justinenycole26
07-21-2004, 08:39 PM
I am sooo happy my Dad is going to be here for my wedding, but I'm worried as hell about something else.
My finace's mom and I have never gotten along. She has been pure evil to me from day 1, but she's one of those people that's sickening sweet to your face then trashes you behind your back. She has, among other things, reported me for child abuse and neglect. This is NOT something I can forgive or forget. You can do whatever you want to me, but when you involve my kids, game over! We lived about a mile away from her when we lived in Missouri and she did not call or come by for 6 months before we moved. When we decided to move, my fiancee' tried to call her to tell her. He left messages on her answering machine, left messages with 2 people that she talked to every day, went by her house, etc. She never called. He really wanted ot see her before we left since we were moving 1400 miles away. Well of course my fiancee' has blinders on when it comes to his mom, so he sees none of this. I can tell he is hurt but he is not the type to hold a grudge. His mom can do no wrong in his eyes.
Anyway, his sister is coming down for the wedding. I really want this to feel like it is his wedding too, so I asked him if he wanted to invite his mom. His eyes lit up like a kid on Christmas morning. He called her right away and she said she will be here. I know he will be happy to have her here, especially since he has not seen her in 3 1/2 years. But I am really afraid this woman is going to try to ruin my wedding. I would not put anything past her. I will be too busy to even worry about anything she says to me and I am going to keep the girls with me all day the day of the wedding so they are away from her as much as possible. I just don't trust her. Period. The only reason I invited her is because I know how much it means to my fiancee for her to be here. Would you have invited her?
Please pray that this woman has some decorum for the first time in her life and does not do or say anything stupid!
My finace's mom and I have never gotten along. She has been pure evil to me from day 1, but she's one of those people that's sickening sweet to your face then trashes you behind your back. She has, among other things, reported me for child abuse and neglect. This is NOT something I can forgive or forget. You can do whatever you want to me, but when you involve my kids, game over! We lived about a mile away from her when we lived in Missouri and she did not call or come by for 6 months before we moved. When we decided to move, my fiancee' tried to call her to tell her. He left messages on her answering machine, left messages with 2 people that she talked to every day, went by her house, etc. She never called. He really wanted ot see her before we left since we were moving 1400 miles away. Well of course my fiancee' has blinders on when it comes to his mom, so he sees none of this. I can tell he is hurt but he is not the type to hold a grudge. His mom can do no wrong in his eyes.
Anyway, his sister is coming down for the wedding. I really want this to feel like it is his wedding too, so I asked him if he wanted to invite his mom. His eyes lit up like a kid on Christmas morning. He called her right away and she said she will be here. I know he will be happy to have her here, especially since he has not seen her in 3 1/2 years. But I am really afraid this woman is going to try to ruin my wedding. I would not put anything past her. I will be too busy to even worry about anything she says to me and I am going to keep the girls with me all day the day of the wedding so they are away from her as much as possible. I just don't trust her. Period. The only reason I invited her is because I know how much it means to my fiancee for her to be here. Would you have invited her?
Please pray that this woman has some decorum for the first time in her life and does not do or say anything stupid!