Husband who doesn't care!

[ang in NC]

OK some of you know 9 days ago I had hernia surgery. Well I do childcare at a church and clean an office and a house too.
Yesterday I had to go clean, yes I know I wasn't suppose to, today I feel it. I am tired,sore and getting sad. Well the I was sitting in the recliner and the husband said " what have you gotten on the floor?". I said it is just mail I don't feel like bending. I said I had to clean last night, I don't have sick leave if I don't work no money.HE SAID" Go to work and get a job!" I started crying. I can't work a 8-5 job and homeschool too. I work 33 hours a week.
Am I being a baby? He help me 24 hrs and that was it. Thanks for listening and thanks to you that have prayed for me.

[momfromTN]

I would remember his uncaring attitude when he wants dinner, laundry and when he gets sick. I would tell him he is an A-Hole as well. And you DO work. You work for money, you said, 33 hrs a week, plus take care of the house. You know if you do too much, you will end up back in the hospital. If I were you, I would stop working and let His Royal Butthead take care of paying for things. I mean, if he wants you to get back to your former SLAVE duties, he has to allow you to get well, doesn't he? Or does he wish more bills when you have to have MORE surgery to repair the damage you have done by overdoing. Get some rest.

[LunaChick]

Sounds like he needs a good hard kick in the a$$.

I hope you feel better soon :)

[Lori63]

Ditto what LunaChick3 said. Hopefully he was just temporarily stupid and is being better to you now. Hope you feel better!

[MamaFairal]

Sounds like he needs a good hard kick in the a$$

Never mind kicking him in his a$$.......KICK HIM TO THE CURB!!!

[Tracy'sMom]

Take it easy. If You recall, I had surgery about a week or so before You. I tried to be super woman cause Hubby had to go back to work. Now I have a knot on one end of my incesion(sp? the cut place), I have to go back to surgeon to see what is going on. I hope its just a pocket of blood like He thinks but We arent for sure. So sit back relax and let the hubby complain. It's not worth hurting yourself for.

[YankeeMary]

Angie I am so sorry...you are in my prayers.

[laughsalot]

I am so sorry that he is being so awful. You do work and you homeschool and that is double the work. My Dad had hernia surgery not too long ago and I know he was in pain for some time. Please take it easy. You will be in my thoughts and prayers. I wish there was more I could do!

[Judasknot]

I have a husband like that. Don't cry. Tears make no differance with them. Ignore him. Tell him if it bothers him, pick it up. Mine complained about how I did housework so much that I told him 1 more time and he did it himself. He complained 1 more time and I no longer wash the floors or dust. He does.

[babymaniac]

Do you think he is PO'd about something else and just using any excuse he can find to be mean? Or is he just always that hateful? :confused:

[schsa]

If he thinks its so easy to work and keep a house going, then stop doing the work at home and let him start helping. Just because he is out of the house doesn't mean you are not working when you are in the home. And when you are out of the house you are working.

Time to go on strike until he understands what you really do. He has alot to learn and if you don't train him now, it won't get better as he gets older.

[DAVESBABYDOLL]

Amen schsa, I actually went on stike,drove me crazy because I HATE a messy house BUT,I got my point across.

[tsquared]

I would almost make a bigger mess and really give him something to look at and whine about...........then let him clean it up. Too many times we forget what others have gone through and think only of ourselves and not others.

[PrncsNYC]

I am keeping my mouth shut on this one bc what I would tell him would get me banned lol "Doesn't care" is putting it VERY lightly.

hugs

[VALENA-)45]

Ita, With All That Has Been Said. Honey Go Take A Nap, Or Just Lie Down. Right Now I Am Hurting For You, I Wish I Could Take Away Your Pain, Had That Surgery As A Kid, It Hurts. And As For That Dog Of A Man, If You Pick Up Your Leg To Kick Him, It Hurt You More Then Him. Make A Choolate Cake, Put Some Ex-lax In The Frosting, Feed It To Him, Make Sure Not To Lick Your Fingers, And Nobody Else Eats It. And Leave The House For A Day, :):), Can't You Just See Him Now:). Don't Laugh Too Hard, Sorry For The Pain In Your Body.:). Have A Happy Easter To All. DID THIS TO MY TWIN BROTHER, I KNOW IT WORKS.

[Angelseyes28]

Jeez what a selfcentered jerk! He needs to be hung up by his.......and beat like a pinata!!!!!!! :mad: I'm sorry he is acting like that:(

[bribella]

My DH is the same way. I take care of our 3 little ones and work a part-time job. Not to mention getting up at 430 to get him off to work. I got sick and tired of hime complaining that I don't do enough so I told him if you don't like it do it yourself or shutup! {{{HUGS}}}

[queenangie]

Exlax in the chocolate cake! Now you'll have Ang laughing so
hard that her incision will hurt.

So sorry your DH isn't being very kind right now.
Just take it easy...you overdid it yesterday.
Don't worry about the house, worry about your health.
You just had major surgery and anesthesia 9 days ago
for heaven's sake.

Maybe DH is worried because you're not back
to your usual health, so his coping method is by yelling instead.
Or else he's being a real jerk, as men can be from time to time.

Sending you more warm fuzzy hugs &
more prayers too, Ang!

[VALENA-)45]

Ang~sorry To Make You Laugh So Hard. I Did It To My Twin Brother When We Were 12 Years Old And He Was Greedy, Any Thing You Had And He Wanted He Would Take It, And Eat It. So One Day I Got Mad At Him, And Stabbed Him In The Hand With A Fork, He Was After My Chocolate Cake, I Did It, Jumped Up And Ran Out The Door. I Decided He Liked Chocolate Cake So Much I Would Make Him One. I Kept My Little Sister And Brother, Away From The Cake Telling Them I Was Virgil's, All For Him, Don't Touch It. He Ate It And Had The Runs For Three Days, And I Laughed, The Whole Three Days. My Mother Found Out What I Had Done And Beat The Mess Out Of Me, And To This Day I Say Victory Is Sweet. And Virgil Will Not Eat Another Chocolate Cake If I Make It.:).

[twinkiesmom]

I would remember his uncaring attitude when he wants dinner, laundry and when he gets sick. I would tell him he is an A-Hole as well. And you DO work. You work for money, you said, 33 hrs a week, plus take care of the house. You know if you do too much, you will end up back in the hospital. If I were you, I would stop working and let His Royal Butthead take care of paying for things. I mean, if he wants you to get back to your former SLAVE duties, he has to allow you to get well, doesn't he? Or does he wish more bills when you have to have MORE surgery to repair the damage you have done by overdoing. Get some rest.


what she said.

[VALENA-)45]

Ang In Nc~ I Am Sorry To Somewhat Crap In Your Post, That Was Not Nice Of Me, Please Forgive Me, Sorry. Val.

[lassss]

I said it is just mail I don't feel like bending. I said I had to clean last night, I don't have sick leave if I don't work no money.HE SAID" Go to work and get a job!" I started crying. I can't work a 8-5 job and homeschool too. I work 33 hours a week.
Am I being a baby? He help me 24 hrs and that was it. Thanks for listening and thanks to you that have prayed for me.

Is it possible he meant that if you HAD a FT with bennies that you could take sick leave?? versus working 33 hours with no bennies??