what is wrong with some men????

[baxnbust]

Notice I said some, not all. Ok here's my vent. Why is it that some men think and act like they are smarter than you unril it somes to doing stuff around the house. My dogs came in earlier today and got mud all over the blanket on our bed. Boyfriend throws it down the basement stairs but doesn't wash it because he says he isn't sure if there is a "special" way to wash blankets vs clothes. Isn't sure if you use detergent. What???? Also, claims he doesn't know how to iron and if I ask him to do dishes he only does them until he fills up the dishdrainer. He says he doesn't know where to put the rest because the dishdrainer is full. Arghhhhhhh....

[msmom79]

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[MamaFairal]

LOL some men????

[DivineMsDi]

In this regard, I cannot complain about my dh. He would make a better housewife than me. He is great at ironing, good at cleaning up and is very picky about things. I don't like him to do the laundry, though. He kind of throws it all in.

Some men (and women) are just lazy. They'll get away with whatever you'll let them. :rolleyes:

[gwens29]

my hubby does everything including laundry (he doesnt fold though :( but he does gripe afterwards if it gets messy fast lol but he never topuches the dishes ... most the time id rather do it myself as hear him gripe :rolleyes:

[MsLynn]

shoot if anyone did anything around my house, lol cept me, i'd have a heart attack

[Shann]

*sigh* sounds so farmiliar... my gripe, why are some men such jerks? why is it so hard to be a gentleman? My last bf was wonderful, he did it all and I didn't have to really do much. :D Unfortunatley, we were not right for each other and now are best of friends. :) Hope things get better w/ your lazy bf! ;)

[reneep45]

shoot if anyone did anything around my house, lol cept me, i'd have a heart attack


ME TOO !!! LOL !

[barbaric]

Mine shops and cooks, but makes major messes. I do not believe men can handle laundry at all. I feel your pain!

[janelle]

He probably doesn't know about laundry but he should know not to throw it down the stairs. How is that helping you? Why not take it down and lay it in the laundry basket? Or better yet have the laundry basket upstairs and put it there until you want him to carry it downstairs for you?

We do have to be careful not to criticise them when they do things or they will stop right quick. Suggest he put the dishes on the counter until you can put them away if he doesn't know where they go. He does know how to dry dishes doesn't he? It takes longer but they will be done faster. Tell him this way you can make him a delicious meal faster the next time you cook him a meal. LOL You need clean dishes to cook.

My hubby came from a large family and they were all taught to cook and clean and how to do it the right way. He is great to help but even he will back off if I tell him he is doing it wrong---not my way---LOL.

[mistressB]

well at least my man will outright say that it's woman's work. i figure he's allowed to say that because he works,i stay home, and he does take care of the "man's" work.

[momfromTN]

Seriously, I don't care if a man DOES work outside the home, picking up after yourself and not making messes for someone else to clean up are just basic consideration for your spouse. A man who is that inconsiderate must not have been taught well by his mother and father, IMO. That is just teaching your kids that it is ok to disrespect Mom. I have sons and they already are being taught that it takes a team to run a house and to do chores, like dishes, laundry, etc. Why should a man's workday end and ours NEVER ends? I am not saying a man should work outside the home and still do it ALL at home. No, that would not be fair either. But, would it KILL some guys to pick up a broom or wash a dish? My DH is getting better, but I remember after having a miscarriage a few years ago, he let dishes sit for 3 days. I had to be off my feet. Finally, I couldn't stand it anymore and got it done. I don't understand that mentality. If your spouse is not well, you should pick up the slack. When my DH had surgery, I did it ALL, including the trash pick up and yard work.

I have a friend who I have known since we were small. She married a wonderful man. She has never worked outside the home and he will still come home and if he sees something needs done that she has not gotten around to doing, he will just do it and not gripe at all. She doesn't even ask. He says it is HIS home too. He would even get their kids for feedings during the night when they were babies, and diaper them and take them back to bed after my friend nursed them.

[baxnbust]

I think there is a big problem with the way women let men get away with stuff. We say, Oh they are just men and they don't know a thing about cleaning, laundry etc...They need to learn. I work 40 hours a week just like he does so why am I responsible for dinner, shopping, cleaning etc...???I stopped doing his laundry about 2 years ago because it isn't my problem. I can't stop cleaning however, because then I have to live in a filthy house. Men know this and they play off of it. I need to know, How can I get him to do stuff around the house????? How???? Any help would be appreciated.

[BabyDolla]

In this regard, I cannot complain about my dh. He would make a better housewife than me. He is great at ironing, good at cleaning up and is very picky about things. I don't like him to do the laundry, though. He kind of throws it all in.

Some men (and women) are just lazy. They'll get away with whatever you'll let them. :rolleyes:

I agree with you on this, but I do let mine do the laundry. I will admit I hate cleaning. I feel like I clean in circles. Get one room done, do another and when you come back to the 1st room you cleaned it is trashed. I am sick of hearing, "wasn't me." When I find "wasn't me" he is in big trouble! :p