ezmoney163
02-09-2004, 12:24 PM
Ok so this is a vent/whine, what would you do type of thread I guess!! I am so mad right now at my side of my family. :mad::mad::mad:
I had a "get together" ( I say this because it was not a "party" with games and balloons) for my son who turned 2. I reserveed a room for 30 people at our local Steak House. (Hoss's for those familiar with it) Anyway, my DH and kids went 1/2 hour early to get the room and take our cake in , make up little treat bags, etc. Next came my dad, his GF , and my grandma. Now the tables were set up in a U shape with chairs on both sides of it. (Tons of room for everyone to sit) My hubby and I sat at he bottom of the U, in the middle so we could talk to everyone. Well anyway, my family , the first ones here sat clear at the top of the U. Ok whatever not a problem. They went right up to the salad/food bar, before anyone had come. (still whatever) even though everyone else was waiting for Everyone to get there so we could all ate together. So anyway, DH and I had the waitress hold all the slips/orders so we could all be served at the same time. (Isnt this what people normally do?? Wait for everyone else to get there to eat together?? I do it even here for just a get together dinner?) Maybe I am wrong. :confused: But ok.... So anyway when everyone came she turned in the orders, brought our food we all ate, then I lit the cake, my son opened his presents, etc. Right after my son had the last present in his lap not even opened, my grandma came over and said we are leaving. WTF??? Jackson is still opening his presents. Ok whatever , I said why are you leaving?? No answer. OK whatever. I don't care I go on and enjoy the other people ( all my DH's brothers and sisters and in laws and their kids) We are still there for 45 minutes or more. We made sure we cleaned up etc, while talking. It was nice or so I thought. Well I came home and called grandma 3 times, she would not answer the phone. (She screens her calls) I knew immediately, that she was mad at me for some reason?? So I got DD off to school this morning and called, she answered before the machine came on (probably not thinking it was me :) I was being sneaky)LOL For the first 5 minutes it was fine, then she started, "Well I think everyine there was kinda snide and rude to us (meaning to her, my dad, and his GF)." I knew it was coming, it always does no matter the situation. Anyway, I told her not to even start that they were the first there besides me and DH and they could have sat anywhere they wanted to , it was them that sat up and the end of the tables to be in a different world. She said well no one talked to us. OH bull S**T !!! My DH best friend (whom is sil M fiancee) was the first to talk to them, my sil M talked to her about her upcoming wedding etc. My sil D made a point to talk to them. My sil L went right over and gave my grandma a hug and talked to her. My sil W said Hi. I went over several times to that end of the U to talk to them, my son and daughter did also. My DH made sure to say HI ( he is not a talker so they can not say anything about him) Anyway, she made a big stink over them not talking to her?? Now to you, does it seem no one talked to them?? I am sorry but our families have nothing in common, plus we are talking people who are old enough to be the grandparents and parents , what all do they want them to talk about, they surely would not be interested in their personally/work lives and that is all these people do is work and home. My DH is the oldest, so you can see the age difference. AND they are the ones who ALWAYS put themselves away from everyone, they never make a point to try to speak to anyone. (Well on with the story) So grandma was b*tching about no one talking to them and being rude etc. Then she proceds to say , they sure did take their sweet time serving our food didn't they, the service was awful. Now mind you I am already rialed up, I said no we had them hold ALL the orders, so we can all eat together, that is what the party was about. I said it would have been quite rude for us to not have eaten together, since we did come here for a party. She got all defensive and said loudly " Are you saying we are rude??" "No one else waited for everyone else to eat off the salad bar??" Which is not true, we all basically went at the same time withthe exception of two whom we knew would be late by 15 minutes because of work and gaurds. No my side never sat down before they got any food, they ordered at the register and then went directly to the food /salad bar then went to sit down ( IMO that was rude) But I said nothing, I just said I wasn't saying you were rude I am saying having them (the waitresses)run back and forth 100 times and everyone getting done eating at 100 different times is rude. We went to celebrate my sons birthday not just to eat. I sure as heck would not want to eat and have other people still waiting for their food. ( I would be embarrassed) Would you?? Anyway, she just continued to try to make DH's family out to be rude and ignorant but IMHHHO it was them whom were rude and ignorant. I told her next thing I do they will not have to worry about it. I will NEVER have all of them in the same place at the same time. Not only do they act like the are the outcasts but this makes everyone uncomfortable. This is one of the reasons I didn't have a party at my own house, because the same thing happened last year for DS birthday. One family all over the other huddled in a corner with grandma sitting on the floor and pretending she was to tired to be there. My dad would not eat and his girlfriend calls all my SIL Bimbos to their face and thinks it is funny!! (None of us do, she is ignorant:rolleyes:) What ever next year (actually DD birthday is in June and new baby will be here in June) DON"T COME!!! :rolleyes:
Thanks for baring with me. I had to get it off my chest!! I am so upset. My DH said when I told him, It is not even 8:15 a.m. I can not believe she is starting on you!! I donno. :rolleyes: Ya know what is funny?? I said last night to Dh and his best friend, what would happen I think I am psychic LOL
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Can I never win???
I had a "get together" ( I say this because it was not a "party" with games and balloons) for my son who turned 2. I reserveed a room for 30 people at our local Steak House. (Hoss's for those familiar with it) Anyway, my DH and kids went 1/2 hour early to get the room and take our cake in , make up little treat bags, etc. Next came my dad, his GF , and my grandma. Now the tables were set up in a U shape with chairs on both sides of it. (Tons of room for everyone to sit) My hubby and I sat at he bottom of the U, in the middle so we could talk to everyone. Well anyway, my family , the first ones here sat clear at the top of the U. Ok whatever not a problem. They went right up to the salad/food bar, before anyone had come. (still whatever) even though everyone else was waiting for Everyone to get there so we could all ate together. So anyway, DH and I had the waitress hold all the slips/orders so we could all be served at the same time. (Isnt this what people normally do?? Wait for everyone else to get there to eat together?? I do it even here for just a get together dinner?) Maybe I am wrong. :confused: But ok.... So anyway when everyone came she turned in the orders, brought our food we all ate, then I lit the cake, my son opened his presents, etc. Right after my son had the last present in his lap not even opened, my grandma came over and said we are leaving. WTF??? Jackson is still opening his presents. Ok whatever , I said why are you leaving?? No answer. OK whatever. I don't care I go on and enjoy the other people ( all my DH's brothers and sisters and in laws and their kids) We are still there for 45 minutes or more. We made sure we cleaned up etc, while talking. It was nice or so I thought. Well I came home and called grandma 3 times, she would not answer the phone. (She screens her calls) I knew immediately, that she was mad at me for some reason?? So I got DD off to school this morning and called, she answered before the machine came on (probably not thinking it was me :) I was being sneaky)LOL For the first 5 minutes it was fine, then she started, "Well I think everyine there was kinda snide and rude to us (meaning to her, my dad, and his GF)." I knew it was coming, it always does no matter the situation. Anyway, I told her not to even start that they were the first there besides me and DH and they could have sat anywhere they wanted to , it was them that sat up and the end of the tables to be in a different world. She said well no one talked to us. OH bull S**T !!! My DH best friend (whom is sil M fiancee) was the first to talk to them, my sil M talked to her about her upcoming wedding etc. My sil D made a point to talk to them. My sil L went right over and gave my grandma a hug and talked to her. My sil W said Hi. I went over several times to that end of the U to talk to them, my son and daughter did also. My DH made sure to say HI ( he is not a talker so they can not say anything about him) Anyway, she made a big stink over them not talking to her?? Now to you, does it seem no one talked to them?? I am sorry but our families have nothing in common, plus we are talking people who are old enough to be the grandparents and parents , what all do they want them to talk about, they surely would not be interested in their personally/work lives and that is all these people do is work and home. My DH is the oldest, so you can see the age difference. AND they are the ones who ALWAYS put themselves away from everyone, they never make a point to try to speak to anyone. (Well on with the story) So grandma was b*tching about no one talking to them and being rude etc. Then she proceds to say , they sure did take their sweet time serving our food didn't they, the service was awful. Now mind you I am already rialed up, I said no we had them hold ALL the orders, so we can all eat together, that is what the party was about. I said it would have been quite rude for us to not have eaten together, since we did come here for a party. She got all defensive and said loudly " Are you saying we are rude??" "No one else waited for everyone else to eat off the salad bar??" Which is not true, we all basically went at the same time withthe exception of two whom we knew would be late by 15 minutes because of work and gaurds. No my side never sat down before they got any food, they ordered at the register and then went directly to the food /salad bar then went to sit down ( IMO that was rude) But I said nothing, I just said I wasn't saying you were rude I am saying having them (the waitresses)run back and forth 100 times and everyone getting done eating at 100 different times is rude. We went to celebrate my sons birthday not just to eat. I sure as heck would not want to eat and have other people still waiting for their food. ( I would be embarrassed) Would you?? Anyway, she just continued to try to make DH's family out to be rude and ignorant but IMHHHO it was them whom were rude and ignorant. I told her next thing I do they will not have to worry about it. I will NEVER have all of them in the same place at the same time. Not only do they act like the are the outcasts but this makes everyone uncomfortable. This is one of the reasons I didn't have a party at my own house, because the same thing happened last year for DS birthday. One family all over the other huddled in a corner with grandma sitting on the floor and pretending she was to tired to be there. My dad would not eat and his girlfriend calls all my SIL Bimbos to their face and thinks it is funny!! (None of us do, she is ignorant:rolleyes:) What ever next year (actually DD birthday is in June and new baby will be here in June) DON"T COME!!! :rolleyes:
Thanks for baring with me. I had to get it off my chest!! I am so upset. My DH said when I told him, It is not even 8:15 a.m. I can not believe she is starting on you!! I donno. :rolleyes: Ya know what is funny?? I said last night to Dh and his best friend, what would happen I think I am psychic LOL
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Can I never win???