buttrfli
10-24-2004, 11:34 AM
that you feel like you could bust out of your skin?? Thats how I am at this moment.
My 23 y/o DD came and got my girls yesterday to stay the night and go to the movies today. My grand-girls were at their dads (who only sees them 2 weekends a mo) so DD goes and gets the GG's ... not a huge deal, but they need to be spending time with their parents on the weekends and its the only time my lil DD's and the GG's get a break from each other...
Anyhow DD calls me and says "I know the girls are going to tell you, so I am telling you now..." DD and her DH stopped to get gas on the way to the movies, DD went in to pay and her DH decided that he wanted something to drink, so he went into the store... leaving ALL 4 lil girls in the car ALONE!!!! I have always been a freak w/ DD about not leaving the kids in the car because of all the horror stories you hear. I am so much a freak that everytime I tell her, she rolls her eyes and tells me "I know mom, I would never do that" ... let me add that her DH has been present for these many conversations...
When she called today, I went spastic on her. She REALLY thought that I would not be as mad as I was because she was upfront with me... WHATEVER!!!! Then she tells me that if I am so upset about it, she dosen't have to take the kids anymore... ummmm why are you threatening me when YOU messed up!!! How about I just don't let the kids go anywhere with you anymore because you and your DH are irresponsible?! She defended her DH saying he didn't know adn I know for a fact that he knows what a freak I am about my kids! DO NOT LEAVE MY KIDS IN THE CAR! How can I be any more clear???? She goes on to tell me that it was only for a few seconds... like that makes a difference.
I have to add that her DH had a very bad wreck last year and almost died from a head injury... and ever since then they both have been very devout to their religion. (don't flame me here) which is fine, but its to the point of if someone does not believe the same things they do, exactly as they do, they don't have anything to do with them.... including family. DH and I are about the only people in the family that they even communicate with because they have alienated themselves from everyone else that was ever close to them because everyone else is not as good of a chirstian as they are. (This is from DD's mouth)
I don't say much about it because it is just they way they have chosen to live... which is fine, but don't force it upon me and don't drop your family that cares about you because of it. I can talk to DD as long as we don't discuss my beliefs or theirs... other than that we have a great relationship.
Anyhow, the more she made excuses for leaving the kids in the car, the more pissed I got. I told her to drop it and we would discuss it when they get here to drop the kids off... and she goes on and on about how God wouldn't have let anything bad happen to the girls..... WTF???!!! I told her to drop it until she got here and she told me that she was not going to talk about it if I didn't calm down... you left my kids in a car unattended and you are telling me to calm dawn!?!?!
I have a feeling that this will be the first real fight DD and I have ever had and at this point, I don't care. You take my kids, you take care of them! Its not like I asked you to take them, you wanted to spend time with your sisters which is good, but be responsible with them.
She thinks I am over-reacting, but she obviously does not watch the news at all. There are certain things that I am a freak about, but will let slide or not freak out over, but this is not one of them :mad:
My 23 y/o DD came and got my girls yesterday to stay the night and go to the movies today. My grand-girls were at their dads (who only sees them 2 weekends a mo) so DD goes and gets the GG's ... not a huge deal, but they need to be spending time with their parents on the weekends and its the only time my lil DD's and the GG's get a break from each other...
Anyhow DD calls me and says "I know the girls are going to tell you, so I am telling you now..." DD and her DH stopped to get gas on the way to the movies, DD went in to pay and her DH decided that he wanted something to drink, so he went into the store... leaving ALL 4 lil girls in the car ALONE!!!! I have always been a freak w/ DD about not leaving the kids in the car because of all the horror stories you hear. I am so much a freak that everytime I tell her, she rolls her eyes and tells me "I know mom, I would never do that" ... let me add that her DH has been present for these many conversations...
When she called today, I went spastic on her. She REALLY thought that I would not be as mad as I was because she was upfront with me... WHATEVER!!!! Then she tells me that if I am so upset about it, she dosen't have to take the kids anymore... ummmm why are you threatening me when YOU messed up!!! How about I just don't let the kids go anywhere with you anymore because you and your DH are irresponsible?! She defended her DH saying he didn't know adn I know for a fact that he knows what a freak I am about my kids! DO NOT LEAVE MY KIDS IN THE CAR! How can I be any more clear???? She goes on to tell me that it was only for a few seconds... like that makes a difference.
I have to add that her DH had a very bad wreck last year and almost died from a head injury... and ever since then they both have been very devout to their religion. (don't flame me here) which is fine, but its to the point of if someone does not believe the same things they do, exactly as they do, they don't have anything to do with them.... including family. DH and I are about the only people in the family that they even communicate with because they have alienated themselves from everyone else that was ever close to them because everyone else is not as good of a chirstian as they are. (This is from DD's mouth)
I don't say much about it because it is just they way they have chosen to live... which is fine, but don't force it upon me and don't drop your family that cares about you because of it. I can talk to DD as long as we don't discuss my beliefs or theirs... other than that we have a great relationship.
Anyhow, the more she made excuses for leaving the kids in the car, the more pissed I got. I told her to drop it and we would discuss it when they get here to drop the kids off... and she goes on and on about how God wouldn't have let anything bad happen to the girls..... WTF???!!! I told her to drop it until she got here and she told me that she was not going to talk about it if I didn't calm down... you left my kids in a car unattended and you are telling me to calm dawn!?!?!
I have a feeling that this will be the first real fight DD and I have ever had and at this point, I don't care. You take my kids, you take care of them! Its not like I asked you to take them, you wanted to spend time with your sisters which is good, but be responsible with them.
She thinks I am over-reacting, but she obviously does not watch the news at all. There are certain things that I am a freak about, but will let slide or not freak out over, but this is not one of them :mad: