My Husband, Ooppss, Man Is Leaving Me.

[VALENA-)45]

MY MAN OF THREE YEARS IS LEAVING ME. I HAVE DONE EVERYTHING FOR HIM. EVERY JOB HE HAS HAD I FILLED UT THE PAPERS FOR. WHEN WAS GETTING AN APARTMENT I FILLED OUT THE PAPERS FOR THAT, TOO. WE HAVE BEEN FIGHTING, I MEAN YELLING AND HOLLERING AT EACH OTHER FOR THE PAST MONTH. YESTERDAY WAS MY BIRTHEDAY/ANNIVERASRY, AND I DID NOT GET ANY THING. NOT EVEN A CARD. IT WAS THE SAME FOR CHRISTMAS, HE GOT PAID THE DAY BEFORD CHRISTMAS AND WAS SUPPOSE TO GO TO NYC, WITH HIS BROTHER AND PICKUP HIS SISTER AND HER KIDS, AND BRING THEM UP, TO SPEAD CHRISTMAS AND NEW YEARS, AND SO THAT I COULD FINALL MEET THEM. INSTEAD, HE GOT HIGH WITH THE MONEY AND TOLD PEOPLE THAT HE LOST THE MONEY. I TOLD HIM HE SHOULDN'T LIE LIKE THAT. HIM AND I ARE NOT GETTING ALONG AT ALL. EVERY SINCE CHRISTMAS, I DON'T COOK, OR DO ANYTHING FOR HIM, CAUSE I FEEL LIKE IT IS A BIG WASTE OF MY TIME TO DO ANYTHING FOR HIM. HE HAS HIS OWN APARTMENT, AND NOW HE WALKS OUT THE DOOR AND GOES AND STAYS OVER THERE WITHOUT TELLING ME ANYTHING. THERE IS NO FOOD IN THAT HOUSE, CAUSE WHEN MY SON AND HIM WERE ON GOOD TERMS, HE LET MY SON STAY THERE AND MY SON ATE UP ALL THE FOOD. HIM AND MY SON HAD A FIGHT ON NEW YEARS NIGHT, I GOT IN BETWEEN THEM AND TOLD THEM THEY SHOUDN'T BE FIGHTING. AND WHEN THE FIGHT WAS OVER MY SON SAID SOME VERY NASTY THINGS TO ME AND HE TOLD MY SON, THAT HE HAD TO GET OUT OF HIS HOUSE. SOMETIMES, IT SEEMS LIKE HE CARES AND LOVES ME . BUT, FOR THE PAST MONTH WHENEVER I ASK HIM TO HELP ME DOING SOMETHING, HE ACTS LIKE ZORRO, GONE TO HELP EVERYBODY ELSE,DO FOR EVERYBODY ELSE, BUT WHAT I ASK HIM TO DO FOR ME. SO, I DON'T DO ANYTHING, TO HELP HIM, NOT EVEN FEED HIM. WHEN HE CALLS AND ASK WHAT'S FOR DINNER, I TELL HIM WHATEVER HE FINDS IN THE FRIDGE. CAUSE I AM NOT COOKING. I'LL COOK ME SOMETHING TO EAT BUT, NOT HIM. I TOLD HIM SINCE YOU WANT TO DO ME ANY OLD KIND OF WAY, I WILL DO THE SAME THING TO YOU, AND WHEN I DO YOU WILL NOT LIKE IT. I HAVE BEEN THIS OTHER WOMAN THAT HE HAS NEVER SEEN FOR A WHOLE MONTH, AND LET ME TELL YOU, HE DOES NOT LIKE HER, CAUSE HE CAN'T REALLY DO ANYTHING TO ME. CAUSE I AM VERY MEAN AND NASTY AND DON'T CARE WHAT HE HAS TO SAY ABOUT ANYTHING, TO ME. HEY IF YOU WANT TO BE TREATED LIKE A KING THEN YOU HAVE TO TREAT LIKE A QUEEN, AND HELP ME OUT WHEN I ASK YOU, TOO. THANK YOU FOR LETTING ME VENT AND WHINE, I REALLY NEEDED THAT, AND I AM LOOOKING FORWARD TO WHAT YOU HAVE TO SAY. BY THE WAY I TOLD YOU WANT OUT OF THIS RELATIONSHIP, GO AHEAD AND GO, CAUSE I CAN TAKE CARE OF ME, I DON'T NEED YOU. ALL BECAUSE YOU ARE A MAN, I WILL BE FINE BY MYSELF.

[twinkiesmom]

Sounds like u got it together. Don't let that poor excuse of a man be the cause of wasted time. If he's a get-high, he aint gonna change unless he goes into treatment. Otherwise, u'll be the one feeding him, changing him and filling out more forms for him. Time to move on, sweetie. {{{hugs}}}

[Dolly<3]

You're going to be way better off without him making your life harder and causing you to be upset and lash out.

I bet he's going to have a hard time on his own when he was used to being taken care of for 3 years!

[JENNIFERCATLADY]

Whoa Valena....I am IMPRESSED!!! Seriously though, get rid of him. Good luck with everything!!!

[Damnifiknw]

The man sounds toxic....Has he always acted this way? If not, maybe he has another woman/man on the side lines.

Whatever the case may be, you can survive without someone like him bringing you down. I'd walk away and never look back.

[VALENA-)45]

HE HAS BEEN IN TREATMENT,A HARDHEAD MAKES A SOFT A--, THANKS FOR THE LUCK, NO HE WAS NOT ALWAYS LIKE THIS, AND YES DAMEIFIKNW, I WAS THINKING THE SAME THING. HE JUST GOT LIKE THIS IN THE PAST MONTH OR TWO, SEE HE IS A SPOILED BIG HUGE BABY, THAT I WON'T BABY, AS LONG AS I AM BEING TREATED BAD, AND MY VOICE AND MOUTH HAS GOTTEN VERY HUGE. I ALREADY TOLD HE CAN GO, BUT DON'T LOOK BACK, CAUSE I WON'T BE HERE. HEY, DAMEIFIKNW, I LOVE YOUR NAME.

[Whitequeen39]

Who needs that kind of grief...life is too short...move on and be happy

[Kelsey1224]

My goodness...I'm amazed that you have been with this 'person' to begin with. Someone who takes his pay and get's high is not anyone you should have in your life...or in your son's life.

Get rid of him and never look back. You deserve so much more.

[VALENA-)45]

OH NO, HE ONLY DID IT THAT ONE TIME. AND I HAVE BEEN A BIT--, EVERY SINCE THEN. I WON'T DO NOTHING FOR HIM. AND NOW WHEN HE GET PAID, I SAY WHAT BILLS GET PAID, PHONE AND CABLE. AND LEAVE HIM WITH VERY LITTLE MONEY TO PLAY WITH. I AM NOT GOING FOR THE BS, I HAVE BEEN THERE AND DONE THAT, AND I AM NOT GOING THERE AGAIN. NOT IN THIS LIFETIME, ANYWAY. RIGHT NOW IT HAS TO GO MY WAY OR HE CAN GO, HE HAS TO CHOOSE. CAUSE ONCE HE IS GONE HE CAN'T LOOK BACK OR COME BACK. I LEAVE THE CHOICE UP TO HIM. THANKS TO ALL. I NEED EVERYONES FEEDBACK, AND I ENJOY READING WHAT YOU HAVE TO SAY. THANKS.

[Kelsey1224]

Believe me...he did NOT only do it one time. You already said he has been in treatment. Obviously...he is no longer clean and is using again. He is an addict.

Get him out of your life. What kind of example is he for your son?

[nightrider127]

:eek:

[LuvBigRip]

Doesn't sound like much of a man to me. I know if it were me, I wouldn't look back. Good Luck!

[PeggySue]

GO AHEAD AND GO, CAUSE I CAN TAKE CARE OF ME, I DON'T NEED YOU.


honey you said it all right here.......


good for u be strong and dont look back i havent n never will no woman should be treated this way stay strong... this is now coming from a woman who accepts nothing less than PRINCESS STYLE :)))

[MamaFairal]

Originally posted by VALENA-)45
HE GOT HIGH WITH THE MONEY AND TOLD PEOPLE THAT HE LOST THE MONEY.


Drop the loser.........its gonna end ugly!