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intimidator329
11-28-2003, 11:39 AM
thanks for all the replys and PMs.
~Jonette5- Hope you get your disability. I'm suppose to meet with my lawyer Jan 12 but I'm having the epidurl that day. Still don't have a court date yet.
~Everyone else {{{BIG BIG HUGS}}}}

I'm having problems with my whole left side and my right side is really bothering me and I'm not handling it well right now. My hands are really cramping and my back has been really killing me so I just took a few days and laid in bed. but Hubby and I did go to my in-laws yesterday to get out of this looney bin for a few hours.

But as usual not without controversy.
My mom got mad because we went there instead of eating here. She told me last week she wasn't having thanksgiving so I made arrangements with my bil for all of us to meet in Leitchfield and have thanksgiving there. My brother wasn't coming cuz the Queen B was just too tired so it left my mom's brother and my other brother. Tweedle dumb and tweedle dumber. So instead, My brother brought the girls over last night cuz mom told them I wasn't going to be here. She knew we were going to be back by 6.
She told my brother to be here by 7.
Since I'm not allowed to see the girls, she was torturing me by having them here when I was.
My 3rd niece will be 2 months next monday and I haven't seen her ecept in her hospital pic.
The Queen B made it known the whole time that she was here. She was holloring and laughing as loud as she could. She kept bring Little bits (emma) to the bottom of the steps and telling her to go knock on my door and tell me to come out. I wouldn't. I knew they were going to gang up on me. They wanted to trash me and make me apologize for me saying horrible things about the Queen B.
Hubby and I just ignored them and tried to watch the x-men 2 which is hard cuz my sil's mouth is so big people in australia could hear her.

as for the email, she used my brother's email addy cus she knew I would open it since it was from "him". She got my email for someone who forwards emails to me and my brother. I blocked J's email which is fine since I never emailed him anyway especially because of her.
I didn't know she had a computer until I asked my dad if they got theirs fixed.
Their basement has a constant leak since the house was built on a spring (she got money to have it fixed when she bought the house but she spent it on decorating instead)
any way, my brother brought the computer back upstairs since the leak was bad because of all the rain we've been having lately.
He was also working on some shelves and didn't want dust all over the tower and monitor.
The stupid B got made cuz he put it on the kitchen table and so took the computer and put it over in the corner where the leak is on top of some boxes. The box collapsed because it was wet and the tower fell inside. The water got in the computer and damaged the motherboard. my dad was running around trying to find another motherboard but apparently it's been discontinued so he gave them my old computer that I had in the sun room. I'm not using it now because I don't have room up here but I used it at the old house as a backup or to do other things while I was online with this computer.
The Queen B was whining the whole time about how that computer is slow and nothing works. She acted like she was crying and saying she couldn't email anybody and send them pics of the girls or email her friends since she's so lonely.
She was trying her best to talk my parents into buying her another one. They'll do it too. and they'll let her keep mine.

She even talked my mom into asking people she works with into buying clothes for the girls since her and my brother are soo poor and they can't give the girls a christmas this year. It's so pathetic. She has my parents wrapped around her finger so tight, I'm surprised it hasn't fallin off due to lack of circulation.

And as for the "paper" that has all my info about my food stamps and soc sec, it's all fake. I can't believe my parents fell for it last night. You could her my dad yelling because I'm getting all this money and i'm not helping them out buy paying rent.
The soc sec # she claims is mine is wrong on both sheets. My birthdate on it is wrong. It said 1927, I was born in 1972. My name wasn't spelled right.
The food stamp sheet didn't look anything like the one I get from the social services.
(my parents left it in plain view last night so I snucked a peek)
:eek:
Do they honestly think if I was getting that money I be here?
:confused:
I can't do anything as a restaining order. My parents are terrifed of her too. They're so afraid that If they do ONE thing wrong, they'll never see the girls either. If she did it to me, she can do it to them too.
Right now my parents are doing everything in their power to get me on some pills like theirs. They think if they keep me doped up, they can control me and it'll make hubby leave me.
You would think (getting of subject a bit) that they would clean the house up for the holidays right? normal person would (***smacks head***right, they're not normal) anyway, when I walked through the door after we got back from in-laws, my dad was taking all the junk they had all over the family room and throwing it into the laundyroom/bathroom. Newspapers about two weeks worth, clothes, shoes, dishes, You can't get in there now. They threw the rest in the living room and dining room. It's such a mess. I heard my mom tell the Queen B that they're so stress out because of my sitation, they can't clean the house right now.

My mom has been drilling me non stop about my drs visits. Why did I get injections, what were they, how long will I need them, when do I get them again, when do I get the epidural, blah, blah, blah,
I again told her I don't know anything. Iwas in too much pain to remember. Then she wanted to know I my lawyer was taking anymore cases. I said he won't take new cases unless he know for sure he has a chance with them. You could tell she didn't believe me.
Either that or she took one too many of her pills.
She did that the other night. She asked me if she took her pills. I said I didn't know (how was I suppose to know) so she took them again.
I had to pick two of them off the floor before Tigger got them. One was a cholestrol pill, she laugh and said Tigger wouldn't have high cholestrol if she ate it and the other was her "I don't care about anything" pill. She about broke her neck trying to get it and put it back in her mouth. I wish I had my video camera going.

I'm not going to buy anybody anything this year. I can't afford it. Hubby ex is threating us every week about her $25 child support for a kid whose 16 and she refuses us to see. We can't afford to get my meds yets. It'll be over $100 since I'm on some new ones. I wish I had money. I refuse to be like the queen B and whine and force everyone to give it to me by threating them with the girls.

I know I shouldn't let the Queen b bother me but she's got my own family choosing her over me and basically turned everyone against me.
I didn't do anything wrong except get too close to my two nieces that know me. My brother has been in jail once, my other brother has been in mental rehab several time, constanlty threats suicide, neither went to college, neither had a job until they were about 22, have had about 10 jobs between them and 5 cars and the only thing I did was get a job at 17, got a car at 18 with money from the first job, went to college until the money ran out then got another job, bought a truck, and tried to live my life honestly. Guess that's not how it's suppose to be done around here. Oh well, gets thats enought about my turkey day, hope everyone elses was great.

ttistin
11-28-2003, 12:03 PM
{{{Hugs}}} I am glad you got out for thanksgiving at least. Dont worry about the "b" or anyone else, they dont know what you are going through or how you are feeling. They are lucky they arent going through all the stuff you are.

Keep your head up, you are in my thoughts and prayers. I hope you get some money soon so you can get out of there.

AngelGrim
11-28-2003, 02:40 PM
shew, at least I can stop freaking out and wondering if your still ok, hope it gets better, take care.

darmeme
11-28-2003, 05:45 PM
((((hugs))))
and a ?

does your brother not do anything about her? j/w
i will be thingking about you!!
bev

btw- this is ladybugbhb i can not post on my name, so i am using my mom's until it is fixed

JENNIFERCATLADY
11-28-2003, 07:34 PM
Glad to see that you're back. As for your Thanksgiving, I am so sorry that you have to deal with all of that. Is there anyway at all that you & hubby can get out of that enviroment?

laughsalot
11-28-2003, 10:27 PM
I am so glad you posted. I am sorry that things arent getting better. Hugs to you and you will remain in my thoughts and prayers.

Hi_Ya!
11-29-2003, 12:36 AM
Is there anyway you could move in with your Husband's Parents?
I wish only the best for you, you deserve it!!! :)

jonette5
11-29-2003, 08:32 AM
Sweetie all I can offer is BIG BIG (((((((HUGS)))))))!

feris
11-30-2003, 02:38 PM
I can tell you are very upset. Did you show your parents the email? Did you point out that the information that your sil had about your disability payments was so obviously incorrect with the wrong social and birthdate?

I haven't been in a situation exactly like yours, but when my dh and I were first married my mom talked us into living near them. We quit our jobs and moved 1000 miles to live near them and believed them when they said they had jobs lined up for us and that they would help us get on our feet. Well, they lied. The emotional abuse they put us through was horrific. We were constantly told we were lazy, worthless, inferior, etc. Our opinions and beliefs counted for nothing. Both my dh and I felt like worthless trash and for a long time we couldn't see our way out of a situation that was rapidly going from bad to worse. Thankfully we didn't live with them, just in the same small town. But the abuse was very real. Finally, after two years we just got up the courage to move. My dh called his old boss and got his job back. We made a flying trip home and found a place to live. My inlaws paid for the moving truck because we spent all of our money on our new lease. It was scary and painful, but we did it and have never looked back.

The point of my story is that you need to move. Don't wait for your disablitly to kick in. A hovel in the worst part of town will be better than putting up with all of the emotional crap you have been putting up with. Life it too short to be miserably. I know you don't think you can change your situation, but you can.

schsa
11-30-2003, 03:09 PM
{{{{HUGS}}}}

amysusi
12-08-2003, 09:33 AM
Originally posted by feris
I Did you point out that the information that your sil had about your disability payments was so obviously incorrect with the wrong social and birthdate?



I would think your mom would know what year you were born, or at least notice the 45 year difference.

I'm having images flash through my head. You know that commercial where the guy shaves the other guy's eyebrow, and then posts pics of it all over at a party? I'm seeing that email that the B sent all over...

And imagine her opening presents on Christmas day, and getting a BIG list of therapists, with maybe an appointment card or two. :eek:

Sorry, I'm feeling a bit evil at the moment.;)