amysusi
03-23-2004, 11:01 AM
With our tax refund, DH bought himself an electronic drum set, and a full size keyboard for me. So I'm IM'ing my sis, and told her about our new toys, and she has the nerve to tell me that she doesn't want to hear that we can't afford anything.
First of all, we worked hard, and deserve a treat. I've been without a piano since I got married, yet I'm one of the best players at church. Now I don't have to try to find time in our busy lives to go to the church to practice.
She said that because in November, we're throwing our parents a 30th anniversary party. She wants a big extravagant thing, but my other sis and I can't shell out for that. DH and I are already putting out at least $1200 just for the rental car and hotel. Our other sis has to come from far away too.
When she said that, I was so mad, but you know, you choose your own battles, and I've not been in the mood for any lately so I didn't say anything. It just made me mad because it was so hypocritical. Her hubby had a $50,000 / yr job, and all we heard from them was how they never had any money. They lived like we did (dumpy apt, hand me down furniture), and they didn't have any kids. Now they have 2, and bought a house, and he lost his job (position was eliminated). He was still doing contract work, and making more than before.
So then she lectures me about how their tax return is being invested in their house. Excuse me but we don't own a house. When we do, it won't be the smallest, cheapest we can find just for the sake of owning (hers is 1100 sq.feet, no yard, their "starter")
So you know what? Shutup about my lack of spending on the party. I'm doing what I can, and DH is also giving me a hard time because he doesn't want to spend a penny on it. What ever she spends will be FAR LESS than what we're spending to be there!
And BTW, stuff came up, and we're not able to take the whole trip expense out of the refund. So I'm getting a part time job (for other reasons too). I've actually been thinking about alot lately, and really miss it.
First of all, we worked hard, and deserve a treat. I've been without a piano since I got married, yet I'm one of the best players at church. Now I don't have to try to find time in our busy lives to go to the church to practice.
She said that because in November, we're throwing our parents a 30th anniversary party. She wants a big extravagant thing, but my other sis and I can't shell out for that. DH and I are already putting out at least $1200 just for the rental car and hotel. Our other sis has to come from far away too.
When she said that, I was so mad, but you know, you choose your own battles, and I've not been in the mood for any lately so I didn't say anything. It just made me mad because it was so hypocritical. Her hubby had a $50,000 / yr job, and all we heard from them was how they never had any money. They lived like we did (dumpy apt, hand me down furniture), and they didn't have any kids. Now they have 2, and bought a house, and he lost his job (position was eliminated). He was still doing contract work, and making more than before.
So then she lectures me about how their tax return is being invested in their house. Excuse me but we don't own a house. When we do, it won't be the smallest, cheapest we can find just for the sake of owning (hers is 1100 sq.feet, no yard, their "starter")
So you know what? Shutup about my lack of spending on the party. I'm doing what I can, and DH is also giving me a hard time because he doesn't want to spend a penny on it. What ever she spends will be FAR LESS than what we're spending to be there!
And BTW, stuff came up, and we're not able to take the whole trip expense out of the refund. So I'm getting a part time job (for other reasons too). I've actually been thinking about alot lately, and really miss it.