NoFoolPrice
04-11-2004, 06:20 AM
My little sis is bipolar and a chronic thief. I couldn't take it anymore a couple years ago when I went down to renew my drivers license and found I couldn't because my license was revoked and I had a warrant out for my arrest because sis had used my name when she was stopped by the police and then didn't bother to take care of the ticket. I pressed charges and put her out of my life for two years. I finally let her back in because she is my sister, she is facing a prison term for credit card and identity theft, I love her, and feel bad about her mental problems, and I am a soft hearted wussy. My ex-husband and I have seen her once every few weeks for the last couple months and it seems like somehow, she gets me for a few bucks (him too) every time we see her. Things like, 'oh, lend me $20 till we get back to the house,' and then we get back, she gets the money from her ex-husband to pay me back and it somehow never makes it to me. Or she will come to see us, take former hubby aside and tell him she is broke, he'll give her $40, then she will take me aside and tell me she doesn't even have gas money to get home and snag another $40 from me. I'm a single mom and full time student, and really, I can't spare it but seem to fall for it every time. A few weeks ago she called and wanted one of my credit card numbers so she could get her Internet turned on, she was pissed when I said no, then she called and wanted my password for some reason I don't remember, hullo! Do you give out your password? Then today I was selling at the swapmeet, she was at my house with ex husband (he and I are roomies and best friends) and she called me and wanted to 'borrow' my digital camera that ex got me for Christmas. I told her no, and brought up a situation about some Bushnell binoculours she 'borrowed' a few years ago that never made it back home and told her that it was not the type of item one lends out. She got really pissed and I heard later that she was stomping around the house and screaming and slamming doors and knocking me for not trusting her and acting hysterical. I am sorry, she is a thief and liar and I am not the same person I used to be, I just can't maintain self-respect while letting her walk on me anymore. Sure, she'll rip me off when I'm not aware she is doing it, but I am not going to hand it to her if I know she is planning on stealing from me. She kept calling and telling me, "I can't believe you, I have to take these pictures that could give me a career and you are so low you won't even lend me your camera!" It really put a damper on my day but I knew if I gave in I would never see my camera again, so I held my ground. She stole the camera she has now from some guy, but it's an old one and not of the quality she needed for the pics she wanted to take. I truly believe she is sociopath, she has taken boyfriends, clothes, my identity, money, etc. from me and then turned around and blamed me for it more times than I can count. I know she is sick, and I do feel sorry for her, but I also feel sorry for those she has ripped off and I can't believe that she does not know what she is doing. She tries to guilt me into so much, a couple weeks ago was my bday and she got balloons and a cake for me and set up restaurant reservations, it was really very sweet, but I don't believe I owe her my camera for it. Nor do I think that she has the right to fly off the handle and have hissy fits when she doesn't get her way and put everyone else in a bad mood and try to put a guilt trip on them. She is very manipulative, on my bday weekend we went to the grocery store and she started throwing all this extravagent crap into the cart, then 'borrowed' money from me to pay for it, then we went down to the pier to this wonderful pastry shop and she 'borrowed' enough for 'just one pastry' which turned out to be five expensive pastries, then 'borrowed' from my ex to get a fish dinner, then as we were leaving, decided she wanted a shrimp dinner to take home too and knowing I just spent the last of my cash on her, tried to get the cash from ex for the shrimp, he didn't go for it, so we spent the whole walk back to the condo listening to comments like "I'm going to get some money when we get back and come back down to the pier and get a shrimp dinner, I sure don't feel like making the wallk but that shrimp looked so good,' and trying to manipulate him and guilt him into giving her more money. I wanted to puke, it was just so obvious that she was trying to manipulate him, yet she seemed to feel justified in making everyone miserable because she didn't get her way. She seems to think that life and everyone owes her, her MO has always been to get with guys and take them for their money. She has an uncanny knack for meeting a guy and the next day he trusts her so much he has given her his credit card numbers and bank account pin number. I am talking a whole string of men over the last 30 years, it's really wild how she can work a guy. It's also very embarrassing when these guys call me looking for her and wanting their money back. She has warrants in virtually every place she has lived for theft, drugs, etc. Virtually everyone in our family has disowned her, and she has gotten so far into meth and depression that I don't see any way out for her. I am so scared she will be killed in prison when she tries to play games and manipulate and rip off hard core prisoners. It's so sad, my sisters and I all have exceptionally high iq's and creativeness, and she is throwing it down the drain. She used to be very attractive but the meth and age is taking its
toll and it's not so easy for her to get by on taking advantage of guys now and the mood swings are just plain freaky. She is so totally depressed, and suicide attempts have always been her way out. Plus I feel very bad for my mom, she's 74 and deserves a break, not phone calls asking for bail money. I came to a point in life that I decided to forget the rotten childhood and not blame anyone for who I am and get my arse out to do something, I earned my associates and check this out guys, I got a letter two days ago from Cal State giving me enough financial aid to get me through my Masters! I did it on my own too, taking my child to class with me for lack of child care, and riding buses 20 hours a week on top of 18 units, I did Honors, and Dean's list, and Alpha Gamma Sigma, and truthfully, this little timid high school drop out pulled herself up by her bootstrings and put the past and rotten childhood behind. I so wish my sister could do the same, but I think the mental illness
and the drugs have really messed her up.
toll and it's not so easy for her to get by on taking advantage of guys now and the mood swings are just plain freaky. She is so totally depressed, and suicide attempts have always been her way out. Plus I feel very bad for my mom, she's 74 and deserves a break, not phone calls asking for bail money. I came to a point in life that I decided to forget the rotten childhood and not blame anyone for who I am and get my arse out to do something, I earned my associates and check this out guys, I got a letter two days ago from Cal State giving me enough financial aid to get me through my Masters! I did it on my own too, taking my child to class with me for lack of child care, and riding buses 20 hours a week on top of 18 units, I did Honors, and Dean's list, and Alpha Gamma Sigma, and truthfully, this little timid high school drop out pulled herself up by her bootstrings and put the past and rotten childhood behind. I so wish my sister could do the same, but I think the mental illness
and the drugs have really messed her up.