DivineMsDi
04-29-2004, 06:45 PM
My son came home yesterday in a bad mood. I wrote it off to being tired out from school. Later I was giving him a bath and saw he had sort of marks on his wrists (like from Indian burns). I said, "what's this? Was your shirt too tight?" He didn't say much. My husband (who was forever bullied as a child) said "he's getting beat up..." (this is his answer to everything). Okay. My son goes to bed after I put cream on these marks.
Fast forward to today. My DH is giving him a bath. The marks are still there. He blurts out to DH "Timmy" did it. Starts crying hysterically. I had just arranged for "Timmy" to come over for a playdate after school tomorrow. My ds tells us the kid (he's on the bus) poked him with "something" today as well. He sits with him every day on the bus.
My DH hits the roof and says "I told you so..." I call up "Timmy's" mom but she's out. I tell the dad the playdate is off. I am not blaming anyone, I said, but I have to find out what's going on. I know boys do play rough. The father says he will speak to "Timmy." I just told the dad I am sorry but I can't have my son get hurt. I don't want the kid around anymore.
My ds is hysterical and cries and cries. I tried to explain why he must stand up for himself and not let "friends" hurt him. He is very passive. I try to tell him that friends will not hurt you. Better to have no one to play with than someone who wants to put his hands on you. He took forever to finally go to bed.
"Timmy" has 2 teenage brothers who sound very rough (they have pushed him and hurt him once so he had to go to the hospital...). "Timmy" strikes me as an okay kid but something is not right w/him and his family.
Thank you if you actually got through this vent. I am not over-reacting. I did not say to the dad that his kid's a monster. I just don't want my son playing with him anymore (at least until we get to the bottom of this).
Fast forward to today. My DH is giving him a bath. The marks are still there. He blurts out to DH "Timmy" did it. Starts crying hysterically. I had just arranged for "Timmy" to come over for a playdate after school tomorrow. My ds tells us the kid (he's on the bus) poked him with "something" today as well. He sits with him every day on the bus.
My DH hits the roof and says "I told you so..." I call up "Timmy's" mom but she's out. I tell the dad the playdate is off. I am not blaming anyone, I said, but I have to find out what's going on. I know boys do play rough. The father says he will speak to "Timmy." I just told the dad I am sorry but I can't have my son get hurt. I don't want the kid around anymore.
My ds is hysterical and cries and cries. I tried to explain why he must stand up for himself and not let "friends" hurt him. He is very passive. I try to tell him that friends will not hurt you. Better to have no one to play with than someone who wants to put his hands on you. He took forever to finally go to bed.
"Timmy" has 2 teenage brothers who sound very rough (they have pushed him and hurt him once so he had to go to the hospital...). "Timmy" strikes me as an okay kid but something is not right w/him and his family.
Thank you if you actually got through this vent. I am not over-reacting. I did not say to the dad that his kid's a monster. I just don't want my son playing with him anymore (at least until we get to the bottom of this).