My brother....(its gonna be long.. I can tell)

[sweetcandy]

My brother..got arrested in July. He went to jail and stayed in a local jail until the end of last month, and they sent him to Brushy Mountain prison. He got arrested for violation of probation and I'm pretty sure of some other things, but I don't know what they are. I can deal with him being in the county jail, because thats the county we grew up in, and he knows almost everybody there. He turned 23 in July in jail of course. What makes me really tick is that he WANTED :eek: to go to prison. He said that he'll get to do more stuff there. The real reason he wanted to go is because he said that he would get to smoke cigs. To me that is NOT a reason to want to go to prison. He's 2 years older then me and I'm suppost to look up to him, but him wanting to go to prison isn't much to look up at. :mad: Well anywayz I have his address at the prison :rolleyes: (I can't believe he is really there)
and I'm gonna get him a box of stationary and envelopes and stamps so he can write me and my mom and my sister. When my mom first called me and told me that he was in prison, that night I was laying in bed feeling guilty cuz I was in a soft bed and he was layin on a cot in a prison, but the next day I realized that I shouldn't feel guilty because no matter what me or my older sister or our mother told him, he never listened to us about anything. I haven't seen him for 2 years this Christmas and the Brushy Mountain website says he won't get out until 2009 :eek: But he is up for parole next year but he told my mom that he doubts that he will get out. I'm worried about my mom, she keeps worrying about him and her health isn't all that great, she's only 54 but she has high blood pressure and emphazema (sp?) and a bleeding ulcer in her stomach and she lives alone. She gets really worried/depressed about him and she keeps waiting on a phone call from the prison about my brother being killed in prison :( :eek: She's only worried cuz she knows a guy that went to that prison and he got stabbed really bad in there and he showed us a scar and it was UGLY...He had to have one of his organs removed because it was so deep So that didn't help momma's feelings. Other then all of that, My life is going good :) :p

[NascarFAN]

I'm so sorry hugs 2 ya

[deja]

i had a great uncle who went to prison for his first time when he was 17, and he's been there off and on ever since. he's now in his late 50's. some people actually like being in prison, they like the structure and lack of resposibility. everything that they do is planned by someone else and they just do it. not saying this is your brother's case, but this happens often. it's like the longer they are in the inside the harder it is for them to deal with the real world. and no you shouldn't feel guilty. he got himself into that cot, now he can lay in it.

[Tadbit]

I'm confused... you said you grew up in jail? I'm not trying to be nosey, but why is that? I hope you don't follow in his stepfoots, and please do something with your life so you can set an example for your sister. Prison is no life for anyone, and you are worth much more than that. With this said, (((hugs to you))), I know you must miss him.

[Kelsey1224]

I'm also confused. Your brother made bad choices in his life...and you feel guilty. And why are you suppose to look up to him...because he is older??

Life doesn't work that way. HE is the one responsible for his life. You need to start looking up to people who set good examples for you and provide you counsel on how to live you life.

As for your mother...of course she is worried. She's a mother. Regardless of the choices my children made I would still love them and worry about them. But, all you can do is support her and make good choices in your own life. That way she can be proud of you!!!

[sweetcandy]

I'm confused... you said you grew up in jail? .

No, lol, he was in Sevier County jail and thats where we grew up (Sevier County) not in the jail, but he has been in and out of jail since he was around 16...but when he got arrested his first time it was because he was a minor and he was out past curfew and he had a pocket knife (considered a weapon)...that was pretty stupid for arresting him, he was at a friends house and they were outside (like at the mailbox or sumthin) and his friend didn't get arrested cuz it was his house but he did and he got arrested more and more after he turned 18.

[sweetcandy]

I'm also confused. Your brother made bad choices in his life...and you feel guilty. And why are you suppose to look up to him...because he is older??

Yeah I always looked up to him because he was older and he was the only male in the house...my father died when I was 2 (1985) And my sister moved out when I was 11 so that left me and my mom and him. me and him grew up together. I don't know why I felt guilty tho, it was his choices what he did, he was stubborn and didn't listen to anybody and alwayz was with the wrong crowd, but after he would get outta jail, he would do good for about a week and then he started hanging with the bad crowd again and made really crappy choices.

[catdance]

I guess you ca pray and send the envelopes, and such, if he has no direction in life, maybe it is best he get's himself confined, he wanted, so he got it, but remember, this really wasn't what he wanted, no one really does, but he decided to get there and there he will sit..this weird excitement he talk's about or rather you wrote, it troubling..but if he wanted a very structed life..I say CONGRAT'S, he got it, he misses his life that was blessed to him, his family the holidays and the ablility to make decisions for himself, if that is his life, let him have it, he can't tell himself what is WRONG, so he can't tell you, or your Mom, so rest easy, he got where he decided he needed to be regardless if you agree..that is where he is and where he will stay until, someone DECIDES for him, when he can leave..make no worries for you, guilt..SHESSH!, he did this to himself, and happily didn't do much harm than disappoint you and your families involved, and the county know's this, so leave it alone, and pray, if you see fit..and MOVE on with your life..do what is necessary to keep you an OK, person, or even better than that..
((HUGS))

[justinenycole26]

She is not saying he WANTED to be incarcerated in the first place, she is saying if he has to be incarcerated, he would rather be in prison than a county jail, which makes perfect sense. Prison is a lot more lax in most cases. He will also have the opportunity to get a GED, work in some way making a little money, etc. that he would not be able to do in a county jail. Smoking is another big thing. I know a couple people whou could not wait to be sentenced so they could be "sent up". No, I'm not a prisoner, I just used to hang out with thugs.

Hun, your brother broke the law and is paying for it. Don't keep yourself awake at night feeling guilty because he is there. It was HIS choice tobreak the law, not yours.

[llbriteyes]

Hopefully in prison he'll grow up some.

Thinking of you and your family,

Linda

[schsa]

I am about to go to court in an hour because of the 20 year old that broke into my house and stole my car. His lawyer wants to get his bail reduced. He's been sitting in jail since July. Quite honestly, I think he's better off there. At least in jail he has structure and can't mess up too badly. This isn't his first offense and it probably won't be his last.

Your brother has made a choice that makes him happy. At least your mom knows where he is sleeping at night. And she has less to worry about with him in jail than if he were out running the streets.