzy62]

*sees that pretty yellow lock coming..wanders out of the post, shoeless..*

[bulldog6186]

I don't know the OP, but if she is bipolar like someone said, posting that everything is fine and dandy one minute then turning around saying things are horrible again ten minutes later, sounds like she needs help.

Maybe the folks that know her can get in touch w/her family to make sure she is taking her meds :confused:

[MsLynn]

I just wanna say, if this man did 1/10th of this stuff to me, you'd find him in the middle of the woods with certain body parts nailed to a tree stump, the tree stump on fire and me LAUGHING MY HEAD OFF, LMAO, SCREAMING BURN BABY BURN

[mistressB]

I just wanna say, if this man did 1/10th of this stuff to me, you'd find him in the middle of the woods with certain body parts nailed to a tree stump, the tree stump on fire and me LAUGHING MY HEAD OFF, LMAO, SCREAMING BURN BABY BURN

now who needs meds? j/k :p

[laughsalot]

my oh my, look at all of the psychiatrists we have on this forum! Good god!


Irrelevant, I dont know what is going on but I wish you luck in dealing with all of these situations. I dont have any advice just hugs for you. Will keep you in my thoughts and prayers.

[catdance]

I wrote a reponse, at Vent and Whine, and again this goes "amiss", I wrote what I wrote to say.."girlfriend"..I hear you, but you allow this..and it isn't ok, and it is "NOT going to be in my opinion", this forum is about asking for opinions, that is what I gave..I feel at this point, I am going to write a MOD for a personal attack on me and my life.

[laughsalot]

Catdance was giving the OP her advice. The thing with advice is that it is not always what you "Want" to hear.

There was absolutly no reason what so ever to attack her. The difference with catdance is that she had the COURAGE to change her circumstances!

[irrelevant0]

first off i want to thank you all for reminding me why i don't post on this board to talk about my problem. i posted once to say i didn't have anyone to talk to, and i get all these replys and pms saying 'talk to us' 'talk to me', that's what we're here for, to help. well, i posted to get things off my chest, and i am accused of making up stories and basically told i am stupid. again, thank you. you all have made me feel so much better, let me tell you.

on the other hand, to those of you who actually care and are decent, nice people thank you.

i was at the library earlier and posted things were better. he was on a computer beside me, and after i posted he asked me if i remembered the name of the city she was in. he that is how i found out he is looking for her. all i know is that her name is katie and she lives in texas, so i don't know why he thinks i know where she is.

to those of you who think i am lying, making things up, whatever: you think what you want. you're a name on a board, you're nothing to me.

not that it is anyone's business, but yes, i am bipolar. why? what does that have to do with anything?

it's easy for you to sit at your computer and tell me what i need to be doing, to tell me i need to leave, and tell me you think i am full of it. it's easy for you to say you'd leave, but if you're not in the situation, how do you know? do you know about the little thing we do? about the things that make it worth trying to save? NO. i always said i'd leave if anyone treated me badly, but now that i am in a serious relationship (the longest before this was 5 months), i see that there are bad times, and good times, and the good can outweight hte bad.