Dot dumped over child support raise

[NoFoolPrice]

Going to try and make a short story long. Ex and I broke up in 95, he had someone sleeping in my place as soon as we separated. Our dot was born in 91. He lived with his mommy, no job, big mental problems, the typical loser I used to go for. So, ex hubby of mine got him a good job, out of kindness, remember, the guy is a loser, I spent the last two years taking buses to school to get my AA, he is driving a brand new SUV. I have to keep a roof over our heads, he has mommy to pay the bills. I do the parent-teacher meetings and pay for school pictures, he gets an 8 X 10 framed. He refused to pay child support, I took him to court.He got pissed off right before Christmas when his child support got raised from $150 to a whopping $300! His entire family dumped her over it.Hell, he got all pissed at me cuz the boy that was living in mommy's garage has to pay $300? The job I got him pays him $17 an hour now, full time, hmm, is $300 a month unreasonable from a guy that had nothing but moms garage?

I am on the west coast and have very little family here, I have been absolutely delighted that my dot has a huge family on her dad's side. She spent most weekends with them, she had 3 grandmas and a ton of cousins and know she is just dumped, no ceremony nothing. They did'nt even call her on Christmas! She sat her with all her wrapped presents for them, and didn't even get a call. My poor girl, how bad she must hurt right now. She got up and caught the 6 am bus to school though, maybe mom hurts worse than she does right now.

[morris2b]

{{{{{NoFoolPrice & DD}}}}}}}}}}

My children never got a gift nor a call from their father either on Christmas....

[NoFoolPrice]

I'm crying my eyes out, it's so mean and I just don't get how anyone could dump a 12 year old girl? Heck, this one is going to not only leave scars on her, I will never forget it either.

[kimp67]

They should all be ashamed of theirselves!

[shelhop]

My ex sees two of his three children. Dumped my oldest daughter because his new wife doesn't like her, but the younger two (Oldest is 15, the other 2 are 14 and 13) go there every other weekend, and so forth and so on. They got all sorts of Christmas gifts. My oldest daughter got NOTHING.
It will never cease to amaze me how a parent can be that way with their own child!

[NoFoolPrice]

Hope for the best

[NoFoolPrice]

Originally posted by shelhop
My ex sees two of his three children. Dumped my oldest daughter because his new wife doesn't like her, but the younger two (Oldest is 15, the other 2 are 14 and 13) go there every other weekend, and so forth and so on. They got all sorts of Christmas gifts. My oldest daughter got NOTHING.
It will never cease to amaze me how a parent can be that way with their own child!

[NoFoolPrice]

edited because I was so angry

[schsa]

And then parents wonder why their kids don't want anything to do with them. It's disgusting that any parent would treat one child so dramatically different from another. Just ticks me off.

[MommyG3]

Originally posted by Ravenlost
She's better off without them.


I second that statement.

[momfromTN]

NEVER allow them to talk to her or have anything to do with her ever again. Even if they try to make up, don't bite. What a bunch of A**hats~!

[iluvmybaby]

:rolleyes: That makes me sick, just ignoring her like that, I think she needs to forgot about them and find another family then

[DAVESBABYDOLL]

AAHHHH~ I agree with Raven,she is better off without them. just be there for her and give her some extra lovins :)

[ttistin]

Originally posted by DAVESBABYDOLL
AAHHHH~ I agree with Raven,she is better off without them. just be there for her and give her some extra lovins :)


I agree, {{HUGS}} I am sorry that they did that too her.

[Princess4J]

GEEZ HE'S UPSET OVER $300 ??

HUBBY PAID MORE THAN THAT FOR FOR EACH
OF HIS SONS.:rolleyes: HE NEEDS TO GET A GRIPE ON
REALITY. YOUR DAUGHTER IS WORTH MORE THAN THAT !!!!

WTH IS WRONG W/ HIS FAMILY ??
THEY ARE HURTING AN INNOCENT CHILD.

((HUGZ FOR BOTH OF YOU))

[freeplease]

They're the ones that are missing out! If that's how infantile they are, your daughter is better off without them. Poor kid. How can "family" be so inconsiderate? I guess because they CAN be. Tell her there are people here that think she's wonderful, and not to take it personally. Sometimes people are just jerks.

[NoFoolPrice]

These people are crap. Her dad called me all whiney yesterday and asked that she call him. He was all sweet and not a word about how he called me a B when he thought his child support was raised. Why should she call him, he's the one that snubbed her. They totally deserted my dot and they can go to hell. I hate to do it, she has a big family there, but she doesn't neeed to associate with such hypocrites anyway.

[NoFoolPrice]

I just hate them, I hate them so bad that I am crying. Those ignorant people hurt my dot and I know she won't get over it. I think they are mean and nasty and hateful people.

[amysusi]

I'm sorry, but when a guy wants to unzip the fly, he better be prepared for a lifelong commitment. You don't get to say this kids not mine because I don't want kids right now. If he didn't want kids, he wouldv'e kept his pants on. Children are not material things that you can put away and bring out when you feel like caring for it. I think this just sends a message to your dot and all kids in the same situation that money is more important, and in addition to the child support raise, I would be suing for him to pay for counseling for all the damage he's doing to her.

[redrig]

I'm beginning to see how some children might be prone to abusing their parents...you did this to me when I was young, now you're old and need me / want to see me...HOW DOES IT FEEL JACK*SS???


hugs to {{{{NoFoolPrice}}} and {{{daughter}}}

[NoFoolPrice]

It's such a hard step to take, but I don't think my Dot will be seeing them anymore. Why should I let her be hurt? I called her Grandma today to give her a chance, she just stood up for her son, I told her she should be ashamed of herself and she hung up on me. I just can't tolerate anyone hurting my girl so I guess she has to write them off. Anyone in So Calif want to be an Auntie to an adorable 12 year old? I feel like I let her down on family, she needs aunts and uncles and cousins and they are just not there.

[Princess4J]

Originally posted by NoFoolPrice
Anyone in So Calif want to be an Auntie
to an adorable 12 year old?


ME !!!
DOES SHE WANT 2 LITTLE "COUSINS" ???

((HUGZ 4 YOU BOTH))

[momfromTN]

Originally posted by NoFoolPrice
It's such a hard step to take, but I don't think my Dot will be seeing them anymore. Why should I let her be hurt? I called her Grandma today to give her a chance, she just stood up for her son, I told her she should be ashamed of herself and she hung up on me. I just can't tolerate anyone hurting my girl so I guess she has to write them off. Anyone in So Calif want to be an Auntie to an adorable 12 year old? I feel like I let her down on family, she needs aunts and uncles and cousins and they are just not there.

I HATE the word that begins with a C and is slang for part of the female anatomy, but your Ex's mother is the EPITOME of that word! How heartless, how nasty and shameful! May she never have another moment's peace as long as she lives. And that goes for the rest of them. If that were my son, I would kick his butt to the moon!

[NoFoolPrice]

Well Princess, she would love to be an Auntie herself to those two little dolls you have! She is such a trooper, I'm very emotional and she bottles it up inside so it worrries me. I am so mad at those people and she just seems to shrug it off, although I know that's not how she feels. Sami and I cook when we are upset, we have turned out some tasty dishes lately, I know how she feels, she just doesn't believe in expressing it like I do. I know that they don't deserve her, but she doesn't know it yet.

[Kitcat]

(((((((((NOFOOL & DOT))))))))

I'm sorry hun. My hubbys parents are the same way towards my boys. Wouldn't help my with the big boys when Tylers was 5 weeks he needed emergency surgery. Stopped being there for my boys when andrew turned 6 months but they weren't really there in the first place. Thank god for my family they are a blessing.

I just wanted to let you know she has an auntie and three cousins in Sacramento. Wish we were closer...

[twinkiesmom]

What I would've said when u were on the phone w/ex mil is, 'btw - dot has your present here still wrapped up from Christmas, she picked it out for you herself, when would be a good time we could drop it over?' Make her feel like chit.

[NoFoolPrice]

Now it gets even better. Dot's dad showed up at my house last night, pulled up in his new SUV and sat honking the horn for her to come running out and kiss his arse. I have been getting some interesting phone calls from his family, messages such as "you F-ing B! How do you expect my brother to live and pay you $300 a month child support?" Turns out that his child support was not raised, the DA made a mistake and they have to pay back all the extra they have been taking from him. I must admit that it did put thoughts in my mind, such as, why is this jerk driving around in a brand new SUV and living at his mommy's while I am putting myself in credit card debt to make sure she has everything she wants or needs? Things that make you go hmmmm.....
So I Went out and told him "she is not going with you." Of course he went off and screamed and cussed me out in front of my neighbors (no problem, if we end up in court they will make good witnesses). I am holding my guns, I will not back down, they can threaten me as much as they want. If I get one more threatening call it's going to be reported to the police. How dare they do that to my Dot! I may be 100 lbs. soaking wet, but believe me, they don't want to tangle with me over my baby girl. He told me on the phone, "well, Dot came to me and told me she wants to live with me. That's when I got her involved, I called her in and held the phone out and asked her if it was true, and she told him and me, "no, I did not say that."
My Aunt came to me and asked if I wanted to live with my dad and I told her no. Pissed him off even more, and he wanted to talk to her. I did not let him.
I would be laughing at them and their arrogance and stupidity if my
Dot wasn't hurt so badly, but she is and I feel her pain. Nevertheless, I hold the cards here and I will not allow this trash to abuse my Dot. They can get their trashy friends to follow me around and kick my arse, I am not scared, I'll recover and they will go to jail. These idiots don't seem to realize that I am her mom and I would gladly die for her, they are not going to push us around.
I feel so bad for her, but the bottom line is that I am going to be a reasonable adult and will go to any lengths to protect my Dot, if they don't like it they can take my arse to court and see how far they get. I'm too nice, I have always been such a people pleaser and it has hurt me, I will not be nice when it comes to protecting my Dot from pain, they just don't get it and think I am a pushover - maybe I am, but not when it comes to Dot!

[socks1211]

{{{{{{{{{hugs}}}}}}}}}}}



my cousin who does pay child support for his dot does not see her at all her mother is a beiotch and wont let him see her at all


but on the brighter side he also has 2 adorable little girls from another woman who treats him good so he made out in the end

[NoFoolPrice]

Originally posted by socks1211
[Bbut on the brighter side he also has 2 adorable little girls from another woman who treats him good so he made out in the end [/B]

That is great, he did get the prize after all! What these idiots need to realize is that my Dot is a prize, she is a very smart and exceptional young lady and they are lucky to even have called her a member of their family. She is so far above them that I'm surprised she can see that far down her nose to even recognize them. It's going to take a lot of love, but I will make sure that she knows that anyone that doesn't treat her like a precious jewel is not worth her time or her love and she is far above any low life trash that deems it acceptable to treat her as an object that can be picked up when desired and then thrown away when they get a little pissed.