Why Is It When You Give,and Give And Give...

[msmom79]

Its Not Enough? And People Want You To Give More And More,with Nothing In Return For Yourself? Im Doing Everything Here At My House ,plus Holding Down A Job,dealing With My Ex,oldest Son Finally Got A Job,but Dont Make His Bed Do His Laundry,only Takes Out The Kitchen Trash,my Youngest Son Just Drops Off His Laundry,youngest Son Broke A Part On My Washer,broke The Drawer On My Potato Bin,and Broke A Glass Air Freshner,didnt Even Offer To Fix Them,just Looked At Me Like,so What......... Then At Work I Work Hard And If Something Is Not Done Right,my Boss Comes To Me And Gets Angry,when Its His Night Crew Doing It......... And The People Who Want My Money For Donations Are Coming Out Of The Walls(now I Dont Mind Sharing,helping Cleaning My Own House,working Paying( My) Own Bills,so Someone Tell Me When Enough Is Enough? Just Needed To Vent Everyone!!!!! Thanks Ann

[buttrfli]

{{{HUGS}}}} girl....

those boys are still in your house?! I was thinking about you the other day. I hope things get better for you!

[VALENA-)45]

Hello, Msmom79, Happy Easter. How Are You Doing. Well I Hope. It Is Nice To Hear From You. I Thought About You Last Week , And Asked Myself, Where Were You. Thanks For Answering My Wonderment. It's Good To See You Here.

[msmom79]

Happy Easter To All Of You Too,youngest Moved Out And Oldest Said It Would Be About A Month For Him To Move Out,im Still Hoping Here.thanks For Caring Everyone And Keep Praying For Me,cause We Can Never Have Enough Prayers Said For Us.hugs And Prayers To You All My Big,big Family Ann:)

[schsa]

You are allowing your children to do this. If you said NO it would come to an end. If you can't say no, then you are going to be miserable for the rest of your life. Your children treat you like dirt and walk all over you because you allow it.

Put an end to it. And if you can't, understand that it isn't going to end. If they continue to treat you like this it is because you have let them know by your behavior that it's acceptable to treat you like garbage.

[Tasha405]

Not to sound mean or rude but as long as you give and give and give it will never stop. Sorry you are going through all of this and I hope everything gets better for you soon.

{{{Hugs}}} & Happy Easter :)

[YankeeMary]

Not to sound mean or rude but as long as you give and give and give it will never stop. Sorry you are going through all of this and I hope everything gets better for you soon.

{{{Hugs}}} & Happy Easter :)


I must agree here Ann...hun you need to learn your self worth dear...I swear that will make a huge difference in your life...once you realize you matter, then you will make sure no one does you wrong. Godd Luck deary.

[Dolly<3]

My mom always says you give some people an inch, they want a mile. So don't give 'em an inch.

[KATinKY]

(((msmom79)))

[laughsalot]

(((MsMom))) I will keep you in my thoughts and prayers.

[AngelGrim]

I agree, you allow it, then it will always continue, sometimes you have to show tough love and tell them it is time to go and kick them out of the nest, make them grow up, sometimes they won't without being told to. I have nephews that are 18 and 21, they live at home, they eat their parents food, the mom works a full time job, and has to come home and clean the house and cook their food and wash their clothes, no way I say. Hope you feel better and that your kids let you have your home and peace back.

[Gherky]

I know what you mean, I have had friends that I would do all kinds of stuff for and give them stuff and it would have been nice to have received a simple "thank you" but I've come to realize that some people are ungrateful and unappreciative no matter what you do for them.

[msmom79]

thank you everyone!!! i am trying,sometimes it so hard cause these are my sons! but i am seeing that they are using me for what they can get,and it is really starting to pi$$ me off.i know one day real soon im gonna blow up and say get the hell outa my house.i can feel this in my bones.i took this behavior before,and i dont derserve it from my sons.keep praying for me please.thanks everyone ann

[schsa]

Don't wait until "someday", get some steel in that spine and start today. If I were your friend and I treated you like your sons are doing, we wouldn't be friends very long. If you wouldn't accept it from a friend why would you accept it from someone who is suppose to love and care for you? Personally, I wouldn't.

You are treated in the way that you expect to be treated. Your sons treat you like crap under their shoes because that's the way your ex treats you and they see that you accept that short of behavior. You cannot allow this to continue. Put everyone's stuff out on the porch and change the locks. Don't give out a key for any reason. Do not do their laundry or allow them to use your phone. Your son's are adults, not little children. And they have no respect for you or your home or your belongings. They will walk over your dead body to get to your purse.

Sometimes you just have to start saying no and keep saying no. It's hard in the begining but it gets easier and easier. Take back your life and tell them to get on with theirs without you.

You will be much happier in the long run. And your children will learn eventually that you are not going to tollerate their behavior. They sometimes have to learn the hard way but they will learn. And they will be better for it.

[IMtightwad]

I know they are your sons and you love them, but at some point you need to stop coddling them. You are not making just your life miserable, but you have made it to where they depend on you and they will expect the same from a spouse, and will eventually make that womans life miserable as well.
You need to teach them some tough love. I know it is hard, but my grandmother is going through this as well. Her son is almost 30 and depends on her for everything. And his response to her asking what he will do if she dies... he said he will go live with his sister and she will take care of him!!!
Besides that being rediculous, how fair is that for his sister!?!
Please, try to push them into having their own life. Your sons need to save up some quarters and go to the laundry mat. Or they need to by detergent & such and bring it to your house and do it themselves!
They are old enough now to where you should get a break.
You can not constatnly put aside your own well being to do everything for your sons who have every ability to do these thing for themselves.
Hope it all works out.