Why cant she just leave us ALONE?!?!!??!?

[tiggerzme2]

My youngest son has been serving in Iraq since March. He was engaged to be married August 16th but since he was where he was the wedding didnt happen and his fiance broke everything off in September. They had been together for 3 years and all of that time I had to put up with the fiances mother. She thought she knew everything about everything and nobody eles knows anything. She was always calling me telling me what I should do with my time, when I should clean my house, where I should go, when and how I should grieve when I lost me Dad and the list goes on and on. She tried to advise my son on his military career even though she didnt know squat about it! She even told him what college classes he should be taking even though they had nothing to do with his chosen profession! She wanted him to become a school teacher and he wants to be a game warden when his time in the military is up. He is a military police officer now and all of his college classes he has taken pertains to that. Anyways since the fiance called off the wedding the mom has done nothing but bother my husband and I! She is constantly calling us, following us around, calling our family members and friends, showing up at hubbys work and the list goes on. We have talked to the police twice and even told her that they could charge her with phone harrassment, stalking, tresspassing and I dont know what all. Do you think that stopped her? NO! Her husband is a lawyer and there fore she can do as she pleases or so she thinks! On Thanksgiving eve she called the house, tried to disguise her voice when I said hello and asked for hubby! I told her that I knew it was her and would really appreciate if she didnt call again and hung up. Within seconds the phone was ringing again but I just let the machine pick it up and yep it was her!!! She got pretty nasty, told me I had no reason to treat her like that and that I should be ashamed of myself and that I needed to apologize and I dont know what all else. As soon as she had finished her little spuell I called the police for the 3rd time! They came out went thru the whole deal with the 3rd police officer and let him listen to the tape. He called her and told her this was her 3rd and finally warning next time she would be cited! She denied ever calling! Said she hadnt called in several months! The police officer basically called her a liar and said he had listened to the tape :) When he hung up with her he said that lady has some serious problems! Like I didnt already know that!!! She has called and told my oldest son that his brother is the son she never had. Oldest son just said and never will have and hung up on her! She just doesnt get the clue that we dont want anything to do with her...none of us including the youngest! She just cant let go and Im just tired of the BS she has put us thru! I know she will call again or stop by again even though she has been told for the 3rd time not to!! I just cant handle this lady and wish she would get a life of her own and stay out of mine!

[zitra]

DO you have a restraining order on her? If you don't I would seriously consider getting one..she doesn't sound like she is playing with a full bag of marbles...That wya if she violates it YOU CAN HAVE HER ARRESTED!! See what her "lawyer hubby" can do with that LOL!

[iowakat]

I don't have any suggestions but aren't you glad your son didn't marry that wacko's daughter?!

[Dizzyontheweb]

Go to the courthouse and get an order of protection against her. My bro just had a similar prob with an ex gf. (unfortuntely, the stupid idiot we just found out, had the order cancelled and has went back to her ARRRGH). If she violates it, call the police. You need to keep a record of any calls, or any activity she does towards you and your family. They want times, exact words and actions, etc.
good luck

[twinkiesmom]

yeah, no kidding. Be very happy your son doesn't hafta have her as a MIL.

[cinnamonch]

have you or any of your family spoken to the husband or the ex fiance about this woman's behavior? Maybe they arent aware of what she is doing and the way to nip it in the bud would be to let them know.

Get a copy of the police reports and save the tapes. Tell your family to do the same. That way you have proof for them.

[ezmoney163]

This sounds like a psycho. You poor woman. I hope all works out with you and that her DD finds her someone elses family to terorize soon. (((HUGS)))

[JENNIFERCATLADY]

What's to stop this woman from showing up with a knife or a gun? For your safety AND the safety of your family get a restraining order against her. She has shown NO respect for you & your family, NO respect for the law. Document EVERYTHING!!!!

[AngelGrim]

Do something about taking percautions against this woman, she sounds devious and sneaky and who knows what she will do next, I know sometimes when a couple will break up the family will be friends but if your son wants nothing to do with them and you don't why doesn't she take a HINT AND GO AWAY!!Good luck and keep us informed of how this turns out((((((((hugs)))))))))

[schsa]

Does her husband know that she is doing this? Maybe you need to call and talk to him and tell him that you are going to have a restraining order and you will have her jailed for harassment and stalking if she continues. Obviously she has problems but she may be hiding them from her husband and I am sure that he would be publicly embarassed if this appeared in the local paper.

Call him and let him know that this has to stop or there will be charges brought against her. And do let him know that the police are very aware of her actions.

[Judy]

I think everyone has givin' you the best advice. A restraining order is needed right away.
If you don't mind my asking, why did your son and this girl break it off?
He certainly must be glad thats over and done with.


Judy

[Quaker_Parrots]

I would wonder why she wanted to talk to your hubby. (ie... what is her agenda) You could always block her number, and definately get a restraining order against her, she needs to be stopped before she goes too far

[tiggerzme2]

Thanks everyone for you concerns and thoughts.
lets see if I can awnser some of these questions:
1) Why did they break up? Well since my son is in Iraq she just decided that she could no longer wait for him. She has been dating someone else for sometime. Did she tell him? No she wanted his brother to tell him!
2) The second police officer(which was our cheif of police) talked to her husband about it and all he said was he couldnt control her. Not only does she have a hubby for a lawyer but she also has tons of money...if hubby cant do it for her geuss she figures she can just buy her way out.
3) We tryed to get a restraining order but were told that since she hasnt really threatened us or done anything harmful that they cant issue one at this time. That didnt make much sense to me but thats what they said!
4) The reason why she wanted to talk to hubby is because she knows that I will just hang up on her. While the kids were still together hubby would put up with her calls for the kids sakes...he hated it though and he is the first one that called the police when she showed up at his work and told his boss it was a family emergency! The boss knew that we still had one son in Iraq so he thought something had happened and let her in. Otherwise she would have been arrested on the spot for tresspassing as the mill is a very dangerous place and is posted all over that non employees will be arrested and charged with tresspassing! The night she showed up at hubbys work was actually his night off and he had gotten called in because of somebody being sick...makes you wonder how she knew thats where he was!
5) The daughter is full aware that her mom is doing this. But there is nothing she can do to stop her. She did things like this the 3 years the kids were together and the daughter couldnt make her stop!

When the kids first got together it was kinda an on again off again thing. They were juniors in high school. When they werent together the mom still showed up at all of my sons sport events banquests ect. And we never told her when they would be she just showed up! All of sons friends used to kid him about mom loving him more than her daughter did. It just seemed like she was obsessed with our son and would do just about anything to get her daughter to marry him!!

I think the lady needs help... But if she does show up here or call again you can bet I will be calling the police once again!

[Judy]

That woman is one sick beatch!
Lawyer,her money, whatever, there has to be something YOU can do. Thats pure harassment!
Thats stalking! And thats against the law. At least where I come from it is.
What EXACTLY does this sicko want anyway?
I think your son is so very lucky to be away from that crew!
Her husband is no better than she is if he lets her get away with this. He is a sicko too! Their ALL sicko's! I would be afraid of them. This sounds like a HORROR movie. As a matter of fact you could write a script for this and maybe sell it to Hollywood. All kiddin' aside though, find out YOUR rights. This has gone on way to long.

[nosamiam]

Wow that lady is a piece of work.

[hotwheelstx]

Since she's not really "threatening" you (I think she is...just her being around or calling)....I would try getting her for harassment or stalking

She is irritating, tormenting, obsessed w/your son. I have had a couple of restraining orders for harassment. Mine involved unwanted telephone calls, showing up at my door, calling at work, sending mail.

If it's not abided by she can then be arrested...I've had that happen as well.

If your son and this young woman aren't together there's no reason this woman should be harassing you. If her daughter is dating someone else I would think she'd be a interested in him....what if her daughter marries him?

Long story but....Before Aggie, marriage...I met a guy that wanted to go out w/me. I said no. He'd send flowers, cards, deliveries, show up at work...do whatever he could just to be around me.....I took out an order of protection....harassement/stalking. Worked...he did it one more time and was arrested. Paid a hefty fine, jail time...never saw him again.

Good luck.........

[DAVESBABYDOLL]

Be very thankful your son didn't marry her...can you say MOTHER IN LAW FROM H*LL? She sound like a real winner :rolleyes:


Hope she stops the nonsense soon.

[zitra]

Originally posted by tiggerzme2
Thanks everyone for you concerns and thoughts.
lets see if I can awnser some of these questions:
1) Why did they break up? Well since my son is in Iraq she just decided that she could no longer wait for him. She has been dating someone else for sometime. Did she tell him? No she wanted his brother to tell him!
2) The second police officer(which was our cheif of police) talked to her husband about it and all he said was he couldnt control her. Not only does she have a hubby for a lawyer but she also has tons of money...if hubby cant do it for her geuss she figures she can just buy her way out.
3) We tryed to get a restraining order but were told that since she hasnt really threatened us or done anything harmful that they cant issue one at this time. That didnt make much sense to me but thats what they said!
4) The reason why she wanted to talk to hubby is because she knows that I will just hang up on her. While the kids were still together hubby would put up with her calls for the kids sakes...he hated it though and he is the first one that called the police when she showed up at his work and told his boss it was a family emergency! The boss knew that we still had one son in Iraq so he thought something had happened and let her in. Otherwise she would have been arrested on the spot for tresspassing as the mill is a very dangerous place and is posted all over that non employees will be arrested and charged with tresspassing! The night she showed up at hubbys work was actually his night off and he had gotten called in because of somebody being sick...makes you wonder how she knew thats where he was!
5) The daughter is full aware that her mom is doing this. But there is nothing she can do to stop her. She did things like this the 3 years the kids were together and the daughter couldnt make her stop!

When the kids first got together it was kinda an on again off again thing. They were juniors in high school. When they werent together the mom still showed up at all of my sons sport events banquests ect. And we never told her when they would be she just showed up! All of sons friends used to kid him about mom loving him more than her daughter did. It just seemed like she was obsessed with our son and would do just about anything to get her daughter to marry him!!

I think the lady needs help... But if she does show up here or call again you can bet I will be calling the police once again!

That's stalking, adn almost makes me think MAYBE SHE does *like* your son, but not in the way you think! I would bother the police/courts/judges until they give you that order of protection/restraining order (not sure if they are the same thing)...Also tell them she is staling your family..if she shows up, and you don't know why or where she found out that you/your son would be there it is possible she is watching your house..maybe parked dow nthe road or something?

[schsa]

Block her number on your phone or call and have your number changed and unlisted. If you have caller ID and she calls, don't answer. Pick up the phone if you have to and she can get a busy signal. Do whatever you have to do not to speak to her at all.

If she comes to the door, don't answer. If she refuses to leave, call the police and have them escort her off your property.

Don't talk to her and don't deal with her. She is stalking. Document what she does so when you do get a lawyer you have enough evidence to prove stalking and harrassment.

She's obviously mentally ill and she needs help but it appears that her husband chooses to take her money but not acknowledge her illness.